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Tuesday Aug 25, 2020
Chatting with Leisse Wilcox; Transformational Mindset & Success Coach, & Author
Tuesday Aug 25, 2020
Tuesday Aug 25, 2020
Today I chat with Leisse Wilcox. Leisse is a transformational mindset + success coach who helps high-potential women courageously become the vision of themselves they can’t stop dreaming about. A passionate speaker, dynamic thought leader, author, NLP practitioner, top podcast host, cancer survivor, mom of three, and taco enthusiast, her entire experience has been about coming home to her truest self and to call herself “beloved,” knowing intimately that changing the world starts by making the changes we want to see within ourselves, first.
Key points addressed were
- Leisse’s podcast titled “To Call Myself Beloved” and how it explores and speaks to some of Leisse’s core tenants she has based her Coaching, advising, and speakership career out of
- We also explored her book which was launched hours ago titled “To call myself beloved: A Story of Hope, Healing, and Coming Home” and how it not only unpacks what Leisse terms difficult conversations but also provides action items and real life utility for solving unhealthy and unhappy aspects of life.
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I speak with transformational mindset and success coach and author Leisse Wilcox. Key Points addressed where Leisse's podcast titled To Call Myself Beloved and how it explores and speaks to some of Leisse's core tenants as she has based her coaching, advising, and speakership career roles out of. We also explored her book, which was launched hours ago, titled To Call Myself Beloved. A Story of Hope, Healing and Coming Home and how it not only unpacks what Leisse's term terms as difficult conversations, but also provides action items and real life utility for solving unhealthy and unhappy aspects of one's life. Stay tuned for my fascinating talk with Leisse Wilcox.
[00:00:48] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .COM. You can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:45] Hi, everyone. Welcome back. I am your host, Patricia. And today I elated to be sitting down with Leisse Wilcox. Leisse is a transformational mindset and success coach. And a recent author, you can find out more about all of her services, as well as her book on her website. LeisseWillcocks dot com. That is leissewilcox.com. Welcome, Leisse.
[00:02:09] What a pleasure to be here. Thank you.
[00:02:11] Absolutely. I'm so excited to climb through. I'm elated for everyone listening. Leisse's book just dropped today and I can I'm just cannot get enough of it.
[00:02:21] I can't tell you how excited I am to be this kind of baptismal moment of one of her first few podcasts to kind of climb through all of it. And I will do just that with you before I get to asking her questions. I will tell everyone who might be new to the podcast. I will read a quick bio on this. But before I do that, let me give you a quick roadmap for today's podcast, inquiry and line of trajectory in which that will follow. We'll first look at unpacking Leisse's story. So I'll ask her about her academic, professional and personal history. It pretends particularly close to her career at this point. And then we'll look at unpacking Leisse's career right now. We'll look at her coaching. I want to get into her podcast and then also, of course, her most recent book titled To Call Myself Beloved A Story of Hope, Healing and Coming Home. Her podcast, also under the same vein, is titled To Call Myself Beloved. And we will call kind of climate, too. We'll get first to all the logistics of those endeavors. So the who, what, when, where, why? And then we'll climb into some of the more specifics about the ethos and the philosophy. So we'll cover both aspects of that spectrum. And then we'll turn to as all of the podcast in this particular series, we'll turn to unpacking goals that list has for the next one to three years for herself. And we'll wrap everything up with advice that she has for those of you who are looking to kind of garner some of her wisdom and perhaps emulate some of her career success. So before I question her, I start peppering her with questions, rather a quick bio. As promised, onlies Leisse Wilcox is a transformational mindset and success coach who helps high potential women courageously become the vision of themselves. They can't stop dreaming about a passionate speaker, dynamic thought leader, author and LP practitioner, top podcast host, cancer survivor, mom of three and taco enthusiast. Her entire experience has been about coming home to her true self and to call herself beloved, knowing intimately that changing the world starts by making the changes we want to see within ourselves.
[00:04:26] First, an expert featured on Simple Habit and an entrepreneurial advisor with Startup Canada. Leisse's intention is to guide people to come home to themselves, giving them permission to live authentically. Leisse's first book, To Call Myself Beloved, is available now, and you can watch her on season two of Amazon Prime's The Social Movement. So please, I can't wait to unpack everything. As I said, I am become positively giddy with new authors and particularly like I don't think I've ever had a guest on launch that day and I'm into your book.
[00:04:59] But before we get to all of that, I was hoping you can draw us a narrative however you see fit of your personal background. You know, briefly how your childhood spilled into adulthood, leading to you, to the endeavors that we will speak about today.
[00:05:14] Absolutely. That was an amazing intro, and I got to tell you, I was sweating a little because I was like, well, we are going to get very real here.
[00:05:20] And also, how much time do I have?
[00:05:22] This is like a major, major suitcase or series of suitcases that we're going to unpack. You know, my story that has informed that has informed my present. Absolutely. Without dictating my future. If I had a I had a really difficult childhood, as so many of us do. My mom left very, very early on and for a while it was just my dad and I. Which was amazing. And a few years later, he reconnected with somebody like our high school sweetheart and they kind of partnered up together and it felt like my dad died and it was like Cinderella story kind of living out in my real life with this new stepmother there who openly did not want me in her life. They had two more kids together. I was such an inconvenience to her life and her lifestyle that I really felt like I had to minimize my entire existence. And that might not sound like a big deal if I wasn't physically abused. And I was like, OK, right. I also wasn't loved. And she shut everybody out of our lives who did love me. So she created this weird dynamic, which is classic and narcissistic abuse that she isolated me. So I had nobody else to turn to for any help. And she the way that the environment she created, I suppose, was one that made me question my own sanity. And so it was just this really, really uncomfortable place where I learned that I wasn't a person of value and if I wanted to get the love I so desperately needed. We also desperately need, especially as kids. I was gonna have to radically change my personality. And so I learned how to put on all these masks and learn how to please other people. And as I say, like minimize my own existence and stop listening to my own intuition and only listen to what I thought other people would expect from me. Well, guess what? That's not a great way to live your life. It was survival mode for sure. And what that survival mode taught me as I grew up was that that's how we find love. We develop these patterns of attachment that when I would meet somebody who is like, OK, here's a person for whom I have to fight for their love. I have to prove myself. I have to be who I am not. Oh, this is familiar.
[00:07:31] This is what a healthy relationship dynamic looks like.
[00:07:33] So, you know, fast forward a few years. I got into a marriage and that just absolutely was so included by his family. And I absolutely felt like I was home for the first time. But the marriage itself, even through beautiful vacations and three wonderful children together and this picture perfect dream life, we had created you so lonely, it was so lonely inside. And one day I had this genuine wake up moment of, you know, we're our seven bedroom house. We're in this beautiful, tiny little town with beltless property, wonderful family around us. And I remember lying on the floor of my little girls, looking at my good looking husband in the kitchen and making coffee at our, like, Karara career, a marble bar. And I had this sinking feeling of like. If this isn't enough for me, what the hell is wrong with me? I had this moment of intuition. Hi yourself. God universe what everyone is. I heard this little voice and that little guiding voice was saying, none of this is enough for you because you are not enough for you. And in that moment, it really did feel like I woke up and I knew at that point that I had some painful decisions to make and some painful conversations to have. And ultimately, I ended the marriage right. I called time of death on the merits of this kind of already dead and started Life 2.0 in a brand new direction.
[00:09:11] That's amazing. I mean, I can't recall.
[00:09:14] You know, I've heard a lot of particularly for this series over the past three years, I've spoken to a lot of women and women, identified individuals, non binary individuals included in that. And I none of them have come to their point.
[00:09:27] And perhaps it's just not spoken about as much because it feels almost privileged. But this idea that, you know, you come to this ultimate success, you know, you had the money, the family, the the mate, all of it. And to realize at that point to be brave enough to call, to just say it's not it's not working on me is kind of amazing. I'm wondering first steps when you headed down because your book is about, you know, the lessons from this journey. Right. As you said yourself, the difficult conversations and this began, it sounds like this is the one of the first difficult conversations you posture to yourself in order to come to all of these realizations. And I'm wondering, did you first have a mentor? Where was the first place you looked to guide yourself? Because your book is about guidance and helping other people have these conversations. Who guided you?
[00:10:24] Google, which is why I wrote the book.
[00:10:31] You know, in fairness, I had like a new friendship at the time with a woman who was very spiritual and kind of one of those other worldly people. I mean, you live in California.
[00:10:41] Maybe you just grew up with these people. I didn't grow up with these people. And I bear in my life now, like, I totally get it now.
[00:10:46] But at the time, she was the first person who really started talking to me about there being another way or about, you know, increasing my faith in the process and trusting what was unfolding. And she's like the first person to ever use those words with me. And I remember I I had a lot of conversations with her which helped me feel like I wasn't crazy.
[00:11:05] I have an incredible art. I have an incredible extended family. But I have one aunt who is such a rock. And when I got through all the Google searches, like, what will happen if I stay? What'll happen if I go? How do I know it's time for divorce?
[00:11:17] Like, what is marriage supposed to feel like and other assorted Google phrases?
[00:11:22] You know, I phoned my aunt and I was like, I think I know what I have to do and I need to know if you will support me in this. And I don't know why I chose to have that conversation with her. I don't know why that was important for me to do. But, oh, man, am I ever glad that I did. Because it it kind of it kind of forged a contract. To be honest. So it kind of forged this emotional contract that I knew I had her support as my person to go and talk to. What's interesting is that, you know, you mentioned that this is the pain that we don't talk about because it sounds privileged and absolutely like you're familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs. When you have your physiological needs met, you have your physical needs met, your needs for safety and security. You have all those needs met. You're still having a human experience. And this is what's so fascinating to me is that pain is relative. So absolutely, you can call it a privilege because there is a lot of privilege in there. But we're still having a human experience and that human experience is rooted in our emotional health and our feelings. And I work with so many women who are like overachievers. Right. We're all high achievers. And we've learned through our lives that you do achieve, do achieve, do achieve. And if you want to achieve more than you do more. And suddenly so many women get to this point where they're like. Oh, I did everything right. I climbed all the right ladders and made all the right moves and made all the right connections. I have this list in front of me of all the things I was supposed to do and I checked us. So how can I feel like shit? And then that's wrapped in shame because you're like, well, I obviously can't talk about this because who am I to complain? Like, look at my life. And what we're not looking at is like, Sure. Look at the outside of my legs. Look at the outset of my world. But what does my inner world look like? And for me, it was like overriding that shame or feeling the shame and healing through it to allow myself permission to be like, listen, you do have a loving and supportive in-law family. You do have you know what? At that time, felt like a really huge group of friends and support. And you're not happy. And you've been to therapy and you read the books and not the podcast. The time that, you know, you you've taken all the steps to heal this. And, you know, I remember having a notebook full of things that we had tried to like, quote unquote, make marriage work. And Amber, getting to the final page in the notebook and being like, oh, shit, I know what has to happen. And what has to happen is that either he has to radically change his personality or I have to radically change mine.
[00:13:57] And like I had this visceral reaction as somebody who had had to change her entire personality for the first 30 years of her life.
[00:14:05] I was like, you know what? I think I'm done. I think I'm going to have this really, really painful conversation and make a decision that is, for the first time in my life, rooted in what honors my needs. And I'm going to act in a way that is actually advocating for who I am and what I need. And that was the beginning of this. Like, I get shivers still talking about it. It was the beginning of this, like, wild trajectory of tapping into more of that. Because no matter how difficult that was, once you rang the bell. You can't hear it. Right. And as a result, my piece is the most valuable thing I own. And I paid dearly for it. And I still wouldn't change that for the world.
[00:14:53] No, it's life shattering. And I think anyone who hasn't felt it are the only population that wouldn't get that. He who has gone through a life, regardless of, you know, judgment from the outside, which I like to abstain from altogether, but to to come out in adulthood to a sense of self knowing and peace and compassion wrapped within that for the self, you know, a lot of times in this world, particularly covered pandemic talk. People get into compassion, which I love. I want to help spread the word. But it begins with compassion for the self, you know, and a self awareness that, like you said, you know, once you've tapped into it, it leads onto more of that. And that actually feeds your society more than anything I think ever would. But it's so it's so powerful to hear you talk about that. I do want to start climbing to you. So I first want to look at the podcast because the book launched just today. And I want to kind of unpack the book after we've talked a little bit about the podcast. And I want to start off with some of the nuts and bolts of it. So when was it launched? I have down I saw the last up with the first episode is last August. I'm not sure if that's accurate. So if it was launched a year ago, what the impetus was for it. Did you take any funding or capital? How did you get going with it? Did you have a guest host? Did you have an idea as to how many you were going to release? How did you know about any or end or all of it? Or did it just all come to fruition naturally?
[00:16:18] You are not going to like the answer I'm going to give you because I Googled it once again and I Googled it, though very honestly.
[00:16:24] I remember August sounds about right, but I can't quite remember. I there's somebody who's, you know, used to be actively in my life is now kind of on the periphery of my life. But I have a lot of respect for her. And there've been so many moments in my life where she's such a boss and she's just kind of popped in and be like, oh, you should start a blog. And I'm like, OK, so I write a blog. And then she'll be like, you know, people aren't reading long form content anymore. Usually start an Instagram account. So I like durin Instagram into a microblog. And she popped up one day. She's like, you need a podcast like you, you need a podcast, period. And I was like, I don't want I don't want to do this. I don't have a podcast. What would that be like? And fast forward a little bit, which we can unpack this, too, because it's the third major cataclysmic event of my life, which is also the third in the book. I got a breast cancer diagnosis at age 36 and I had like a week before my 37 birthday or something like that. And it was during chemotherapy that I a decided, well, I have some time.
[00:17:28] And now I guess I can to write a book proposal up. I'm wondering how I'm going to fit that into my schedule.
[00:17:34] And I also use that that time, four months of chemo to research. I literally did. Google had. Casts. I just like went through a checklist and I follow that I ordered a podcast kit from Amazon. People are always shocked to hear this, but I read in a podcast kit, you know, I ended up meeting somebody locally who's a musician, really talented. And I was like, oh.
[00:17:56] You literally sound like John Mayer when you play guitar. Would you would you write a song for me? Europium song for me.
[00:18:03] And he does on my audio. And I chose to do a solo show because the effects of the work we're talking about, I have a in a former life, I have a background in Montessori education. I am naturally an educator. So for me, you can see that went from the classroom to a parenting column to a blog, to Instagram, to a podcast, to a blog. And the podcast effectively is my blog. So I don't have a co-host. It's just me. It's a solo show. I've had one guest on to one episode when I did like Life Coaching Session. But otherwise it's me because I feel like I have a pretty unique standpoint on emotional health and how to genuinely feel your feelings and how feeling your feelings at their core is what changes the manifestations of all the shit you don't want in your life. You know, we experience something. I really. Oh, can you believe this happen? And I was like, yes, let's trace that back to what is actually happening internally. Heal that and then blammo that so naturally starts to disappear.
[00:19:08] So basically, I'm so arrogant that I'm like, what I have to say is so interesting. I'm just going to deliver this product. In fact, it was a hard fought for.
[00:19:18] I don't think it's arrogance when you've gone through the kind of battles that you fought for. Those are badges, you know. And to think that other people wouldn't glean information from them, I think is largely what's wrong with women across the world. And there's nothing wrong with women across the world. Let me clarify and quantify that's put on my tombstone. What I mean is there are a lot of unification factors that I find with oppressed populations. And when I look at women, I've been studying women, female identified, non binary individuals for the better part of 20 years. And throughout feminist lenses and all different kinds. And the truth is, is that one of the narratives in the threads that is in common with all of us is that even those of us that become successful not speak about those stories, they're not important enough and they're not applicable enough. And so I think to fly in the face of that is so very, very important. But there's still even a small dialog with you. You know, as a joke saying, you know, and I'm arrogant enough, like, no, it should be an end. Women need we need to hear each other's stories. You know, the whole point of this particular podcast for any of you that haven't listened is everyone who says there's two people in this world, ones that say, oh, my God, they're so fantastic. I can't believe you're doing that. And then the others say, what is it for? What are you doing? And it's just the difference of people that understand women. Women identified Banan by individuals. We need to hear each other's stories. It's been completely isolated and cut out of rhetoric from marketing to cinema for so long. We don't understand how deprived our own personal narrative is, not gleaning the stories of any other people like us. And so I love that you've done that. And I. I mean, it sounds so stressful for me. And I love the idea that you've described it as arrogant because the concept of taking your own podcast, which is I love your narrative because it is this I'm the most recent one for anyone who hasn't. Listen, jump on really quickly because she narrates one of the chapters in her books that we'll talk about. But it's you have these moments you have to really design and then get into these specific you've got lessons that you're delivering, you know, and you're coming out with these and they're all between 20 and 40 minutes. And that's a lot of work. It's a lot of dialog. It's a lot of choreography, especially when you need it to be fluid. And so I have to commend you on that level. And to that end, I want to talk about you. You release, give or take, it looks like once every two weeks. And I wanted to talk to you about what made you decide that. And I have to say, before we get into that, as a side note, as a total nerd who loves them on a story program, you Googling things is so much right. The self fed that is Monta or any of you out there. I have four children who all went through the Montessori school and they all like it's a very self led education model. So the fact that everything in you, everything in your life has been this self led model, it does not strike me as odd at all that you're Moniz's.
[00:22:12] But I want to climb into. What? Who.
[00:22:15] How did you decide for your own. Was it a conversation with your personal schedule? Like once every two weeks you release. And how do you develop the choreography of what you're going to talk about? How do you curate that?
[00:22:26] So I am currently a solo printer. Right. Like I'm the queen. I run the show. I have three little girls. For the last entirety of their lives, except the last five months, I have had them in my custody. Eighty percent of the time. With like minimal financial support. So the stuff that I have done in four and a half years with three kids in tow. Frankly, I am clapping for myself because it really is remarkable. And the. That's from a brand. You know, when you're an entrepreneur, you wear so many different caps. Right. Like you were the genius cap where you really shine. Then you got to put on like the CFO cap, which is not as much of a strength area strength for me. And then I've got a strategy hat. And so strategically, I'm also very Dutch and I'm very much a Taurus. So when I put on that strategy cap, it is like is rooted in the earth. And that root tells me what is the intention behind what you're doing? What will this lead you to or what will it return? I'm really very spiritual. So what it leads me to. There are so many options in front of me. Most of those options are. Who knows? But I trust my gut to go for the podcast. I only do it once every two weeks because it is very difficult to turn a profit and to convert with a podcast. I think. And so I have to balance out. And I've looked at sponsorships and like I don't want to do sponsorships online. That, frankly, it seems like it's going to add an additional layer of effort on my behalf. And frankly, I look at what is the content? What what is the intention? Why am I creating this? Who am I serving? What am I doing? And how does it align with my value? That's my feel today. I use online literally every decision of my life, especially in my business. And so for the podcast, I believe it's very important to have the podcast as one of the moving pieces of my business. But there's only so much energy I can give it. If somebody else was footing the bill or if they was really converting a lot of clients back to private clients, it would absolutely be at least once a week, if not more. But right now, it's like I really want to have it, but I'm also keeping my eye on it to make sure what I'm doing is actually worth my time.
[00:24:41] Yeah, and those are really good points. I have to say, I get asked to speak a lot about developing podcasts because I've done so many that I know four years ago that I was a little podcast maven. But and what I quickly surmised and kind of speak to and advise you on is everything that you've spoken of. I think that the most important thing is consistency, tone and rhetoric and authenticity as well as like really having a point. And yours are so polished, like, you know, you kind of just quickly prattled off. But you have this original sound music, you know, to your podcasts and then and these sound quality of them, like everything sounds so amazing. And I think that people need to realize that it's still the Wild West. So I realize that I'm speaking to rules I've made up for my own kingdom. But within that, as far as podcasts go, I think consistency and tone. You know, you can have a change in the podcast, but to go from one week to one kind. And then for another, which another is very jarring. And then there's this idea that, you know, people can just not release or stop or do whatever you some random Thursday. And that seems a little immature as well. You know, and just holding yourself accountable, sponsorship, like you mentioned, is another big one. I myself am not attached to it. But funding is not an issue for me because the majority of my projects are self-funded.
[00:26:00] But as you've mentioned, a lot of people think that it's going to be this cash making machine and sponsorship in partnership or a ton of work. They frequently align you with a brand that may or may not be in sync with your brand.
[00:26:11] There's just a lot of things that decimates my brand. I'm so authentic that if I start talking about paper towels, my brand is dead and like the me-ness of me is dead.
[00:26:24] Yeah. And I like your Yankee. I like that whole concept. I was just seems that Yankee know how and you're in Canada, but either concept of ingenuity and kind of like out of the box off Amazon. And then I met a friend and they wrote the music and that that's really what you can do with podcasting. And I encourage people to get on and listened to Leisses because it is a sense of professionalism that is astounding that you did. I for sure assumed that your publicist with your book had hooked you up with an entire crew. So it's hats off to you. It sounds amazing and I love it. I want to turn now to unpacking and to call myself beloved. A story of hope, healing and coming home. The book it just launched today and everyone who has listened to me before knows that I'm an absolute bookworm. But I haven't read it as it came out today. And I am excited. Excited because this will be what I call an airplane conversation. So if I just met you on an airplane and we and I had you quarantined for an hour and a half next to me, I would be able to ask you all of these questions, hopefully without you getting away or putting on your headphones.
[00:27:21] I just, like, leaned closer because I'm so excited about this.
[00:27:27] Oh, I love it because I don't know anything about it. And so this is very off the cuff, which is my favorite kind of conversation. I'd love research, but I do far too much of it. OK. So I first want to talk about this. My introduction to the book was through whatever we could grab Off-line. And I want to read a quick line that I found to myself that kind of explain to me what the book was about and you can tell me if it's correct or not. So it says, To call myself beloved is informed by lessons learned through navigating the most cataclysmic events of woman's of one woman's life and realizing throughout each one that I am still OK. So we've kind of climbed through some of that. You know what you said earlier and things like that. But that for me, kind of gave me the impetus of what I expected the book to be about. I then listened to the most recent podcast, which is about one chapter of that, and it's called The Myth of Competition. And this actually speaks to a great deal of my heart. And I think a lot of people that listen to this podcast series will identify with it. So I first want you to hear what I would like to hear from you. Before we unpack, I want to talk about the myth of competition and all of the other chapters. But when you were writing it, did you keep your audience in mind or did you just read it for yourself? Because you do have this kind of self-serving platform, which is a plausible. But I want to know if you did keep your audience in mind, who was that audience? And as you were composing it, how did how were you speaking to them? How did it help transform her build the book?
[00:28:54] Well, until very recently, I used to introduce myself as a professional human and real ethical because frankly, that's what I am. My dream has always been to get paid to be me again. I spent so much of my life, arguably the first half of my life denying who I was and proving who I was and hiding who I was.
[00:29:12] That now I'm like, Oh, no. Here I am. It took so much.
[00:29:16] I'm so happy to be this person. I love this person so much. Let me share that. And let me see if what kind of opportunities arise. And the cool thing is, lots of opportunities have arisen from that place of genuine authenticity. So, yes, the book. I absolutely kept my audience in mind because I am also my ideal client. I'm very passionate about the fact that just like we said, if I'm having this feeling and I'm really struggling and I can't even Google the answer, I can't figure it out.
[00:29:49] Oh, man. If I can't figure it out, there about to be thousands, if not tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands of other women who are struggling this that for some reason don't have the right genetic makeup that compels them to figure it out. So all this stuff I figured out, I went back to school for coaching. I read every book. I did all the things. I saw so many therapists. I ended up creating this incredible healing modality for myself that I started to use of my clients. And I watched how it was affecting my clients lives in this earth. Shatteringly simple way. You know, all of my clients this week, for example, I got on the phone with them and they're like, I am not doing well. It has not been a good week by the end of the conversation. Fifty seven minutes later, they're like, oh, my God, this is a dramatic difference. I feel so much better. I thought I felt stuck. But actually what I see now from talking to you is that I'm not so trapped. I have so many options. So I am my ideal client because those are all pain points that I, I had so close to me. So when I was writing it, it was really important to me, too. Like when it says like somehow I wrote about like, it's just one woman's life. I'm just a woman. Like, I'm just a person living a life as a human on this planet. And I was an episode on my block that's got to be where the female empowerment brand, because when you start to scratch the surface on the female empowerment brand, like you are not going to like what you find in so many that people who are championing themselves as just regular people.
[00:31:23] Are not. So let's take a look there. They're not just regular people, and I feel like I just kind of a regular person living a life.
[00:31:30] And so, again, to write from that place of wealth, here are the three things that ultimately tried to define my life childhood abuse, a really painful divorce, and then this experience with cancer that the treatment for which included chemo, full hair loss and a radical mastectomy. If I remove both of my breasts and what I learned through each of those things was how to heal and not only how to heal from trauma and pain, but how to come home to. So when you read in the space of like, all you have to do is self lollypops. Just love yourself. Just take care of yourself. Just start to prioritize. I'll just set boundaries. My personality is like, yeah, but how? Like tell me how to do that. Nobody is telling me how to do that. They're just creating a listicle. Is that gets great MCO ratings. And so suddenly I was like, well fuck it, I'm going to write this manual on how to do this. So the book is divided and I would call a book like a self love manifesto because it's almost 400 pages and it's literally a compendium of everything and every healing modality, mindset, HAAKE technique that I learned about spotted figures. And it's divided into these three sections, understanding where you've come from, making peace with where you are and then healing forward. And each section opens with one personal essay. So, like, here's a glimpse of what my childhood was actually like. People think because I had such like an engaged Instagram audience, that I must be like very extroverted and very public. I'm insanely private, like I'm an insanely efforts. And so this is a big deal to them actually sharing stories of what it was like in childhood. And then, you know, the second part opens with what does divorce actually feel like? Because if you want to polarize a room real quick, just ask for people's opinions on marriage and divorce, and you will find you'll find basically it's always the woman's fault.
[00:33:22] There a lot of things in the marriage. Yeah. Oh, yeah. And that was it was just so it was so intense.
[00:33:28] Divorce was literally the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. And that includes cancer. It was way harder than cancer. And then just as I was building momentum and doing all the right things and navigating that divorce, a lot of grace and kindness and compassion. I got breast cancer, like I got breast cancer the day my ex-husband got married and I was like I was so ready to give up. I was ready. I was like, I'm out. My life is a Kafka novel. And I've read it. And I don't like how it ends. I'm not gonna be this beetle trapped in my back because that's stupid. I don't know what I'm gonna do. And I came home from one of my appointments. There are many, many, many appointments at the very beginning of cancer. And I was so young and no family history that the treatment was going to be super aggressive. So I came home from one of my appointments. I hadn't picked up my kids from school yet. I was just like once again, once again lying on my living room floor. A different house was one I bought by myself, lying in my living room floor rage, screaming like primal rage. But that anger that you're never, ever allowed to feel, particularly as a woman. Like, I was just rage screaming. And I was screaming out like, how the heck am I going to do this? How am I going to do this? Yeah, I wouldn't you know, it. This little voice came back. Again, and the voice this time was like you were going to make this beautiful. And I remember like stopping and being like, what? And I heard it again. You're gonna make this beautiful. And it was in that moment where I was like, oh, my God. The only expectations I have to meet are the ones I set for myself. So I actually get to defy what anybody else's expectations of are of my cancer experience. And I'm going to make it my own. And I'm going to make it so fucking beautiful. Nobody's gonna know what to do. So from that, it was such a turning point that I realized I'm sure you read The Alchemist by Paulo Pueblo. If you're a reader, that's my favorite book. And I remember going through that process of deliberately making everything about the cancer experience and single parenting. And I was like, this is emotional alchemy. This is taking this dark, painful, really heavy stuff. Allowing enough trust and flow and expertize and intuition to consciously transform it into something beautiful and golden. So to kind of answer the question a very long way. That's the third part of the block. It's full of how you do that. You know, it's very easy to be like if you want to heal and move forward, all you to do is forgive your parents. Do you know what it's like to forgive your parents? Do you know what it's like to forgive an ex-husband who doesn't treat you very well? That's hard. Do you know what it's like to forgive people who you thought you could trust? And then they violated all your trust. So in the book, it's I am so proud of it because it's like. Lots of personal essay, lots of anecdotes. There's so many little funny examples, just like it feels like you're kind of talking to your girlfriend on the couch because it's just kind of a casual conversation. We're intensely practical hands on information that anybody can do, that anybody can just teach themselves how to think. Definitely.
[00:36:40] And as a single mom of three, when I say things like it's lifestyle friendly, you better believe it's lifestyle friendly because, like, ain't nobody got time to get up an extra hour and a half to do a workout and make a great movie and then a bulletproof like, I'm like, no, I can't do that right now. So just tell me, how do I teach myself how to think differently?
[00:36:58] I wrote the tome on it. That's amazing. I love. I'm obsessed with anyone who knows.
[00:37:06] Mayors had the unfortunate experience of hearing me ramble on either in front of a crowd or not. I'm obsessed with action items and utility and and it's because I get lost very easily personally in despair. And, you know, and I look at really, really hard subjects and I don't mind doing that as long as we've got a ladder out what path towards that ladder. And so this this call to to action that you have that, you know, you've insisted on fitting into schedule and things like that is kind of. And it's I'm I'm obsessed with the concept. A lot of books that kind of dove into narrative and things like that. We'll tell you how that particular person kind of came out of it. And frequently it'll be like time passed and things changed and fell in love again or something. And I'm like, this is not a solution, you know, with the dot, dot, dot.
[00:37:55] I what what the hell is happening in the dot, dot, dot that nobody will tell me.
[00:38:00] Yeah, exactly. And so I can't I cannot wait to kind of pull it up and and look at your action items because it sounds like it's it's built that way because that's how you're leading, you know, a lot of your coaching. If you're coming out of fifty seven minutes saying this is a lot better, you know, that does not happen just from saying so my life sucks. You know, it it comes finding solutions out how we can toxify like it was will end.
[00:38:26] Because, you know, I really believe that all of us are soul children and we just, you know, live in bigger houses and drive fancy cars. But I think we all stay kids. And because I have these little girls, my inner child got so neglected as a kid that my inner child was so alive and well because she's fostered in this incredible environment that we've created as a little family, that I didn't want the book to be preachy either.
[00:38:50] So all of those action items I like sometimes if you say homework, people actually do get triggered or really these are activities they get.
[00:38:58] They kind of get put off.
[00:39:00] So I was like, well, listen, I love tacos. If you look at my branding at all, it's a very common thread that weaves itself in I love tacos. When I went to California, eight tacos, like all the way up the coast from California to L.A., but to Seattle.
[00:39:13] Yeah.
[00:39:15] So each of the activities or whatever.
[00:39:17] No, no, no. I was just saying you're right. And I mean, tacos are like more than our air state flag like me very well anyway.
[00:39:26] And so each of be like activities or the action items in the book are called taco activities because everybody likes soccer. And so it like sparks this like Tuckerton. It is so cool.
[00:39:35] Oh, not to forgive my friend, ok. It's like it's so it's very unhealthy because I, it's like I make it a very safe environment for you to trust me.
[00:39:45] And then all of a sudden you're like, oh my God, I'm doing the work and doing the work. And I am really proud of that.
[00:39:51] Absolutely. As well you should be. I think that that's exciting and finding those things. It's interesting you talk about creating a safe haven within, you know, your family, where you're it's it's dancing a fine line. When p when adults you I think you've been the first adult in the past few months has talked about being a child that hasn't irritated me. And I myself felt a little robbed of a childhood, you know, and for it for loving reasons. I came from a beautiful family of six children and it was crazy and dynamic. But my parents definitely did, you know, all that they could. And and I and when people talk about really their childhood, I'm like, oh, so your children hate being them, like, because you get to be the kid in the situation or there's those adults that like, I guess living out their dream. And so their kids are like having to make dinner.
[00:40:35] And I think like what's why are you taking out your problems on the next generation?
[00:40:38] But I like the way that you describe this environment where you're like we all get to kind of feel safe and experience and you're fostering that inner child without, like robbing it of your children, I think is so cool.
[00:40:49] Yeah. And like, my kids and I are not friends. We are not friends. I'm definitely their mother. They are definitely my children. But there it's so Medda because. I am the mother that I didn't get. I am the mother naturally, that I need it. And through my Montessori education, I totally started reparenting myself. And all of this healing is like it's essentially me re mothering myself and against all odds, because, trust me, I heard a lot of negative feedback and a ton of judgment when I when I did get divorced, people were like the worst thing you can do for your kids, you're gonna ruin their lives. And I'm like, well, not like I'm a really good mom. And that's just not that's just natural to who I am with my clients is the same thing. It's a very mothering energy. I'm not going to be like, oh, good. Did you set a goal this week? No. Like, let's be real. Like, what are you actually intending to do? I'm not your hype squad for my kids. I'm like their back them. Right. There's a lot of structure. There's there's this firm ness with a lot of flexibility. But there are these meta moments because we'll be sitting around writing like song parodies, like taking one of the new tillers with songs and making it up. But our cats instead, we're like watching a movie or something. And we all have this moment where it feels like all four of us are systems. Sometimes I'll go take them out for ice cream before dessert.
[00:42:07] First I'll be like, Oh, you do? Don't tell our mom, because there are those moments of like it's so insanely joyful and playful that none of us can believe that I'm your mom. But trust me, there's like so much mutual respect. Everybody is very, very clearly aware of, like, who the mother is.
[00:42:25] It's like it's a beautiful balance. I like the description that you have. You know, I can't wait to kind of unpack it even further in your book, and I feel the same way. I think there's a way to experience such a think, complete companionship with your children, but always remain. I always tell my kids I'm not your friend. So it's not supposed to be fair friendship.
[00:42:45] Frankly, this actually isn't a democracy. So thank you.
[00:42:48] I've heard what you had to say, but ultimately I make you assertion and I don't know what you like. I think, again, this is yes, this is rooted in my own past with the way that I apply emotional alchemy to it is like I was never, ever allowed to be myself or I felt punished and shamed and exiled for being myself. So with my kids I'm like. What do you like? What makes you happy? Let's do that. You want to do dance? OK, cool. Let's explore that. You know, you want to do karate, whatever. Let's explore that, because it's what makes you feel. I have no expectations of my children other than they are showing up as kind, lovely individuals and whatever that means for them. You know, if they're being of service and they're treating other people with respect, that's cool. They each have their own nuances and passion and style of clothing and and interests and hobbies.
[00:43:39] And to me, that individuality, while live, is the purpose of relationships to be completely whole on your own and independent while sharing an interdependent existence. Yeah. Grunting Right. And that is definitely the little environment that we've created in our home is gorgeous.
[00:43:58] That's got to be your next book. I mean, I'm putting it out there. There you go. Well, it's amazing.
[00:44:04] I love it. And I love the dynamic. It's like I said, I'm very sensitive. When things get described, I get like. But that it sounds wonderful. I love the idea of it. I want to climb into one of your chapters because it was narrated. I felt like I read it online and on your podcast, The Myth of Competition, because it really taps into something that we've actually had a lot of conversation on this particular podcast about. This was something I've looked at and a lot of different angles from a lot of different angles through a lot of different lenses in the past. And them if I would be so bold as to quickly just tell you what I heard from it and when listening to the podcast, is that there is this concept that we are all aware of, of women, that we get pitted against each other. And then you unpack it in a more interesting way. I haven't really heard this before, at least not that I can remember reading this kind of angle, but you get into the perception of what competition is. And Dina. And the takeaway for me was there will always be someone better and worse than you. So competition truly doesn't exist and it doesn't foster you in the way that you think it will. It delineates you from your society, from your fellow sisterhood. It can you know, it can actually slow things down. And it actually removes you from the goal that you're probably headed towards in the competition like circus anyway. And so I wanted to kind of talk about how you came to this chapter. Like, it's such a pivotal, crucial thing. It feels like the conversation, even as I tried to make it simple, is still so complex and dynamic per individual. How did you come to writing about this and what kind of made you come to the realizations you came to with it?
[00:45:36] So I have been basically single for about five years. Like, I've dated a couple of people since. Since my marriage ended. But ultimately, I've been single for five years. And while that has been a massive pain point for me over the past few years, because, like, oh, my God, I didn't think I was ever going to be single, like I.
[00:45:52] Where is this football player I've been dreaming about what five years is talking to? It has done.
[00:45:59] It has enabled me not only to be with my family and create a business and all the rest of it go through cancer. It has enabled me to use my thoughts. So I think about this stuff all the time. But because I spend a lot of time in solitude, it actually allows me to kind of tap into the cultural knowledge of what we're experiencing or what we're being told. I have a love hate relationship with Instagram because that's how I created my business. But also, there's so much bullshit on Instagram. Like, it pains me to watch it happen. And so for me, it's like when you start to strip it back and you strip it back and you strip it back. We are a we are animals. We are social animals at that. And so we are naturally inclined to always look to the group to see that what we're to see if what we're doing is in line with what everybody else is doing, because that means we're being accepted or we're not. And if we're accepted. Cool. You get to live. And if you're not accepted. Oh, you're dead. And so I to ignore competition is so stupid to me. It's like, wait a second. We're kind of wired in our DNA to have this litmus test of, like, is what I'm doing. OK. OK. So that's part of us. But the other part of us has to zoom out and realize, yes, we're social animals, but we've also really evolved as a species. So while we are looking out to make sure we're surviving, we actually have to look in and see what am I doing, why am I doing it? And like, what's the whole purpose behind this? If you spend your time looking at what everybody else is doing, you're only witnessing a moment in time. Right. And, you know, like, success is a long game. You can't you can't measure yourself. You can't measure your words and your progress by anybody else's standards other than your own. Because we're all just comparing weird moments in time and that each of us is walking this individual path. Why the hell would I look at anybody else's path, see where they are and why would I internalize that to make that like a metric of my success as my own? So if you understand that, like. Success as my own in this moment and that moment is like a series of moments over a long period of time. There's always gonna be somebody who's doing way worse than I am. And there's always going to be somebody who's way far ahead of me.
[00:48:18] So to me, it seems pretty stupid to do any of that.
[00:48:22] And instead take all that energy and all that focus and be like, OK. Was this my best? No, it wasn't. OK. Then how could I have done that better? Or what would I tweak to make that smoother? Or is this my best? You know what? Given what I had at the time, the resources that I had, this is my best. Look, I'm going to stand confidently in that. And it's so freeing. Just to be at peace with who you are and what you're doing that I really wanted to frame it for people as like competition. Isn't this you really only have to be to value what you're doing and why?
[00:48:56] Yeah, and I love it because it unpacks it. I think a lot of people have different terminology. You know, people who have a really positive relationship with competition don't actually mean the same thing by that word. As someone who has a negative relationship is where I get very into people like defining their terms. Yes. Least this chapter seems to really define the way that you have started to look at and use these words moved beyond them. And I think that that is so crucial. You know, when you're having particularly self dialog, you really need to ask yourself what you mean by those words. And if you're comparing yourself with somebody else, what they mean by those words and if they give you they haven't defined themselves. You can't possibly believe that you're speaking about the same thing.
[00:49:34] Well, then the second part of that chapter is like, I been controversial.
[00:49:40] But the second part of that chapter is that like collaboration over competition. Is like even more of a myth. And I would argue is rooted in such patriarchal roots that it just it makes me want to vomit because I feel like living in this Instagram generation is Instagram culture that we are told over and over again like, don't worry, girls, that we know we put you against each other for so long. But now all you do is collaborate. And then you don't have to feel, though, that bitter pain of rejection from somebody doing better you better than you.
[00:50:10] And to me, I am like I don't even have a good analogy for it. I feel like I'm like a mere cat looking up, being like, is anybody else hearing this shit? They show me a room full of men.
[00:50:22] Show me a fuckin cafe table with two men where they're being told that, OK, boys, you just need to collaborate instead of compete. No, it doesn't exist. That that's not a thing. And it's like, OK. So if that conversation is now a movement for women to champion collaboration over competition, what I hear is playing nice girls. We don't want you to Slainte nobody's feelings to get hurt. You really can't handle it. So why don't you just work together? And I'm like giving middle fingers all over the place. And like, if you want to collaborate for your brand because it's good for your brand or it's good for your soul.
[00:50:57] I work with people sometimes because I love working with them and it's so fun. I don't care what the outcome is. I just want to be in that energy. That's a fucking awesome collaboration. But if something isn't good for my brand, just because I think somebody else might do it better than me. Does that mean I'm gonna then work with her to get ahead? It's like it's so condescending and it's so misogynistic that I like a want bar. Right. I'd like to see it on.
[00:51:26] Well, and it's wrapped in this beautiful you know, it's wrapped in this message of like women lifting up women. You know, that's bullshit. Drag and all of that. And I think that you're right in saying that one must now collaborate. It's just silly as saying one must compete in. And eventually exclusive. Yeah. And they've taken, you know, a word that didn't used to mean, you know, your week and then called it week like collaboration used to be how NASA was built. It wasn't how, you know, we have the population that couldn't get ahead because of, you know, hundreds of years of misogynistic implementation at micro levels, you know. Oh, it's crazy. I want to turn I could talk all day.
[00:52:07] I could have you unpack every chapter, read it, and we'll do just that, too.
[00:52:14] I love asking coaches and people who have done so much self dialog and then turned into, you know, advisers and and mentors of that nature.
[00:52:24] I am obsessed with how you look at goals yourself. So I want to first know as a business person. Do you have one to three your goals for your business endeavors? And second of all, do you use the same structure in which you advise your client tell when it comes to looking at the future or goals or whatever terminology you want to supplement if you hate the word goals.
[00:52:44] Yeah. So I think for me, interestingly, like today's book launch day for me. Right. And I, I had ordered a bunch of copies in advance for pre sale and they arrived a few days ago. And so the from the time they arrived to today has been such an emotional time because you're confronted with it. And I read about this in the book, like the failure, the fear of getting what you want. Suddenly it's like, oh, my God, I've been focused on writing a book, even if on the back burner on my periphery. I've been focused on writing a book for four years. I did it. It's in the world. Last time I checked, it's like number three already arms in self esteem. Like I think it's going to be a bestselling book now to go back into it.
[00:53:27] And at first that, you know, the roller coaster of emotion is like, oh, my God, what do I do now? And the flip side is like, oh, my God, what do I do now?
[00:53:37] So for me, the next one to three years are so interesting because today was the pinnacle of what my goal was, was like. Right. I look today I'm like, I did it. Oh, my God, I did it. Like I created this brand. I started hiring people to run Facebook ads and build online course or build the ads to promote the online courses. You can work with me privately. I have a Quantcast I have a book I do speaking as soon as I can get back on a stage. It's like. Oh, my God. What is next for me? And so I don't know what that looks like. Really, what it feels like is more freedom, more thought leadership. I feel like all this self dialog, all of this work. All this granular attention to the emotional experience we're having. I really feel like my purpose on this earth is to change the global conversation on emotional health and self-love. And to me and this answers the second part of your question as to how I support clients with their goals. I'm so intention based. And, you know, the spirituality component ties them because I know what I want this to feel like. I know what I want how I want to honor my family. I know the level of financial freedom that feels really good for me. I know how I want to be of service to not only my local community, but my global community. And if I'm really clear on that intention, which I am, and if if that intentional why and so beautifully with my values, which it does. Then I almost don't really care what happens next, because I know it's good thought, leadership to me is always possible on my radar. I'm going to be on this TV show. We're shooting it in October. And it's called the Social Movement. It's getting like 60 people together. We're divided by expertize and we're given four days to solve a major problem like education, pendent, how to stop a pandemic. And then we pitch those ideas to a team of investors. So part of me is like, oh, man, what if I get, like, my own Netflix docu series to come out of that or wouldn't wouldn't it be cool? I get on my own Amazon mini series that's just sharing what I know about the emotional experience. I don't know, but I know that it's gonna be so fun.
[00:55:56] It's going to be like lots of work and also lots of fun.
[00:55:59] It sounds like it. I love that and I love that. You know, it came and you had a very clear thought that was just also based out of intention like that faith and knowing what that framework for yourself and understanding that, you know, you could move forward out of that confidence and grace. I think that's everyone's goal is to feel like, you know, that regardless of how clear their goals are, they will be obtainable because they've developed this platform. Well, I wanted. We've got like a few minutes left. And I want to finally climb into my last question, which everyone knows I ask on this particular series, and I'm excited to find out what yours is going to be, your answer. But so if you were walking tomorrow outside of Toronto on your beautiful lake community at a safe social distance and someone ran up to you and it was a woman or a woman identified or non binary individual, they said, listen, I am so good, least I found you. We have someone in common. They've told me to come and talk to you. I have undergone this, you know, like this litany of personal difficulty and triumph from that. And I'm getting ready to kind of pull myself up and pivot and start this huge empire for myself. And it's going to be based on all of my knowledge and all of my findings. What are the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual? Knowing what you know today?
[00:57:19] That's a powerful question. I think it would be. Trust yourself.
[00:57:26] Don't pay more attention to what you have to say than what anybody else has to say, and I appreciate that. It is a long game, and just because it's a long game doesn't mean that you're failing. It just. Sometimes things take more time than you think. And if you can keep yourself present and really, really be in the process without focusing so much on the end goal.
[00:57:55] Beautiful. So I've got trust herself. Appreciate that it's a long game. And stay in the process. Stay present. That's great. All of those, you know, speaking to self-knowledge and then endurance and looking at like the true livelihood of everyone's struggle. And then obviously staying present, which I think a lot of your advice does. I am so thankful for you speaking with us today. It's been such a pleasure for me. And we're out of time. But I just wanted to say I really appreciate your candor. I know that your empire is developed on it, but I feel like you stay present with that. It's very easy. I think when you write as much as you do when you podcast's and things like that to fall into these like very Klip things that we say over and over again.
[00:58:39] But I listen to a lot of information on you online before we spoke. And I've never heard anything that you've given me today. So I just want to say thank you for that. It's it's really appreciated. Your authenticity is amazing.
[00:58:50] Thank you. And what an opportunity to be here. I wish we weren't coast-to-coast because like I want to go for tacos with you or like go get coffee right now. What an amazing opportunity to be here and share the space from across the world.
[00:59:03] Absolutely. And that will happen one day. We are absolutely getting tacos. Soul Sisters, for sure and for certain.
[00:59:12] But yes, I appreciate it. And for everyone listening. Thank you so much for giving us your time. I do appreciate all of you. And we've been speaking with Leisse Wilcox, who's a transformational mindset and success coach and author. You can find out more about her book, her podcasts and her coaching different courses and things like that on her Web site. Leisse Wilcox dot com. That's Leisse i. S s e w i lcross dot com. Her book is called To Call Myself Beloved. A Story of Hope, Healing and Coming Home. Jump online. Grab it off and we will come back around. I always serve. I, I know my audience is like, how could you not have read it. I will grab Leisse back up again before COVID ends and so that she's somehow still at home and I'll trap her into having a conversation with me. Guaranteed.
[00:59:58] With pleasure.
[00:59:59] Yeah, absolutely.
[01:00:00] So thank you everyone for giving us your time again until we speak again next time. Remember to stay safe and always bet on yourself. Slainte.
Thursday Aug 20, 2020
Talking to Stormi Scott; Business Development Manager
Thursday Aug 20, 2020
Thursday Aug 20, 2020
Today I am talking with Stormi Scott. Stormi is the Business Development Manager for Leverage, a software and education platform designed to help small business owners and property investors make more informed and empowered financing decisions. Stormi began her career at one of the largest financial institution in 2016 and through hard work and determination, she advanced herself within the banking system and became a Branch Manager at a Regional Bank.
During her time in the banking industry, Stormi saw firsthand some of the struggles business owners face when seeking financing and her experiences inspired her to want to help create a system to empower better outcomes for all small businesses seeking financing going forward. With Leverage, Stormi hopes to provide small business owners, entrepreneurs, and property investors an advantage in the financing process - and empower them to start their funding conversation like never before.
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
TRANSCRIPTION
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I speak with business development manager at Leverage Stormi Scott. Key points addressed were Stormi professional history in retail and banking industries that brought her to her work with leverage. We also address some interesting fundamentals in the world of business, credit and financing that are largely unknown by the communities in which they are meant to serve. Stay tuned for my informative talk with Stormi Scott.
[00:00:30] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .COM, where you can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:27] Hi, everyone, and welcome back. I am your host, Patricia, today I am excited to be sitting down with Stormi Scott. Stormi is a business development manager at Leverage. You can find out more about the company and everything we talk about today at leverage calc dot com. That is l e v e r a g e c a l c dot com. Welcome Stormi.
[00:01:49] Hello. Thank you so much for having me today.
[00:01:51] Absolutely. I'm excited to claim through everything that you're doing at leverage for everyone listening. This podcast will follow the same in the series with the trajectory and the inquiries based out of the similar direct trajectory, namely a roadmap for that will be. We'll look at stories, academic and professional background, and then we'll turn towards unpacking her work as a business development manager at Leverage and what leverage is we'll get into when it was founded. The transitions, how it's grown, all of those things. And we'll talk about funding for it and it being a financial company, it's quite interesting. Then we'll unpack Stormi's goals and plans for the future. We'll look at how those have changed, perhaps with the most recent COVID 19 pandemic wrap everything up with a half an hour with advice for me has for those of you who are looking to get involved or perhaps emulate some of her success before I start peppering her with questions. A quick bio on Stormi Stormi. Scott is the business development manager for Leverage, a software and education platform designed to help small business owners and property investors make more informed and empowered financing decisions. Swarmy began her career at one of the largest financial institutions in 2016, and through hard work and determination, she advanced herself within the banking system and became a branch manager at Regional Bank. During her time in the banking industry, Stormi saw firsthand some of the struggles business owners face when seeking financing, and her experiences inspired her to want to help create a system to empower better outcomes for small businesses seeking financial financing. Going forward with leverage, Stormi hopes to provide small business owners, entrepreneurs and property investors an advantage in the financing process and empower them to start their funding conversation like never before. So start me. I'm excited to kind of climb through that. I think that now is a really appropriate time to be talking about the work that leverage is doing. But before we get into that, I'm hoping you can draw our audience kind of academic and professional background of who you are and who you have been up until your point of working as a business development manager for leverage.
[00:03:57] Yes. So let's just dove right into that. So I come from a family that had very little money growing up. You know, I had to be very, very independent and grow very fast. I learned at a very young age that if I wanted something more out of life, you know, I really would really have to rely on myself. So I got my first job at the age of 15 at Subway, which I have to tell you was the biggest deal to me at that time to earn my own money, you know, and at that time, I actually did have to pay rent to help my mom with like household expenses. But I didn't mind that whatsoever. You know, I continued working throughout my high school, and once I graduated high school, I actually landed a job at a family owned department store. And I continued by getting promoted. And that's what everyone was going off to college. And I just made the decision at that time not to. And really because at that age, you know, I was making good money and I actually had people who worked under me at the time who just graduated from college, who couldn't get a job in their field. And, you know, they would tell me about the struggle that they went through, having all of the student loans and having to pay them off. And, you know, I just decided that if I continue to work hard, I could get where I wanted to. You know, my my experiences and, you know, I did take classes here and there. But, you know, then I did get into like you said, I started my career in banking and I started off working for one of the largest financial institutions. And I found such a passion for helping people with their finances. And one of my favorite parts of my job was actually teaching financial education classes. I went to different businesses and talk to their employees, and I taught at different schools in organizations like Dress for Success and Homeless Shelters. You know, I just I just loved providing that, you know, free financial education because we don't get taught that and, you know, throughout our school years, I just think it's so important. So I then became a branch manager. I actually I'm originally from Iowa. And a couple of years ago, I made the loans to the East Coast, and that's when I became a branch manager for a regional bank excuse me. And that's when I really started working with small businesses. And, you know, I meant many business owners and belt really great relationships. And I just learned the struggle that business owners face when it came to obtaining. Saying, first off, some business owners just honestly didn't know what business credit.
[00:06:31] You know, that that was even a thing which was kind of shocking, but it was true. So it was all about educating them and learning kind of how to build business credit, which is great. Being able to help them do that. But the part that was kind of frustrating for me was when I had a business owner apply for any type of funding and they were being declined or they were being approved for like only a portion of what they would apply for. And that, unfortunately, happened a lot. It was mainly just due to the fact that my finance institution at that time, they are a very, very conservative lender. So you really need to fit in that bank box to be approved. And what I mean by that is, like you really have to meet the requirements. And of course, that's not the case everywhere. Every lender has different loan options, different requirements that you need to meet. But anyways, I wanted to just always be on the side of supporting and educating business owners and entrepreneurs. And I didn't want to do that bad guy delivering bad news. I mean, if anyone is listening and has ever gone to that financing process and got I got a no, it's a horrible feeling. And, you know, so I sat there and I was like, is this really what I wanted to do with my career?
[00:07:46] Or do I want to get into a position where I am able to go out kind of on my own and help more people? So my father in law has a family owned business in the real estate world and in software. And so I decided to get involved with a software company because I loved what it offered business owners. And I didn't really want to stay in that corporate world and limit my career. So when I had the opportunity, I became the business development manager for the financing software. And here I am.
[00:08:17] Yeah, absolutely. So I want to be clear. Going back over as a quick description and I'll have you kind of unpack it for us as well, looking at leverage. But it's a software and education platform designed to help small business owners and property investors make more empowered financing decisions, according from your bio. Yeah, and and I want you to kind of unpack the the real terms of what that means and what it looks like and point to examples and things like that. Before we get to that, I do want to cover the logistics for everybody listening. This podcast series started three years ago with founders and entrepreneurs. And so we always cover the same top three, which was when was it founded? Who were the founders and how long have you been working there?
[00:09:01] Yeah. So a little bit of background on the company. So, John, my father in law, like I said, he's a very successful real estate developer and had when he was actually creating the software, he had plenty of like venture capital, capital and investor interest in the software. But he truly just decided to self-funded to maintain 100 percent ownership and keep it a private company so he could really keep it family owned. And, you know, that really gave us a lot of flexibility with what we offer and for us to have our mission be our own and not have to answer to, you know, to anyone. So we really like that. And we allowed it allowed us to determine where our product is a best fit and like enter the market. So I personally started with leverage back in December of this year, and leverage was really created to level the playing field for everyone who was going for business, finance or commercial property financing. So our mission is all about empowering people for the financing discussion because we know that or in five businesses fail within the first five years due to not getting the capital that they need. So, you know, we we all know how it goes when you initially start that conversation with the lender and the feeling that people get. And even for the most experienced bah bah, we're it's a little bit of trepidation all the way to absolutely dreading it.
[00:10:26] And it's like, why is that? And it's because, like, you're going and not knowing what the lender is going to say.
[00:10:32] You walk and having no idea of the outcome. So how it started was John actually partnered with a commercial banker to write the algorithm for the underwriting and our calculators that we offer. So our original platform was created in 2016 and it was named commercial loan success. And that actually had thousands of customers who vetted over a billion dollars worth of deal flow through that original form over the years. But that platform really was for that experienced borrower who, you know, that experienced business owner who was connecting to a traditional bank. And we know that many, many businesses cannot get a loan from like a traditional bank due to, you know, this or that. So we wanted to create leverage, which is our platform now that allows business owners and property investors at any point in their career. You know, if you're. Starting out or you've been in business for 30 years, either way, you have the ability to determine if you are pre qualified for the financing that you're seeking. And what was really cool that I loved and like when I got involved was, you know, we got told by third party reviews from the software that, you know, it's a look under the hood of commercial underwriting and that has never been done or seen before. You know, most people don't realize how a bank underwrites you. You know, how does your commercial loan long get underwritten? Like what factors determine how much they give you? You know, people just don't know. Patricia, you are such an experienced business owner, like have you ever been through the process and you know.
[00:12:09] Yes, absolutely. I mean, I do have a familiarity in this just because I'm not a young entrepreneur anymore, but I do understand that the actual ignorance of what's entailed and things that are considered is daunting to people and not really thought of until they go and do it. And once they do have the information, it's usually based on things that they wish they had altered or changed prior to applying for loans. And I'm guessing that that's what your company has gone in and kind of solved then and suggested. Do you guys suggest that people get on and find out what their business credit is prior to even thinking about a business loan just out of ways to fix it? And curiosity? I'm thinking of these ways that people credit karma in places that help you clean things up. Does your company advise to that end as well?
[00:13:03] So no matter what with anything. I always recommend that a business look at their credit. I mean, it's actually kind of shocking because like I said before, and my banking for talking to business owners and they had no idea business credit was even a thing. And when I looked into it further, it was like half of all the small businesses didn't even know that business like you have a business credit score. And it's like, why is it important? So definitely because obviously building business credit is so important and part of growing your business, you know, a good business credit score can enable you to move easily to acquire financing. And it also like increases the value of your company and all. And another reason, protecting your personal credit. So the first step is always ensuring if you want to finance the financing process to go very smoothly for you, start with your business credit. Really see all your business credit reports. You can go to the three credit bureaus for business as Experian, Equifax, and of course, of course, that in Broadstreet I always recommend, hey, you can go in there, get your business credit report, see what's on there, see what's affecting your credit. You'd be amazed. I mean, it goes as well as personal credit. You'd be amazed if you see any errors that are just sitting there and nobody knows the look and pull it. And then you just find this area that's been affecting you and that's why you can't get business financing. So definitely. Yes, start there.
[00:14:33] Yeah. When someone arrives at your site, how are they already in need of business financing or do you have people that are also just kind of perusing educational basis of how to kind of look at business financing and business credit?
[00:14:49] Usually they're ready to take that step. They're ready to find financing, especially with the with the business calculators. You know, you're able to go and see if you qualify for a loan line of credit, Tahmoor equipment, like whatever you're trying to jail. But what about another thing that I do find for our property investor calculators is that if you are a property investor and you're thinking about getting involved in a property, are screeners are going to be able to allow you to know if you're able to get financing for that building, which is so valuable. So you don't want to get involved in a transaction and find out you're not going to be able to get financing for that property. So that kind of you know, you can go in and sanity check a property as much as you like before getting involved. So that's kind of where that educational piece would fit and suit bound for that property investor.
[00:15:41] Right. Do you find with them? I mean, you mentioned property management. And I think anybody who's been on the news over the past three months has recognized that it's kind of a tenuous time. What have you guys spoken to the COVA 19 pandemic opening properties and, you know, some of them were major cities and having, you know, a fluctuating rent coming in and things of that nature. People not able to provide rent. The government stepping in a little bit later. Landlords taking the bill for that. Do you have any have you implemented any new verbiage or considered any new systems given there, like the recent state of affairs in dealing with property management, things like that?
[00:16:20] Yeah. So actually, I'm glad that you brought that up. So we heard from a lot of a lot of businesses, a lot of property investors who had who had a lot of issues. And one thing that we did on the property side is we actually added refinancing calculators to all of our property calculators. So therefore, that's what a lot of people were doing. They're like, OK, I'm not going to be able to get rent, what am I going to do? And they want to park cash from their building. So they went in and tried to see if they could refinance a out cash to kind of weather the store.
[00:16:53] And then when it came to the business side, a lot of businesses were like, I'm going to you know, I'm applying for the BPP. I'm trying to see if I can get help from the government. And we were just I was sort of saying, hey, like you came out. Wait. You have to be proactive like it's your business if you are needing financing now to kind of bridge that gap. With everything going on right now, it was hard, though, because we had a lot of people who came to us and was like, why went to my lender that I banked with and been with for years? And they're not able to give me a loan right now. So that was a huge hard part was we didn't know who was lending and what the rules were. They were constantly changing. So we actually dropped Cauvin.
[00:17:37] We partnered with a loving capital because we wanted to create a database which is called Leverage Connecting, and we wanted to create that database for those people who were struggling to find the lenders that were lending.
[00:17:51] And we were just saying, go and see if you can see, you know, trying the software green. And if you can, you can for a digital platform, connect with a lender that is ready to lend to you and find you really faster.
[00:18:06] Nice. Do you have. Do you have areas of aid when someone comes in and discovers that their business, credit or lending capital isn't what they wish that it was? Do you have affiliates or people, other companies that you work with in order to help people kind of repair their credit?
[00:18:26] So we don't have that like we don't work with any other companies at this time. But we do have a really good resource center. So it's kind of like, you know, different articles, different blogs and different. I'm just giving free education on kind of what your first steps are. And I always like to provide my information. If anybody wants, like, a 30 minute consultation with me and sit down and kind of look to see where where things are at.
[00:18:52] I'm always happy to do that because that's what I enjoy doing, right? Yeah.
[00:18:58] I mean, to look at what you said, to look under the hood of the underwriting community. What can you kind of illuminate for everyone listening today about what that entails? When you're looking at business, credit and business loan industries.
[00:19:13] Yeah. So let's kind of go back in the day like you were really able to sit with the decision maker. You know, you could walk into a bank and sit down with, like the head of commercial lending and do a transaction. And that person you were sitting with had the authority to pretty much give you the deal right now with, you know, oh, and everything. Like, so much has changed. And you have that relationship banker, you know, out in front to do all the paperwork. And then the underwriter is just completely a ghost, in my opinion. You know, the banker will advocate and fight for your loan. But they do not make the decisions at the end of the day. You know, you have a customer comes in and applies for an eighty thousand dollar loan and they're like, oh, you know, we can only approve you for 50. And then the customer sitting there like, why? And you can't have you don't have any communication with that underwriter to really provide a solid answer. And I can't tell you how many other customers I would come to me in my drinking days who would go to try to get something from a different financial institution. And they didn't receive they just received a letter in the mail saying, oh, your your transaction has been declined. And that was no reason. So I just think, like, a huge, huge, huge problem is the miscommunication of what they were really needing from from the customer.
[00:20:37] And I mean, I feel like the two biggest reasons that it's difficult for people to get approved for a bank loan is just them themselves walking in not prepared, you know, not knowing what they need and how much they really think is realistic for their business.
[00:20:53] People come in with unrealistic expectations. And when you go in for getting any type of financing, you never want to walk into a situation being unprepared and not knowing the outcome especially like, women.I feel like it is so much harder for us to dive into something completely blind and not knowing what will happen in the at like we as women would probably not do it. We're like, no, thank you. I'm good. I'll use my personal credit credit cards, which is horrible. Horrible idea, but true because, you know, you're going into a financing system that at times are stacked against you.
[00:21:30] And so you need to level the playing field and navigate that system with confidence. So that's why, you know, we have the technology now that's available to you. And we just with leverage, we want to answer a simple question like, are you financeable, yes or no? And if it's a yes, you know, and maybe you're having a bank tell, you know, you need to feel comfortable with going to the next lender because like I said before, every lenders are different. There's so many different alternative lenders out there. You know, you can get the financing you need, but you we have to say no because you don't fit their aren't requirements. And, you know, maybe you've only been in business for a year and a half and they need you to be in business for. Two years and, you know, you never know what they're looking for.
[00:22:12] And I mean, now, if you are not getting financed instead of, like, bearing embarrassing yourself in front of a lender, you can take the steps inside the software to become finance. Also, you can go back in the software and see where things must improve to realistically move forward before speaking to a lender. So maybe you need more revenue, maybe a cosigner come into play. If it's credit on, if you have high expenses, like how much do you need to cut back on your expenses, do that. That question is answer within the software. So really, just doing what you can do on your end to be fully prepared before going and speaking to a lender is going to change that conversation and you are going to have such a better outcome. And I always like to say, like, nobody knows the outcome when you're going in and putting your dad into the software because, you know, you're at home, you're at your office desk and you run an analysis. And if you're prequalified, like you go out, when you get freaking empowered, you take that report and give it to that lender. And what we tell our customers is to say, I use a third party software that tells me I'm qualified for this loan. Would you like to continue the conversation with me? And that's pretty much just saying, you know, can you do this deal? Yes or no? And you, the borrower, we're just completely turned the table around because that wonder why you're coming in as one of the most prepared borrowers. And that's not like us. You know, asset leverage saying no. But that's actually feedback that we've received from banks because, well, they've hit up our customer service line being like, where can we get more of these leverage customers? Because they're coming in prepared. And it's making light on them easier, right?
[00:23:55] Yeah. And I think it's crucial to remember that banks are as humaine or as responsible or exploitative as we make them. Yeah. As people. And they haven't been required to be they've been draconian. You know, two thousand eight pointed that out. But even since the repair and things like that and that industries is far from good. And I think that companies like this that return information, education and power back over to the borrower is crucial in moving forward with their financial systems. On the whole. I'm wondering, how does your model work personally with the software? Is it subscription? Is it a one time purchase? How does all of that happen with the and other aspects of tools for free? The calculators. How does all of that play?
[00:24:41] Yeah. So when John was actually pricing the software, how many people actually were telling him to put a one in front of the prices just because like because of the value of what you get from from the calculators. But he didn't want to do that because we didn't want price being a way of getting people into the software and becoming empowered. So it is on a subscription base. So for fifty seven dollars a month is a monthly plan. And that's great for anybody doing like a short one term financing transaction with no additional financing or refinancing predicted.
[00:25:15] And that is a pay as you go cancel any time. And then we also have the one 97 four annual plan. And that's perfect for that person who wants to like sanity, China's new financing opportunities. You will be doing more than one transaction in the year.
[00:25:31] It allows you to preserve your dashboard of data for refinancing purposes. And that plan does include like a 30 day. No questions asked. Money guarantee as well with our software. So anybody who is looking at business or business finance calculator is a cash flow tool that really determines that first reaction of a lender. So you go in and how you use as you input your business information, your expenses, revenue, any add backs that you can put back and you can pretty much string that software green, that means your business is lendable and you can walk into a bank feeling confident. And like I said before, if it's not green, you can really see where your numbers must improve to realistically afford. And then with our property calculators, we have three different ones, multifamily, commercial and mixed use.
[00:26:23] And they all have refinanced calculators, the tops of them, like I said, due to Coalbed. And those actually do really, truly do prete underwriting for those properties. So it really depends on who you are and what you're looking to do for those those type platers. It's an awesome tool for anybody who is looking to invest in commercial property to determine if you're able to obtain financing for that property. Like I said and in addition to that, with each calculator also provides you a leverage report, which is just personalizing financing for containing the transaction metrics that lenders are looking for to initiate and completely jump start that funding conversation. And when a lender receives a leverage report. Look at it and understand it and read exactly what you're wanting to do. Less than two bet. So really, like I said, yes. An opposition gets going.
[00:27:18] Absolutely. I'm curious, what are the plans for leverage for the next one to three years? Is there going to be growth within the utility? And also, before I let it go about the conversation. I mean, it begs the question, especially with the breach some four years ago. Do you guys sell information even anonymously about your accounts or do you share it with other people, lenders, things of that nature? Is it all private and confidential?
[00:27:43] It is all private and confidential. We are a cloud based software, so everything is protected with your username and password. And one thing that we really wanted to be clear about was that when it comes to when you connect with a lender like that, is you connecting with them? We are completely not in the line of loan detail. So once you utilize our software and take that leverage report and then from there it's on you. We don't want to be involved in any other life long process. But so far, our goal is so what?
[00:28:21] With leverage. We've only been in the market for a couple of months now with this new platform leverage. Calkin and you'll like it. This is the sister app from the original, you know, and it's been getting a lot of good traction. We figure that we can be over a thousand users by early fall and hoping for 10000 by next spring and just kind of continuing from there. And some may say that's a little ambitious by our platform is really unique. And, you know, there is nothing in the marketplace that allows business owners the ability to become prequalified. You want to go out and buy your first home without getting prequalified first. Right. So same same kind of thing. But what that also comes like our challenges. You know, when you have a product that no one's really searching for because they don't know what's out there, you really have to you know, it's my job as the business development manager to really organically spread the word. You know, I work on that every day, connecting to people, making connections with people to just helps spread the word of what our software can do. And in an expanding and other goals that we have. We definitely do want to expand into developing some more calculators. There are some unique calculators that we want to kind of get into for different business settings that we can create to serve and empower those businesses like company on building, self-storage, mobile, home, park flippers as a flipping is huge right now. But our our property circulars are really geared toward commercial properties. So that's five units and up. It's not that residential. Wanted to add those flippers. So that's definitely what we want to get into for sure.
[00:30:05] This sounds wonderful. It sounds advantageous since it's going to be a busy ride. Yeah. Closing in Stormi towards the end of the podcast and I have my final question that everyone who listens to this series knows. I always ask and that is if you were out and about this a social distance tomorrow and you bumped into another woman or female identified by another individual who said, listen, you know, I've I have gotten a really great footing in the occupational industry. I've I've done a lot of different career paths. I started off in retail, managing people. I went on I did a bunch of the banking information industry and I now I'm gonna kind of go into this and family run and bad business, credit, financial enterprise.
[00:30:51] What are the top three pieces of advice you would give the individual knowing what you know now from your endeavors?
[00:30:57] That's a really good question. I would have to say for me, giving advice throughout kind of going around that the same career path is really just getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Like if you don't get out of your comfort zone, you might find yourself staying in one place and never seizing different opportunities because you are scared. Like, if I didn't do that, I would not be where I am today. And I really, truly believe that being that discomfort brings engagement and change. And it means that you're doing something that others are and do not be scared of failure if something is not very new to you. Like go out and treat failure as an asset and learn from it. And when you go out of your way to experience new things or when you let things happen to you, you gain so much in terms of personal development. So my advice is get out there and show up for yourself.
[00:31:56] Nice. I love that. I've got to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Do not be scared of failure. Use it as an asset and get out there and engage. You'll love it.
[00:32:11] That's so wonderful. Well, Stormi, we thank you so much for taking the time to meet with us and discuss leverage. I really appreciate it. I think it's been eye opening and kind of considering these aspects of business, credit and lending. And I'm hoping that everyone in the audience found as useful as I did. I appreciate your time today.
[00:32:29] No, thank you so much for having me. And like I said, if anybody wants to reach out to me, please reach out to me personally. My email stormi s-t or am I that Scott ncdot at leverage kelts and that's c a l c dot com. I'd be more than happy to talk to anyone.
[00:32:46] Yeah, that's fantastic. I love that little personal reach out and I'm sure there's plenty of people that need your advice. So thank you again. And for everyone listening, thank you for giving us your time today. We've been speaking with Stormi Scott, business development manager at Leverage. The company's Web site is again leveraged seei l.c dot com. Until we speak your next time. Thank you for your time. And remember to always bet on yourself. Slainte.
Tuesday Aug 18, 2020
Talking with Ahiyana Angel; Founder, Author & Podcast Host
Tuesday Aug 18, 2020
Tuesday Aug 18, 2020
Today I am talking with Ahyiana Angel. Ahyiana is the Founder of Mayzie Media and host of the personal growth podcast Switch, Pivot or Quit. A traditionally published author and speaker, Ahyiana and her work have been featured by Apple, Forbes, Entrepreneur, Girlboss and more. Quit Playing Small is her latest highly buzzed-about book that's a must-have for morning routines.
Key points addressed were
- Ahyiana’s professional chronicle that took her from a prolific PR and jewelry design career into writing 2 books, hosting an influential podcast, and launching Podcast Production company Mayzie Media
- We also discussed Ahyiana’s advice when it comes to the particulars of book writing and publishing and the various experiences she encountered producing both of her books
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I speak with founder, author and podcast host Ahyiana Angel. Key Points address whereAhyiana's professional chronicle that took her from a prolific PR and jewelry design career into writing two books, hosting an influential podcast and launching a podcast production company, Mazey Media. We also discussedAhyiana's advice when it comes to the particulars of book writing and publishing and the various experiences she encountered producing both of her books. Stay tuned for my invigorating talk with Ahyiana Angel.
[00:00:37] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and nonbinary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen ARCOM. You can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:34] Hi, everyone, and welcome back. I'm your host, Patricia.
[00:01:37] And today, I am so excited to be sitting down with Ahyiana Angel. Ahyiana is the founder. She's a founder, a podcast or and an author. You can find out more on one of her Web sites. I'll have her bring in the other one later in the podcast at w w w dot. Switch, pivot or quit dot com. Welcome, Ahyiana.
[00:01:57] Thank you, Patricia, for having me.
[00:01:59] Absolutely. I can't wait to unpack. I know that our audience has written and we were talking off the record about a great deal of aspects of different endeavors that you've kind of climbed through recently. And I can't wait to look at that, namely your book and the process of writing that and getting it published, as well as looking at your podcast. It's got a prolific history and following, as well as your Web site, some of the core tenants in the ethos behind what you do and for everyone who's listening who might be new to the podcast. I will read a quick bio on Icona to kind of give you a platform before I ask her to kind of expand on that herself. But before I do that, a trajectory in which the line of inquiry for today's podcast will come from a road map for all of you to follow. I will first ask Ahyiana to kind of unpack her personal, professional and academic history as it relates to the work that she's doing now. We'll then dove straight into unpacking her professional chronicle. So we will look at all of her endeavors, writing the book, her website, as well as her podcasts and anything else she's involved in this kind of forming the ethos of her brand, her business, and perhaps her future endeavors will then turn to looking at goals that I own a house for the next one to three years, with all of her work spanning across all of her different activities. And then we'll wrap everything up with advice at Ahyianami. For those of you who are looking to get involved, perhaps emulate some of her career success as promised. A quick bio on Ianna. Before I start peppering her with questions, Man Angel is the founder of Mazey Media and host of Personal Growth podcast Switch, Pivot or Quit, a traditionally published author and speaker,Ahyiana and her work have been featured by Apple, Forbes, Entrepreneur, Girl, Boss and more Quit Playing Small. Is her latest hype highly buzzed about book? That's a must have for. Morning routines and we'll unpack all of that. Ianna, before we get to the book and all of the kind of exciting things you're doing. I was hoping you could draw some a stage or a background platform of your personal history, your academic history and your professional history as it leads to and pertains to what you're doing now.
[00:03:59] So that's a great question. I haven't I haven't had it posed like that.
[00:04:05] So my personal background is that I am from California, born and born and raised, and I am the oldest of four siblings, which I think plays into. I think you could say my leadership tendencies. You know, you have to become a leader early on in the household when you're the oldest. Right. And have a lot of responsibility and all of those things. So I think that's a part of that foundation has helped me to sort of navigate all the different challenges that have come our way. And not that there's been a ton. It's just life happens. Right. So my undergrad, my undergraduate degree in business administration and my concentration was marketing. But funny enough, I was one of those people. And this ties into sort of my whole growth getting to where I am now. I was one of those people who heavily consulted with my parents, namely my father, about my career choice, what I was going to do. And he obviously wanted me to do something. I was going to make any money, but also that I would be remotely interested in. So when I first initially went to college, I thought that I was going to be in a physical therapy program. I thought that that was gonna be my route that I was going to take. And then I got into my very first physics class and I was like, girl, this is not for you. This is not going to work. So science wasn't my thing. So then I said, okay, I'm gonna go to the College of Business. And I thought, OK, I see my dad. He's in that whole tech sort of I.T. space. And so I said, OK, I could do this, I can make good money. And then I got into the first class and all these zeros and ones and I was like, this does not make any sense to me. So once again, I had to switch things up and I ended up finding myself in marketing because for me it was a nice compromise between doing something that was business related, but also creative. And I just found myself feeling like this could open up a ton of different avenues for me. And I really didn't know where it was going to take me. So I ended up taking internships and marketing spaces. I had an internship at Showtime Networks through this amazing program called the T. Howard Foundation. And I also ended up getting an internship at the game show network just as I was graduating my senior year. And that's what introduced me to PR. And so when I was introduced to PR, I didn't really know what I could do with it. But I quickly realized that there were a lot of crossover with the skills that I had and the skills that were required to succeed in that field. So I ended up staying in that field and eventually making my way to New York from L.A. to New York and working at the National Basketball Association, doing sports entertainment PR. And so that was very exciting at the beginning, that the first three years. It was just like this amazing experience. It was a dream job. It was a dream company to be working for. But then eventually, this is where it comes back around. I started tapping back into how I really felt, what I really wanted to be doing and what was in like an alignment with me as a person as I was starting to get to know myself. And in the midst of that, I realized I wanted to tap into my creativity more. And so I did just that. And I started a jewelry line while I was working my nine to five. And it did really well, like our stuff. Our jewelry was worn by beyond, say, and like Lauryn Hill and some amazing people. But what that did was that introduced me to the idea of entrepreneurship and what could be possible with it. It also introduced me to other people who were doing it successfully. So eventually I got to a point where I said, you know what, I want to do something more. I feel I'm feeling I'm having this strong tug that there's more that I should be doing. I just don't know exactly what it looks like. And then that's what led me to making the transitions, because at a certain point, I felt like I had checked all the boxes. I had done everything that was expected of me. So now was time for me to start to venture into the space of what do you really want? What really feels right to you? And so that's sort of how I started coming into this journey of creating the switch, pivot or equip podcast and doing writing and doing all the other things that I do now.
[00:08:38] It's interesting because your story, you know, a lot of people think that they quit something when they're miserable or whatever, but you've got this magnificently successful career. And then you've got this magnificently successful moonlighting endeavor with the jewelry. And you still chose to kind of switch and ask to have that internal dialog about self happiness and things like that.
[00:08:57] What do you think promoted you continuing on? You know, you have two forms of success that you came into. But this is this persistent issue that you have with kind of re dialoging with yourself about what makes you happiest and things like that. Do you have an impetus that kind of caused you to continue to question or do you think it was just kind of an inborn thing?
[00:09:18] I think it was kind of an important thing, I think I'm just that type of person that's always looking for freshness. That's always. It's not that I'm not settled in spaces. It's just that I feel like I could be doing more. And it's not that perfection or, you know, really driving yourself and not really ever appreciating your accomplished accomplishments type of. I feel I could be I could be doing more. It's more along the lines of what's out there. This is a huge world with a ton of options and possibilities. And the more that I get introduced to things, the more that certain things may piqued my interest or I may feel called to a different direction. Or I may feel like I could be of service or I could really succeed in a certain space, or I start to see and learn things about myself that I didn't know before, which helps me to get interested in how I could pull more of that out. So I think it's more of an internal thing versus something that's coming from the outside in making me think that I need to, you know, switch favorite or quit.
[00:10:24] Yeah. And they talk I mean, a lot of people talk about the mystique of entrepreneurs, you know, and the spirit of entrepreneurism kind of being something that's just this hunger within or things of that nature. So it doesn't come with that. OK. So I'm curious, you switch out of both of these endeavors in the jewelry and the PR. And I'm wondering what happened. First, you have this prolific podcast. You have, you know, hundreds of episodes. And did that happen? Did you immediately develop this brand? Did you write your first book? Which Endeavor Came First?
[00:10:57] So while I was working, I was working also on my first book so I would wake up an hour earlier than I needed to get ready for work, which I hated because I'm not really a morning person. And I would work on this book. I would be writing and I'd be half asleep writing, but I had this goal to finish.
[00:11:17] So it took me about nine months of working on this book while still working in my full time job. And once I was done with the book or I felt like I was in a place that it was done. That's when I started entertaining, putting in my notice and just really taking this series in terms of trying my hand at becoming an author. And for me, it wasn't about entrepreneurship. It was more about finding my happiness. You know, I was no longer satisfied doing what I was doing day to day. It wasn't making me happy. And so I said, I need to figure out what's going to make me happy and I need to go in that direction. And I don't know what that's going to look like. There was a ton of uncertainty, but I was open to it because I also had confidence in myself. I said I can't control everything. I don't know everything that's going to come our way. Or what I do know is that I can give my best. And I know the things that I'm skilled at and I can use that to make this a better situation. So the book writing came first and then I quit the job. Then luckily, I was really, really extremely blessed to have an opportunity about four months after I quit the job to get a traditional book publishing offer. And I was completely novice to all of this. I didn't even know when I got the offer. I called my editor and I was like, is this like, good?
[00:12:40] Like, is this something I should be like doing? And she's like a yarn. Are you kidding me?
[00:12:44] So many authors that I'm working with right now who would kill to be in your position? I was like, OK, I'm happy. OK, this is good. This is good. So for me, it was a process of just taking things as they were coming and doing what I knew I needed to be doing and following sort of like that internal voice as well. Because when I first quit, I didn't know that I was going to get this publishing deal. But I remember having a conversation with my dad and I was deciding on investing in this. This editor.
[00:13:12] And it was a lot of money at the time, seeing as how I had just quit my full time job. And so I was like, you know, should I do this? And he just asked me a question. He was like, Do you believe in yourself? Do you believe in this project? And I was like, Yeah, of course I do. And he's like, didn't do it. What decision is there? If you believe in it, do it. And I was like, OK, I'm gonna do it. And that's sort of like what kicked off all all the other things falling in place. And then eventually, once I wrote the book once again, I was very, very fortunate to have the book come out a little less than a year of me starting this process. Usually it takes minimum a year for a book to be published. And so for me, it came out. I did this book tour and I was starting to realize how people were gravitating to my story and the changes that I had made in my life and the decisions that I made, because I also not only left my job and rurals, this book, I left my job, wrote this book, or got an opportunity to get it published. But I also left New York and went to London and lived there for about four months. Traveled around and had some amazing experiences, so people were like, how are you doing this? And I want to do more of what you're doing, maybe not follow the exact same path, but I'm interested in shaking up my life, basically. And that's what eventually brought me to the podcast and to switch, pivot or quit, because I realized that I was uniquely qualified to tell that story, to tap into what that looks like and to be that person to help share those stories with other people. The stories that I would have wanted to listen to when I was sitting at my desk on Fifth Avenue in midtown Manhattan trying to figure out what the heck am I going to do next? So that's how I got to the podcast. And this switch proved that a quick conversation, because I knew how it felt to be having these feelings. But you don't exactly know what to do with it. And then you don't know what other people are doing and your peers may not be experiencing the same thing at the same time. So then you start to feel isolated and alone in these feelings as well. So I wanted to create a conversation that let people know that they weren't, you know, going crazy.
[00:15:22] Yeah, absolutely. Really quickly, before we drop into the podcast and some of its particulars, what how did you find your editor for the first book? Did you do a search?
[00:15:30] Did you have a referral? We've had a lot of people write in. Namely, people who want me to ask authors to come on this show. Asking about locating it can be a predatory situation. Finding an editor. Finding a publisher. You know, self publishing. And we can climb into that later when we talk about your second book. But I want to get into how you personally found your first original editor and how you knew whether or not the price was fair. You talked about having this long conversation with your father about it, but how did you find that individual and how did you deduce that they were legitimate and fair?
[00:16:00] Sure. So what even brought me to an editor was when I was maybe three quarters of the way done with the book. I started querying agents and the query process can be a bit daunting and intimidating as well, because you read all this stuff that says tons of people query these agents and their query letters and all the time, and then some agents don't even accept unsolicited queries. So you also it's a combination of you having to find the right agent who represents the projects in your genre, as well as them being interested in what you're pitching. So you have to pitch them and they have to believe in you because they ultimately have to sell the project. Right. So I had gotten quite a few responses where people were interested. But I remember this one rejection. I was sitting in a hotel room in Miami at the NBA finals in the office room, basically working. And I checked my personal email and I got a rejection from this agent and he basically said, I love this story. I love where it's going. But I unfortunately, I can't take this to my editors sees me. He said, I can't take this to my editors right now as it is. That crushed me. But what I have to do is take a step back and realize, OK. So he's saying it's a good project with potential. It just needs to be cleaned up and tightened up by an editor. So that's what brought me to actually hiring my own editor, because unfortunately, publishing is very similar to the music business right now. You see all these indie artists that you picked up or labels want to pick them up? Well, it's the same thing with publishing. They want you to come to the table with a project that's pretty much ready to go, ready to hit the shelves, ready to be sold and ready to be pushed. So I had to hire my own editor and that's where the process came in and the conversation with my dad. But how much do you believe in this project? So what I did was I started doing the research about editing, what types of editing, because I didn't even know that there were different types of editors who edit for different things. Right. And so I started to realize what type of editor I needed. And then I also started to get an idea of what type of fees editors were charging. This editor that I decided to go with. She was a recommendation. A quick other little note that I think I should mention only because it was very random, but it worked out in my favor. I was at work doing some research, found this thing called office hours. I don't even know if they do it anymore, but it was where professionals lend their time and their expertize to people just simply for nothing because they want to do good. So you can sign up. And so I did that and I got in touch with this woman who was an agent. Her and I ended up becoming friendly. We met up for drinks one evening and she is what I told her everything that was going on, my process. She's the one that told me about this, Ed, that ended up going with. She told me about the Ed come to find out that Ed and I also had another mutual friend. So at this point, I felt comfortable with her that she wasn't going to, like, take my money and run or, you know, that she was a reputable person. And she was also on a higher end because she had worked at a lot of the larger publishing houses and still was working with them. So she was not just an editor who says, hey, I can edit your work for you. She was someone with a proven track record. So that's why the price point was there as well. So when I ended up hiring her, it was actually a great process and an easy process, working with her and her, giving me the feedback. We met up in person a few times. So that's nice. If you're in the same city as a person or you can meet on Zoom. But I think the main thing is you need to do your research and you need to see who else is vouching for this person, because it can be a situation where someone tells you that you're an editor, but maybe they're not qualified to edit your work. That's the other thing. Just like with an agent, you want to make sure that the editor that you choose, that they are also interested in the genre, that you write it because you don't want to get a sci fi editor and you're doing a romance novel. They may not edit the same way or see the potential or see where you're trying to go with it. So I know that that was a lot, but I really want to share the full process because there's layers to getting to where you have to actually or where you actually want to be, right?
[00:20:35] Yeah, absolutely. And no, I think it's wildly useful information. I know a ton of entrepreneurs and savvy business established people like, you know, looking at writing books. And it's an area that just keeps transforming itself and needs to be discussed before we let it go. I do want to ask you personally, did you the utility of your editor and did they indeed edit your work? Did they guide the refinement? What kind of a role did they play for you?
[00:21:01] Absolutely. So she went through and she did the editing for the words Escape Me right now, but she did the editing for this specific, like sentence structure and everything. And then she also did the editing for the continuity in the story, like I remember, for one example. Couple different places in the novel. I mentioned a cab, but then I mentioned a taxi in another place and she's like, you have to be consistent if you're going to call it a cab. Call it a cab. If you're going to call it a taxi. Call it a taxi. And those types of things I would have missed. I didn't know the importance of that. But that's the kind of attention to detail that she had. And also she in her note, she asked questions. Maybe you want to think about adding this. Maybe you want to think about fleshing this out a little bit more. It feels like there could be more to this portion to paint the picture. You know, so she was really, really thorough. She was very thorough. And I appreciated her for that. And her name is Ricky Reynolds. If anybody is thinking maybe she could be the girl for me, too. She and she's really amazing. And she's no nonsense in the sense that she's not here to be your best friend. She's here to do the best work possible. And she's serious about editing your work really well.
[00:22:16] Nice. That's a great shout out, Rakeysh. So I want to turn now I want to pivot to looking at your podcast. It sounds like it came about, you know, with the advent of your first book.
[00:22:28] I want to know, can you kind of cite a rough year or time period in which it was launched and the scope of it when it was launched, if you had a clear, concise idea or if you just wanted it to accompany your current endeavors, what was the whole motivation behind launching it and kind of the structure? Oberon's the original launch.
[00:22:46] Sure. So I launched in twenty seventeen January twenty seventeen, if I'm not mistaken. So it's been about three and a half years that I've been doing it. And when I launched, I was running a program running a platform on social media by a different name. And so I thought this could be a good continuation of those conversations via the podcast. But I also was a podcast listener, so I knew that I wanted the structure to be in such a way that. You knew what you were gonna get when you started listening to an episode, just how, you know, you ran down at the top of the show, what people can expect to listen to. That's what I liked to hear when I was listening to a podcast because was nothing more frustrating than looking at a podcast title, being 20, 30 minutes in. And they're still talking about their weekend with a all these, you know, things that don't matter to me, you know. And so I said, I want to have a very tight structure and I want people to get the most that they can get, the most goodness that they can out of these podcast episodes. So I'm not here for the fluff. I do not want the fluffy stuff at all. So for me, I knew exactly where I wanted to take the podcasts and the conversations. When I started it, I, I did have some hiccups in the beginning because it was called it had a different name and switch privative quit was just a segment. And then I realized, no, this is with this switch, pivot or quit name is really speaking to the real conversation that I want to have. The overall theme of everything. So this needs to be the name of it. So I ended up switching the name a few months in. And for me. I just wanted to create a conversation that would be beneficial to other people. And I realize that with so many people coming to me asking me about my story on my journey, people wanted to hear these types of stories. So I just knew that I had to be the person to tap into them. It wasn't like I had this, you know, extreme grand thought out marketing plan as to how I was going to use this podcast. Really, this podcast was just a channel for me to be helpful to other people.
[00:24:54] Yeah, so I and I've listened to episodes. I went back in your history to listen to some old ones and I've listened to the most recent ones. And and you do have this as you said, you've kind of created everything around the ethos. And I'm curious about the curation because you still have a lot a huge arena that you can draw from and you're still going to have to edit it down, as it were. You know, you've spoken to people about utility, about efficacy of their work schedule. You bring on women, or at least the ones I listen to where women are female, identified individuals with them. All of these different caveats as to, you know, how to increase your span and climbing in the workforce. A lot of people talk to I listen to one where you had two women on and one was advising that you start, you know, taking meetings with people and writing those those meeting notes down for yourself so that you keep them accountable. All these little tidbits that people can kind of incorporate into their wife. But I'm wondering how you curate who you bring on. I mean, how do you compose? Because you bring specialists on or people from different fields that have these really great pieces of advice for all umbrella. But how do you yourself compose that? Do you sit down on a monthly or weekly ledger? Do you let it kind of play out organically? How does that work?
[00:26:05] I actually let it play out organically. You would think that I have a much more like.
[00:26:11] Involved scheduling process or anything, but no, I think that a part of the beauty for the Switch to Quit podcast is the organic nature of it. I truly speak to people that I'm interested in hearing their story. Someone may have a great switch, private equity story, but if it doesn't move me and if I'm not interested, then unfortunately I don't want to hear from them because I don't think my audience will want to hear from them. I want to hear from people who I would have wanted to hear from or who have something to say that I think would have been useful when I was in the midst of transition. That's simply what it comes down to. That is the guiding light for the podcast. It's like so many people now are pitching to be on podcasts because they think it's a great way to market yourself and get yourself in front of other people's audience. And while it is, it has to make sense. People people who don't take any time to listen to our podcast before they pitch me, they pitch a man to me and they don't even realize I've never interviewed or spoken to a man on the podcast. Never. Never. So you could save yourself some time, you know. But what happens is people just get so caught up in the me, me, me of things that they don't think about. I'm trying to serve an audience here. I don't care about what your story is. I don't care about what your product that you're selling is. If it's not going to be beneficial for a group of people, if it's not going to be beneficial, I don't care about it. So that's really what my process looks like. I don't have some extreme process. I don't vet guests like, you know, get on the phone with them first and ask them 90 questions. No, it's about the feeling that I get. And do I think you're coming from an honest and authentic space? Do I think when I ask you questions, you're gonna give me cookie cutter answers or do I think you're gonna give me the raw answer that you didn't think about before a day before getting on this podcast interview? You know, I want people to come from a very honest and genuine and raw space so that other people can really connect with what they're saying, what they're sharing, because we're all trying to figure this life thing out.
[00:28:15] We don't have perfect answers for everything. But what we can share is our experiences. What we can share is what we've learned from our experiences. And if you're not willing to share that in an honest way, I don't want to talk to you. That's just what it comes down to.
[00:28:29] No, and it's marketing, too. You know, I always say I tell a lot of people I speak on a lot of podcasts about, you know, how how to start out podcasts and things like that, because I have so many and I say it's still the Wild West and confusing for people.
[00:28:42] You know, a podcast can take any form, it can be any length. They can do anything it wants. But the truth is, is that the true divisive line is that you have some podcasts that are truly about marketing and then you have others that are investigating something. Any number differences. And I think that some people get confused and try to go with their marketing agenda onto an investigative platform. And that's where the disparity can come up that you're talking about. And I truly agree to its podcast. For me, one of the most beautiful things about them is the transparency. It's supposed to hostile rhetoric, you know, and it's supposed to do so without having to have a degree in broadcast journalism. Anybody add up and share their story and their voice and it becomes authentic and real and some you tenuously a whole new genre of media that no one really knows what to do and how to classify it. And I love it for all of that. And so I think the marketing I feel like we just need channels for the marketing. So it kind of stays separated a little bit from the more authentic and real voice that you're talking about. Is that when you started just for people who are out there and listening about some of the logistics, how did you decide how many episodes you were going to release a week? How did you decide some of those earlier things? Did it change as you started doing? You know, if you started classing over into the hundreds mark? What episode do you know roughly are you on right now? And what's been some of the like the transformation that's happened with it?
[00:29:58] Sure. I think I'm about to 60 something right now. Two hundred and sixty something. I started off doing twice a week, so I used to do well. It was once a week and twice a week, sort of like this short timeframe. They blended together. But I started off doing weekly episodes because I at first I thought I could do like every other week. But then I quickly realized, like, why would you hold back? Go full throttle. And these are conversations that need to be heard. And if you really want to get people engaged in this conversation, you have to keep showing up for them. You can't give them too much time off. Right. So that was me trying to introduce the podcast and the conversation to people. Then I started doing this thing called Seven Minutes Sunday, because at the time I was having these musings that I really wanted to share in the podcast wasn't about me and my voice. Right. So I was from the beginning, I was interviewing people that it was very interview heavy and it wasn't about telling my stories so much so or giving my perspective so much. So when I started the seven minute Sundays is because more people wanted to hear from me and my thoughts on different things. So I started sharing those on Sundays because Sundays were the days that I dreaded the most. Right. A lot of people call the Sunday Skerries all these different things. Right. I have to go back into the week. Oh, my gosh. I don't feel like doing this. Or like, I just want Sunday to never end. Right. So I started off with that mindset of if we're talking about a switch, pivot or quit, we're talking about people who are in the midst of transition or entertaining a transition. So they may be feeling that way on a Sunday. Right. So what can I do to help serve them on a Sunday? To give them something to be motivated to go into the week or maybe shift their outlook on things or give them something to be excited about or positive about? So I started doing seven minute sundaes, did those for a while. Well over a year. And then eventually I got to a point more recently.
[00:32:00] So about two years, I would say to two and a half years I did weekly episodes without fail. And then I got to a point where I realized that especially some of my new listeners, they were having a hard time keeping up. You also have to pay attention to the landscape. Like you said, podcasting is still like the wild, wild west. You have some shows that are daily. You have some shows that are multiple times a week. You have some shows at their frequency is really, really high. Right. They have a loyal listenership. You have to pay attention to your listeners and your audience and who they are, what they have going on in their life. I realize there are a lot of working mothers in my community of listeners, and a lot of times people can't make the time to listen to a podcast like they want to. The intentions are there. The intentions are good, but sometimes they just can't make the time or now they're being torn because there's a lot of different options of things that you can listen to. And, you know, before when I first started, I feel like it wasn't as many options. Right. So now there's more options. There was more voices in the space. So they have to decide where they're going to go and how much time they're going to devote to these different podcasts. So I started to pull back and I started to do every other week for a little while because I wanted to give people time to catch up. And I wanted to give people time to actually listen. I'm not producing this stuff just to say that I produce it. I did it. I'm producing it so that it can bring value into your life. But if you don't have the time to listen to it or if you haven't had the time to catch up and I just keep producing more episodes, is it really benefiting you? So that's where I have sort of gotten to at this point. Right now I'm doing weekly episodes for like the next two month months because I'm also incorporating older episodes. I'm doing reboots so that people who haven't been listening from the beginning can tap back in to some of the great conversations that were had way early on and that are still relevant.
[00:33:51] That's very clever. And I've talked to a lot of people that have done this, the idea of kind of, you know, and they've they've edited down, they've spliced it back in. They've come back in with commentary. And it's some of my most favorite work with some of the most prolific podcasters I've spoken to, because you grow as a podcast or any way and to reflect back and say, you know, at this point and I'm not sure how you're doing yours, but this kind of editorial content and weighing in on yourself or the other previous formats is I think I love it. I do. I mean, I'd love it for someone else. You know, people ask why I'm not doing it. And I'm like that nerve wracking, you know, looking older version of me. I'm always like who is she.
[00:34:29] I know right. Ha!
[00:34:33] I love the idea and the ones that I've listened to, there's nothing better than someone going back over their older work and giving you a latter day commentary on it. It's just a beautiful thing, particularly for me, for a female voice, because the female mind has always been so reflective in my life. I wanted to ask you about. We have a lot of people who write in, and because you're such a prolific podcast and you have such a like a wonderfully bird's eye view of everything, you have this PR background and things like that, sponsorship and partnership and all of these things, again, still very undocumented. I've spoken to a lot of people who have gone. I spoke with someone who had three episodes out of a podcast and immediately was acquired and she was on her history in PR and marketing. And she just started reaching out like with this ferocity, you know, and it was just responded to by these major conglomerates is with excitement. So there are people that want to do as such and at least receive some kind of compensation or partnering with people but don't know. How did you yourself how long did it take? Did you have you reached out? You have sponsorship or partnership? If so, how long did it take you to do it? And who advised you? How did you know how to reach out to. How did you find your applicable partners? How did all of that work?
[00:35:46] So I was podcasting well over a year before I started doing hosts read ads. So there were ads running on my show, but they weren't read by me.
[00:36:00] So that it wasn't about. It wasn't until about a year. And then I started doing that and they started coming my way. Actually, I had a agency come to me and want to represent me, and I was like, OK, we could do this. And so that's where I sort of started my introduction to it. But for me, I knew that there was potential to incorporate ads and to be able to generate revenue in that way. But it wasn't a focus of mine. And I think that that was beneficial because. It didn't make me alter my content early on to please a certain audience. You know, my ah, my content was already flowing. It was already in the vein that it was going to be in. Once these people came on board. And so it's like either you like what I'm doing and you want to be a part of it or you don't. And we would never have a conversation if you don't. Right. So it's fine. So for me, it was a very natural progression. But I do think that a lot of people start podcasting because they think that it's going to be a money maker. And I think the thing you have to realize is that the average podcasts and numbers have probably changed a little bit. But the average podcasts, let's just say you're somebody who starts a podcast. Nobody knows you. You're trying to build traction with this podcast. You're probably gonna get less than 200 people listening per episode. That's normal. And so many people see some of the larger podcasters and attraction that they have and they start podcasting thinking that that's where they should be going. That's what they should be aiming to do. But what you have to realize is sometimes people that come into this space who are able to do large numbers like that, either they've already been in the space in another way, showed up on another show, whatever, they have some history. They may be already have some type of celebrity or following some type of fan fair behind them, and they're able to transfer that over. So I say don't put pressure on yourself to get advertisers from the beginning because you want to make sure that you maintain the integrity of your show before you start looping other people into the conversation. Podcasting is a very intimate experience. We all know that it's just like you and this person. It feels very one on one. So before you start bringing in an advertiser and potentially tainting that relationship, you want to make sure that the listener has a chance to get to know you first before they start getting to know all these other brands that you're potentially working with. And that's just how I feel being on the indie side. I know when you go into a space where you get acquired by a larger network or things like that, you don't have as much say. So it's about the money. It's about the dollars. What how can we do numbers? How can we get more advertisers and. Right. So those are the things that you need to be mindful of as well as well. It's like where are you showing up in the podcasting space? Yes. And yet I kind of like my I don't answer your questions.
[00:39:05] It does. No, it does. And I think there's a lot there's a lot to explore there. And, you know, you can Google it and it comes up with kind of a bland stereotypical like here's how here's what you want, pictures which want to do. But I always like to encourage people as well to really think about the tradeoff.
[00:39:18] I am very protective, creative property, you know, and also ID if you know, if you have someone if you're going with them, there is these like as you kind of mentioned, I'm not sure if it's the same thing, but there's these kind of conglomerate agent type people that, you know, if you have a certain amount of listeners or you're in a certain genre, want to attach ads. But then you have to ask yourself whether or not you identify with those ads. I like you. I'm in a huge space with female film identified, not binary individuals. There's a lot of major companies that have A.I. rhetoric for trans communities. And, you know, my podcast was inadvertently attached to that. Then I would immediately not service that community. Or so you have to be a little bit more cognizant rather than just kind of looking for getting funding. You know, I think that it's hysterical. The idea of of of making money off of it is you probably not in the right game. I'd say play like the craps tables in Vegas before asking if you're looking for money, like that's your better odds are over there.
[00:40:15] Yeah. What we didn't touch on and what I should say is that in order to in order for a typical advertiser to be interested in you like the big box guys. Right. That it may lead the B to C, people like Casper Madres, all these different people we regularly see show up in the space. Right. Those people want you to have them. They do it by cost per thousand CPM. And that means that you have to have a minimum of, let's say, two thousand, not even 1000, let's say a minimum of two thousand people listening per episode. And what did I tell you before? Sometimes it's hard for most people to get two hundred people listening, let alone two thousand. And that's not to be negative. And it's not to bring you down and shoot your dreams down. It's just to say, let's be realistic. Realistically, this is what these people are looking for, because this is industry standard, if you will, even though it's the wild, wild West and it's what makes sense for them to try and get there are a wide. So you have to be mindful of what you bring to the table and what they're looking for you to bring to the table before you start trying to enter these conversations about potential advertising sponsors, because you might be getting in over your head if you do it too early, especially.
[00:41:34] Most definitely. And there's coaches, there's all sorts of things out there now for podcasters and things which again, I encourage people that invest heavily, you know, really look at people's background as much as they're going to be looking at yours and your numbers. Quickly switch over to talking about your most recent book. Before we run out of time. Quit playing small. Yes.
[00:41:57] There for people who are watching the vodcast. It's right there. We were talking you gave me like a little bread cart before we started recording. And you talked about the cover art. So I want to start with that. What is the story behind that?
[00:42:09] So I actually went to ninety nine designs and had this cover art drawn up.
[00:42:16] What I did was I found someone who creative projects similar to what the feel was that I wanted to go for. They had a little fun. They had a little creativity. But the thing that I think people think they can do, especially self publishing, this book is self published. This is my second book is self published. But I always knew from the very beginning that when you're self publishing, you want your book to be able to sit on the shelf next to a traditionally published book. And no one can tell the difference. That's what the goal is. So I knew with my cover, I wanted it to give a certain feel. I wanted it to pop. Had you ever been in a bookstore? Most of us don't go on bookstores as much anymore. Right. But if you're walking them out and you see something and it pops out to you and then you look at the back cover. Right. I knew that it needed to pop. I knew I didn't know anything about the color combination that I wanted or anything. I just gave the designer direct. I told him told her what projects that I like that she had done. And then I told her what kind of look and feel I was going for. And I also told her what the vibe was of the book. What type of content we were delivering. You have to sort of like basically give this background or what you're looking for the designer to create because you can't just say this is the name of my book, create something. You have to give them an idea of what the feeling is that you want the reader to have when they look at the book. This book is supposed to be for your morning routine. Right. Daily inspiration for your morning routine. When you look at this, I want you to feel happy. I don't want you to feel like home. I'm going to pick up that book off my nightstand. I want you to be excited, like, oh, look at this. These big red lips, it just gives me fire and energy. Let's go for the day. Where am I gonna flip to? That's how you want to look at it. And then you also want to be conscious of with a cup with the back cover, looks like as well. What's going to make it pop? Have your picture on it. Have a great picture. A really high resolution picture this side, the spine of the book as well. When this is on a shelf and you can't see the cover, is this still going to pop out to you at least enough to where it catches your eye a little bit? So all of these things are important when you're talking about the cover of a book. You can work your hardest and put the most amazing content in your book. But if the cover does not speak to people, nobody is going to open it and you want them to open it.
[00:44:49] Yes. Absolutely, and also I love that those pieces of information. It's so true. I mean, we haven't even talked about the kind of the core aspects of the book. And we've already climbed through like a great deal of the ethos of it. You know, I can kind of get a feel for all of it. It also strikes me, as you know, you've kind of zoned in on an audience with the art alone, whether or not you intended to. It feels directed towards my people, you know, feels it towards women of a certain caliber of a professional statue. Those types of things without even reading the verbiage, you know, the colors, the art, everything that you're talking about. It does speak to all of that I want to climb into. Well, when you were writing it. Who were you writing it for? What did you keep your audience in mind? And what are they like them? Five main key points. If you were forced to boil it down or are less than five that you want people to take away from it.
[00:45:37] So when I was writing it, I was definitely writing it for my switch, pivot or quick audience on that podcast we talk about, we ask guests about their morning routine. I've talked to them before about my morning routine. We talk about staying motivated and just things that are going to make you continue to go throughout this journey. We talk about the fact that our careers, our lives are a journey. Right. So I wanted to create something that would accompany people on that journey. It didn't have to be. This is the other thing. Like you guys may have figured out about me by now. I don't like the fluff. Right. I can't stand when you're reading a book and you're like this far in. And you still haven't gotten to the meat of what they're trying to tell you. It's like, no, I just give me the goods. Like, that's all I need. So I decided I want to create. I wanted to create something that would be able to kind of like smack people in the face, sometimes, lift them up other times. Tell them grow. Get it together sometimes. Give them a little hug. Other times, you know. So all of these entries are super, super short. Like, it's very, very, like approachable in the way that it's position. And that's because I also knew that my audience was ambitious women who are out there on the go trying to get things done. Sometimes their morning routine cannot consists of an entire hour. They may have fifteen minutes. And if they can spend two of those minutes reading something from this book, getting their mind right and getting them positively pushed in the right direction, then I did my job, you know. And so when it comes to like, what do I want them to walk away from this book with? I want them to walk away encouraged. I want them to walk away inspired. I want them to walk away feeling like they can. I want them to walk away understanding that a lot of this comes from what I've learned off of my journey. So you're not alone in the things that you're experiencing or even things that you're thinking. Right. So I just want them to feel like they're a part of a community and that somebody gets what's happening with them.
[00:47:48] Yeah, that's wonderful. I love that. It's I mean, how could anyone not want that? You know, I do love the concise. I do. I get very into these, like, grabby. You know, I do like the novel as well. But I think that right now, especially for that genre, you know, getting these really quick tidbits of like empowerment and structure and just things to kind of set the intention for the day and really requestion and reorganize like you're talking about is amazing. I want to turn now really quickly to. You have so many things that you've done thus far. And so I love asking people, particularly of your candor, because I'm curious as to what the next one to three years do. You look at your life that way? Do you. Do you put it in form of format? Do you do vision boards? Do you just say forget it? I'm taking it as it comes. How do you set up your goals and what do those goals look like for you?
[00:48:37] You know, I wish I could tell you guys that I'm more of this goal oriented person that just breaks everything down and goes, what? I do write things down and I do write some goals down. And I have an awareness of what I want and where I want to go. But I don't dwell on it. I don't stress myself out about it. So for me, a lot of I have those goals and those things that I identify with. A lot of it is. I just have faith that I'm gonna be OK, that things are going to work out in my favor. I say every morning I got this from Jen and Cheryl. I say I receive all the good that life has to offer me. That is how I move. So I feel like if I'm moving in, that space is really is it is really hard for a ton of bad things to just be, you know, and I and I'm going I don't have the time to let my mind swirl and worry about what's not going right and what's not happening. It's like, let me focus on the positive. And in the back of my mind, having an idea of where I want to go with things. So for me, I want to continue to build amazing media. That's something that I know. But I'm even pivoting in the way that I'm structuring mazy media, in the way that I'm going about doing the work that I do with Mazey media. But the only way that you can pivot is if you start somewhere. I had to get started in order to see some things that I would potentially want to do different. So I'm a big person that loves I'm big on action, I should say. So I think that's why sometimes I don't get stuck on the goals in writing everything down and all this stuff because I'm too busy doing I'm doing well all the time. Somebody else is set their thought about a vision, board it, it and everything else. I'm done. And I now I figured out what works and what doesn't work. Right. So sometimes I think we can hold ourselves back and we can play small when we try and do too much planning. Right. So for me, that's one of my big goals, is expanding mazy media and really digging more into the corporate side, because I think that there's a lot of conversations that can be had over there that are not being had internally. So I'm digging way more into that now, working with corporations, a lot more to develop conversations via a podcast. And I'm also working with more original content now, working on developing a lot more original content for the mazing media platform. And when I say original content content that has come from within the company and not outside the company, somebody bringing it to us saying, hey, we want to see if you would want to, you know, help us produce the show that we're already producing. And then I'm also working on just speaking of quit playing smart, there's going to be a podcast for this. There's going to be a podcast for this with quick doses of inspiration. So I'm working on that as well. That'll come toward the end of the year. And I'm just working on obviously just trying to be the best version of myself. That's what I'm always trying to do. And I feel like as long as I'm working on being the best version of myself, nothing but goodness is going to come from that or as a result of that, absolutely good intention to the light of enlightenment.
[00:51:44] I love it. All right. So we're fine. We're wrapping up at my final question. Ask every guest, and I can always ask you, because you're your last book was based on advice. And so I'm wondering if you walked up to someone in a safe so so distance in a Gardiner Park tomorrow. And for the sake of this question, it's a female woman identified or non binary individual. And they said, listen, I'm so glad I found you. We have a friendship of a mutual friend in common. She's recommended I talk to you. I've had this prolific career and I had, you know, a side hustle that did very well as well. And I've decided that even though both of them are going swimmingly, I was going to pivot and go on into. I've started writing a book and doing these things, but I really want to just change into true answering of my happiness and kind of developed my kingdom within that. What are the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual? Knowing what you know now?
[00:52:37] That's a great question, I would say. One thing that I have learned and that I share with people at the end of the quit playing small workshops that I do. Is your greatest success, Lives behind your greatest fear.
[00:52:53] And I realize that I learned that because the things that I may have been intimidated to try or to do, those are some of the things that have made me felt feel the most proud and have given me like the most boost in my person and feeling like, wow, you're really doing something. You know, you're really making some kind of headway or making some type of difference. So I would say that. I would say. Really start to know and understand yourself, because when you know and understand yourself, it's easier for you to make decisions. It's easier for you to identify where you're going and where you want to go. Just like what we talked about before, having these goals and winding down and all of that stuff. If you don't know yourself, the goals that you identify may not be in alignment with who you are and what you're truly capable of achieving. So I would say really start to explore and get to know yourself. And then finally, I would say. Back away from the comparison game because nobody else has lived this life before you. You are the first to do it. You are uniquely in only you. So who are you comparing yourself to realistically? This person that you maybe compare yourself to or these people you don't know their background. You don't know their history. You don't know their story. You don't even know what lies ahead of them. So if you really thought about it your while you're sitting here comparing yourself to them, would you really want to change positions with them? I wouldn't I wouldn't, you know, so I think so many of us get caught up in. I want to do this or I think I want to do a version of this. And so until I was over here doing it and it looks great while they're doing it, so maybe I should try and do like them. And then when I try and do like them, I'm not getting the results that they're getting. My results don't look like their results do. I'm a failure. No, your you your results look perfect for you. You actually have nobody to compare to because there isn't another Aiyana Angel who live this life 100 years before me. And I'm comparing myself to what she did back then. No. Just doesn't exist. It's not realistic. So that's what I would share with someone who walked up to me six feet away and asked me that question.
[00:55:30] And I love your last point because it speaks so much in the face of this whole, like, competition value culture that we have, which, you know, you got to you have the best competition.
[00:55:39] Who's your next competition? Who you fighting against this idea of like. OK. So really quickly, I have your greatest success lives behind your greatest fear. Number one, which I love. I think that that one can sit on so many different planes with so many different areas of one's life.
[00:55:54] Number two, know and understand yourself.
[00:55:57] It will create fluidity between your reality and your desires. So truly knowing and understanding yourself. And number three, back away from the comparison game.
[00:56:06] Absolutely awesome. I love those so much. I know we are out of time, but I wanted to say I know you're horrifically busy and beautifully busy at the same time.
[00:56:15] So grateful that you took the time to sit down with us. You have your own thing going on your own podcast. I want everyone to attach themselves to that. Have a listen to several episodes at the very least, and check out your books really quickly. Will you give us the name of both of those?
[00:56:33] Absolutely. Thank you so much Patricia for having me. This has been a great conversation. Great. In that your questions were just so thoughtful. So thank you. Everybody can find me at Yana Angel dot com and that she's h why I a in a angel dot com. My very first book, the one that talked about early on, was a novel and it's called Preseason Love. And my second book, which I self published, is called Quit Playing Small and it's available on Amazon everywhere now. And be sure to check out the switch, pivot, a quick podcast. And if you are on Instagram, you can follow me at a Yanta Dot Angel on Instagram. I tend to hang out there. We go live sometimes and I just talk my talk and do my thing. So hang out with me.
[00:57:21] And for everyone listening. Thank you so much for giving me your time today. I really do appreciate all of you. We've been speaking with Ahyiana Angel. She's founder, podcast and author and another one of her Web sites, W WW, Dutch Switch, Pivot or quits. All of the others that she mentioned as well.
[00:57:37] Thank you for giving us your time today. And until we speak again, remember, just stay safe and always bet on yourself. Slainte.
Thursday Aug 13, 2020
Thursday Aug 13, 2020
Today I am speaking with Louisa Deasey. Louisa is a twice-published bestselling memoirist, editor and non-fiction writing coach. Over the past twenty years, Louisa has worked as a magazine editor and features journalist, ghostwriter, newspaper columnist, digital copywriter, online editor and media and publicity consultant to major brands, personalities and experts in the health, travel, lifestyle, design, medicine and psychology space.
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I speak with Best-Selling, memoirist, editor and nonfiction writing coach Louisa Deasey key points addressed where Louisa's incredible journey throughout writing her first memoir titled Love and Other U Turns. We also looked at these self-taught and honed education and subsequent skill set that Louisa developed in order to write her following and Best-Selling memoir titled A Letter from Paris. We also examine how Louisa used her education and self-taught knowledge in order to develop her online memoir, a nonfiction publishing programs that she now offers online. Stay tuned for my enthralling interview with Louisa Deasey.
[00:00:44] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status. For industry, we aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .COM, where you can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:42] Hi, everyone, and welcome back. I'm your host, Patricia. And today I am elated to be sitting down with Louisa. Deasey Louisa is a Best-Selling memoirist, editor and nonfiction writing coach. You can find more about all of her work as well as the services she offers on her web. W w w dot. Louisa Deasey. Dot com. That is l o u i. S a d. A s. E y. Dot com. Welcome, Louisa.
[00:02:09] Hello. Thanks for having me.
[00:02:10] Absolutely. I'm excited to climb through everything that you're doing. We were talking off the air and I told you that we've had a lot of audience and listeners right in over the years and talk about writing coaches and people who can advise about writing rules a great deal in our past. I know that everything that you share with us today is going to be received in the highest regard. Oh, that's good to know. Absolutely. For everyone listening who is new to the podcast, I'll offer up a quick roadmap of the direction of my inquiry's will head. And then I will read a bio on the so that everyone can garner a brief sense of her background before I start peppering her with questions. So the roadmap for today's podcast will first look at Louise's academic and professional background, leading her up to the services that we will then unpack. Then I will turn towards, of course, unpacking Louise's suite of online memoir, a nonfiction publishing programs, where I know a few of those are currently being used up and changed a bit. Then we'll look at unpacking the goals that Louisa has for the next one to three years, professionally and personally. Those have changed a lot for a lot of people in regards to the current climate of the Kovik 19 pandemic. And then we'll wrap the entire Adva podcast up with advice that Louisa may have for those of you who are looking to get involved with some of her services or perhaps emulate some of her career success. A quick bio, as promised on Louisa. Before I start peppering her with questions, Louisa Deaseyis a twice published bestselling memoir list editor and nonfiction writing coach. Over the past 20 years, Louisa has worked as a magazine editor and features journalist, ghost writer, newspaper columnist, digital copywriter, online editor and media and publicity consultant to major brands, personalities and experts in the health, travel, lifestyle, design, medicine and psychology space. More recently, Louisa has created a suite of online memoir and nonfiction publishing programs for writers at every stage of the publishing journey. Her work has been featured in Vogue Body and Soul, The Guardian, Cosmopolitan, The Age, The Sydney Morning Herald and Hundreds More Publications. She is currently at work on her third memoir. So, Louise, I cannot wait to unpack a lot of that with you. I'm excited. I haven't had anyone who actually self identifies as a memoirist on and I cannot wait to climb into that with you. I find it such a valid and noble profession. But before we get to that, I'm hoping that you can describe for all of our audience members listening and those watching on a vodcast a little bit about your academic and professional background leading up to where you are now.
[00:04:51] Sure. So. Well, I went to high school, which is pretty normal here in Australia. Then I took a year off and just worked. I lived in a share house and I worked and I did a few little short courses in acting and drama. And then I started an arts degree, which I think it's the same in the US liberal arts. I thought I wanted to do drama and acting. I can't believe I've never even noticed how much I loved writing. But it wasn't until I was in my third year of my arts degree that I realized I actually loved writing about the place that I was studying rather than being in them because I didn't really like people looking at me. So I had a bit of a switch and I ended up doing a double degree in literature because I'd accidentally taken on too many drama subjects before I realized that I didn't really want to do that. And then because I realize sort of it took three years of writing essays for me to realize that I actually love that part of studying. I applied for a really well at that time. It was really prestigious writing postgrad writing degree in Melbourne. And I thought I didn't get in because I looked in the newspaper on the wrong day. So I applied to work on a cruise ship because I thought, well, look, I will just travel the world and write about that, you know, Harry instead. And I literally made it through to the third round of interviews for this job. Crystal Cruises or whatever it was. When my aunt called me and said, congratulations, I just saw your name in the paper for the riding college. So I had actually got in. So I had to cancel that at the last minute. And I started this writing postgraduates. To you, to you, that's called Tife. I'm not sure what that is in the US, but it's more hands on than university. And the whole reason that that's cause it was RMIT, which is Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology, professional writing and editing. And I think the reason that it was so highly regarded was because the teachers in the. It wasn't academic. It wasn't philosophical. It was actual hands on how to get published, which, you know, I don't know. That was just sort of the Holy Grail when I was at university, nor one, you know, they talk about writing and publishing, but no one could actually tell you how to get published. Yeah, it did. I started that course. And I loved it. But I ended up being quite disappointed because it wasn't all that it was sold to me to be. And I sort of thought, wow, well, look, this is one of the best publishing courses in Australia, even though it's not very good. And I got a lot of sort of the wrong advice in that course.
[00:07:45] And I ended up sort of staking out a lot of stuff on my own. And remember, this is before the Internet was, you know, the Internet existed, but it wasn't big. It's 2001. And part of the costs was a topic called industry overview. And we needed to do a few hours. So I think it was two weeks on site at a publishing company. So other a newspaper or a book or magazine publishing company and all that that caused told me to contact with these tiny little publisher in Melbourne and see if I could get a couple of weeks unpaid work there. And I didn't want to work at that tiny little publisher. That just sounded miserable. And I didn't want to work that. I wanted to work for magazines at that time. That was my passion. And all the magazines, all the women's magazines, offices were in Sydney. So I bought a copy of the reader's marketplace, which was like this like fifty five dollars an hour. Remember, saving up my waitressing money and buying it and just going through the list of phone numbers and calling every single women's magazine until I could get someone that would take me on for a couple of weeks work. And then I went back to RMIT and I said, OK, I've got two weeks at Elle magazine, I've got two weeks at Bay magazine. And they were like, what are you talking about? They don't take interns. And that's it.
[00:09:01] Yeah, they do. I just tend to call fifty so fifty seven times.
[00:09:06] And then so I flew up to Sydney and did that and that was I guess you'd say I was off to the races because I got my first byline in that work and I'm sort of simplifying it now. But that really taught me that, you know, I just there's only so much that you can learn at university and and time. You know, you really have to do it yourself in a lot of ways. And the other thing is the people that are teaching you often, there's a reason that they are teaching, you know, that they've obviously had their career or they're having a break or so. I just found a real gap between what I was being taught and what I really wanted to do. And I learned so much as soon as I actually started working in, like I think it was the following year, I got my first job at a newspaper back in Melbourne and I learned more about writing for publication in a week. They have had it five years at university. Yeah, it was just really interesting to me. The gap between academic learning and actual actually being inside a newspaper or magazine office.
[00:10:14] Yeah. In the States, we call that on the job training. Oh, T.J.. Yeah.
[00:10:20] Yeah. And I think it's so true, though.
[00:10:23] I mean, I can't say it enough and I'm a big I'm really big on internships or any type of apprenticeship, things of that nature. There are so many fields that I think do this as well. Computer I'm married to an original Silicon Valley computer nerd. A lot of people asking to me know that. And the most hysterical thing for me, and I think it might be changing right now, but it's not nearly quickly enough.
[00:10:48] Computer programing, as studied in university, has absolutely nothing to do with the code that is written that affects you die and changes the range. They are very likely ayari. And that's the same thing with writing. I think you're right in literature and all of my university degrees. And what I love about university is that you do study philosophy and theory, but there's absolutely no practicality. There's no applicability in that knowledge. And I think that writing is a crucial one. And I think your story also brings up a really interesting point, which I've always described. There's a certain amount of entrepreneurship, even to the writers of old to going Artley, Walden, you know, all of those things. That is a very kind of like gusto, greedy. And I think that people leave that out when they talk about writers, you know, and what it's really necessary to be a writer and successful. You running off to city, you calling fifty seven times.
[00:11:44] I would have been more than that, but yeah, it's so interesting that you say that I have all of this. I have all three of Steven Pressfield books. Have you read the war of arson, Tony? And I love I love these books and hate. I love. I think it's in the war about. He says, find you. You know, there's nothing braver and more entrepreneurial than sitting at a blank screen and, you know, trying to put your heart out there and in a way that's palatable for the world to rageous story. He says, find yourself an entrepreneur to chat to for some motivation. I know why that is so true, because it's very similar. You're putting yourself out there. You trying something that's never been done before? Yeah. Yeah. I totally agree with you there.
[00:12:30] And you have to have a certain amount. It's it's a crazy tightrope for.
[00:12:34] Right. For authors. I find you have to care deeply about your audience, but you also have to have this kind of devil may care genessee quar about like I'm just going to put it out there. I don't care what anyone says, like, here it is. Here's me, you know, because if you worry too much, you don't release it. You don't put it out. And if you if you don't worry enough that you're not capturing your audience in the way that you ought to. You know, this is kind of given take is so difficult. I'm wondering, how did your career after you kind of launched into doing all of these, you got your first byline from this, you know, very greedy, like something tiny. Yeah. So how did that kind of launch into did you start to pepper into taste as to know which areas of writing you were most suited towards? How did you find, like, your memoir this moment?
[00:13:20] Well, it's so funny because I didn't actually know that I loved memoir until a few years ago. But I say that, you know, I've simplified it a lot. But I you know, I went to Sydney. That was actually a six month process when I was working, interning, trying to get a job, a paid job, because I was working like 40 hours a week at a restaurant in Corkle by Sydney while I was doing days unpaid at these offices. And my Driton, the thing was back then, because it wasn't there was no you know, the Internet wasn't as big as it is now. You had to actually be working on staff to say the stop job ads in Pacific publications and all of those places. And nothing came up in the times that I was there. And I made some contacts and I was like, can you please let me know if something comes up? And I ended up running out of money and just being exhausted because I was working so much because Sydney is so expensive. I came back to Melbourne and got a waitressing job here in Melbourne and then just started sending out because again, no Internet sending out kulla photocopied packs of my tiny little byline. So I think by then I had had a review of a film, an essay, a first person essay, which is Memoir in Runner's World. So I used to run quite a lot. And maybe one other thing and. Oh yeah, quiz. I had a quiz published in Playboy magazine and I would send out these color coordinated packs and that must've cost me so much money because it was all my past. And eventually I got a job. I think it was eight or nine months later at the Herald Sun, which is our major daily newspaper. And I actually had a hiring freeze on at the time, which I didn't know. But now I'm glad I didn't come after got the job there. And that was fantastic. That was a baptism of fire. And I got mobile ones there. And what I found that I really enjoyed writing about was health and wellbeing and psychology, because I think I knew the health editor from school and she'd said, if you want to write a couple of columns, you can do that. And just a bit like you. I loved interviewing people. So I think one of my first articles was on iron deficiency or something, and I had to find a medical expert to interview on why women have less often than men typically. Well, something like that. And I just love the whole process of putting together a story and formulating the argument, getting experts to give you information. That's something. And I'd seen in my time at the magazine offices that freelancers, you know, that you could freelance the health magazines or women's magazines on health topics and get paid quite well. I think in feature articles, this is still when we have print. But, you know, people read print, so you'd get maybe a thousand dollars for a health feature. So I made it my goal to to make a living writing health features and psychology features. There's a magazine in Australia called Good Medicine, and I pitched to them. I just pitched lots of articles and I'm still waitressing. And then I eventually quit the Herald Sun because I didn't want to do news journalism. I found it quite. I really couldn't. I just couldn't handle it. I was there when the Bali bombings happened, which was a major news story here in Australia because Bali is so close to Australia. And yet I just I couldn't take it. I'm not I'm not cut out for news journalism. So I'm trying to fast forward, so after that, I started freelancing, I loved writing about health and psychology. I loved interviewing people at sort of the same as, you know, it just it felt feels like such a privilege when people opened up their lives to you. And, yeah, it's very mutually inspiring. And I, I find the whole process of interviewing very interesting. I think I was working for an architecture magazine and I interviewed this architect and I could see him actually transforming in front of my eyes when I was interviewing him because he was he was considering something he'd never considered before just because of the way I'd framed the question. And I've always found that really interesting. So then miraculously and I'm making it sound quick. But this took a few years. I've gathered enough work to actually just be living off my freelancing. So I no longer needed to waitress. And I met this comedian who he lived out of his car and he excellente basically just performed in outback rough pubs around Australia. And I fell in love with him really quickly and basically moved him to his car because I was like, well, I can write from anywhere. And at that point, I was making enough money and it was just a huge adventure. And so I went traveling with him for about a year. And that was sort of when my career took off in terms of freelancing. So it was quite strange. I got all these weekly columns, fashion columns. Would you believe in a in another newspaper called The Age? And I was traveling with him through these really, really rough redneck sort of places and having to write sometimes from the front seat of the car or lack of a room at the back of the pub. And eventually I came back to Melbourne because, yeah, I couldn't I could only leave out of the car for so long. I missed Melbourne. And I'd always thought, like, I sort of thought, well, wait, I'm always looking for the next thing. And I sort of thought, well, the only thing that is left for me now is to write a book, because I had been freelancing at that point for two or three years, I think, which I loved. But I just wanted to do something bigger. And I always wanted to write a book. And I think I was getting close to 30 years old and I didn't. It's those those significant voices that make you sort of think, oh, yeah, I've got to do that thing that I always said I'd do. So I started writing a book about traveling around Australia with GM, which was a memoir travel memoir, because I always loved reading travel memoirs as well. Mm hmm. And long story short, and I sort of talk about this a lot in a lot of my memoir, blogs and trainings and things. But, you know, it took I didn't know how to write a book. Crooner's knows how to read a book when they stop. And I had a really, really. So I had a few really fortuitous connections. A woman on the street introduced me to her literary agent, like who was one of the top literary agents in Australia. That was a very amazing fluke. But I also had the most brutal rejection that you could actually imagine. One of the top publishers in Australia, a great arrange to meet with me. She contacted my agent. She said she'd been reading my manuscript. She agreed to meet with me at a cafe and she flying down to Melbourne from Sydney. And I thought, wow, she's going to offer me a book deal. And I told my family, my friends, and after an hour of her telling me how bad my writing was, why I'd never be published, I had to actually say, well, I might go now.
[00:20:48] Yeah, what a malicious moment.
[00:20:51] It was pretty awful. It was really awful. It took me six months to get over that. I couldn't even look at the manuscript. I was just humiliated, absolutely humiliated.
[00:21:00] Well, at that point, I wonder, looking back now that you have success under your belt, what was the point of her make going to such effort?
[00:21:08] Well, this is a thing I didn't know at the time. You know, I was so naive, which I sort of think you have to be to get anything done. It took another year when I did actually sign the book deal for that book. And I met with my new publisher and she gave me the background to that particular person and said, you know, she's she's been put on on leave for bullying. She's got a mental disorder and various other things. And I was like, oh, my God, because I never I thought I would go to the grave without knowing why she had flown down to basically put me down for an hour in a cafe.
[00:21:50] The power hierarchy in publishing is ridiculous. I mean, it's all right up there with my mother, most antiquated, you know, DHT and subject kind of. Ships that happen. And I is I am excited about it being overturned and we can get into this later.
[00:22:04] I've spoken to a lot of authors that self publish because that did this system, it was abusive at its finest.
[00:22:11] So abusive. I'm wondering, are you describing the beginnings of love in other U turns? Yes. Yeah. Oh, my God. That book was published. Yeah. So after I got over the brutal rejection and everything.
[00:22:25] I actually rewrote the book and then pitched it on a cold pitch Friday. And it was like she called the publisher, called me on the cheese day and offered me a book deal and I just cried. And it was published, I think, six months after that, which is pretty quick in publishing, really fast.
[00:22:42] What caused you to, like, finally kind of regroup after six months from your lashing and think. No, no, this is good. I know so many people that would abandon a piece of work with that kind of abusive moment in their life. You know, it doesn't. I would have abandoned it.
[00:22:56] And yet, my friend Dave. He's no longer alive. I ran into him just on the straight and. Hey, hey. I'd gone to school together and he was there. And the other student who studied literature in our country, high school, and he was a good four A's, like a sole friend. You know, I hadn't seen him for about five years. And I ran into him on the street and just said I said I wrote a book. But it got no love lost or something. And, you know, I just vaguely told him the story, but I was still crushed. And he said, you wrote a book, you write, you actually finished it.
[00:23:28] You got to pick it up.
[00:23:29] And he was determined. He took it on like it was on him. But I get that book back to a publisher. And if it hadn't been for him so passionate about getting me. And he looked at it and gave me feedback and he was like, you need to stop the story here. And he was so passionate. And he was actually dying of liver cancer at the time. And he passed away before that book was published. He was only thirty two, but if it hadn't been for him, I wouldn't picked it up. But he was just so determined like you wrote it and you finished it. You can't just chuck it out. And I think about that now. And I think that's how I want to be for other people, because it is I think it's just it's a tragedy when people get so crushed by rejection that they just put it away. And I've seen that happen. And it's.
[00:24:18] It takes a long time to finish a book. It really does. Just labor.
[00:24:23] And bless Dave for knowing that, you know. Yes. You, too. I think you're right. I think voices of encouragement are so necessary. People don't realize, I think, how important that they can be, you know, from outside. So after you had your initial success, did you immediately catapult you into a letter from Paris or did you take some time? How did that play out, the aftermath of success?
[00:24:50] No, sir. This is sort of a complicated I mean. Yeah. So the book so I love another U-turn came out.
[00:24:59] It was a very odd time in my life because my mom died at the same time.
[00:25:06] And also publishing had switched completely online. So everything that I used to do for money, which was pitch FHA radicals, I went down from first the word count stopped. So we went from a nineteen hundred word FHA to 700 words. So that means if you getting paid by the word, you're now getting three hundred and fifty dollars where you used to get twelve hundred. So it just became less and less. It was harder and harder to live off freelancing. And I knew that I had to retrain in the digital world, but I had no idea where to start because, you know, and a lot of people that I had worked at the Herald Sun with or had who'd been freelance journalist or had been journalists, it was a really hard time. Everyone was like, you know, they just suddenly lost their jobs. I know a woman who started a funeral home after losing her 20 year job, you know, in this type of some editing, because she was like, well, that's never going to you know, there's always gonna be a need for a funeral home. Yeah, but I sort of and I saw some of the bloggers coming up, and I think Sarah Wilson had just started blogging in Australia. She's the I quit sugar lady. And I could say that some of these people were really taking on the digital world and harnessing that. But I have no idea where to start. Like, I'm such an on tech savvy person, like, you know, and I didn't know anyone who did it. And I ended up taking this. And the thing was, my book came out and I talk about this a bit later, but I had no idea what I should have done when that book came out to really make it a success. So a lot of people don't know when a book comes out. You know, you basically get three months, if you're lucky of time, chop shop shelf space. Yeah. And you've got to do with many interviews, as much publicity as you possibly can. I had like a website that was stuck in the 1970s. I had to ask people to actually update it for me because it was all hyped, humoral card. I didn't even know I couldn't even update my website, wasn't even a word press or anything was on some something that I don't even know. Yeah. So, yeah, I was really shocked. The book came out and it sold a few copies and then by October that year it was like I'd never done anything and I was starting from scratch again. And so I was really crushed, actually. It was quite depressing because I sort of thought, well, I spent so low on this book and, you know, these are these things that people don't tell you about publishing, but you need to be stuck thinking a year ahead. You need to be doing your publicity count down. And then this is the full podcasts really were a thing as well. And I do do a lot of radio interviews, but. But because I did I had this weakness in the tech sphere.
[00:28:05] I didn't have a good website. I didn't know how to how to set up a blog. I yeah, I didn't know how to do any of that. I basically went back and got a corporate job at an accounting company because they would take they taught me how to do web editing. And I had to use like six different content management systems.
[00:28:25] And I learned a lot. But it was the most boring job I've ever had.
[00:28:31] Yeah.
[00:28:32] Yeah. But, you know, I just I needed to get a job and I needed to learn how to use the Internet, you know, digital publishing. And so I was sending out seven weekly tax newsletters at these incredibly boring job. I don't think I really lasted like three months. That got I learned a lot. And then I went to Byron Bay because, as I said, my mum had died not long. You know, maybe a year and a half earlier. And I still very, very wounded from that. So I sort of packed up all of my things and moved to Byron Bay and just sort of lived in this shed that overlooks the forest, which didn't cost very much money and started writing digital copywriting. So I, I transferred the skills that I've been doing as a journalist to that and got quite a lot of stuff published. The only difference is your byline isn't on it when it's copyrighting. And at that point, I started writing a fiction novel. Sorry, this is such a long winded way now.
[00:29:33] Love. Yeah.
[00:29:36] So I started writing a fiction novel because I thought that was the other thing. So publishing a memoir. It was actually also quite a bizarre psychological process when Love another U-turn came out, because, as I said, my mum had just died and I was doing all these interviews based on the person that I was when I wrote Love of a U-turn. So it's all these free wheeling and it's a quite a funny book. Quick. It's it's all about the wackiness of outback towns and how I liked not having many possessions and just living out a car. Banks are free in Australia, but after my mum died, I, I really changed. My character changed. I think everyone loses a parent without changing a lot. And so it was quite hard doing those interviews and trying to be all cheery and promote that book when I had changed so dramatically. So I thought, well, gee, I don't think I can write in another memoir because it's just so personal and, you know, people are asking me about my relationship with Jim when really. And saying, you know, your mom must be your parents must be so proud of you. And I hadn't even properly grieved. And it was all just was really hard. It's it's very hard for me writing a memoir because it is so personal and you need to have a lot of. Not protective, but you need to know what you're doing. And I didn't know what I was doing. I hadn't. I didn't really know anyone else who published a book. I though the lady on the street who'd interviewed, introduced me to the literary agent had sent me some great advice. But aside from that, you know, I there were no writing coaches at that point. There were. Yes. So I moved to Byron Bay and I started working on a fiction novel, which was sort of a thinly veiled fiction. It was about trauma and grief and processing, sort of what I was processing. And the only way I could write it was to make it a fiction, even though it really wasn't. It was all just a metaphor. And then I sort of did what I needed to do in Byron Bay. And I came back to Melbourne about a year later. And, yeah, just just went back to work. And I was pitching that fiction novel around. I ended up going to the US, going to this incredible writer's retreat because I wanted to get it to a publisher in the US because I thought, well, the reason my book Eleven of a U-turn wasn't a success is because it was only published in Australia. That's such a small market here. But that didn't really eventuate. And then that book was sort of messy. And I think I really didn't. I'm not supposed to write fiction. It's not. I didn't have the genre right. I didn't even know if it was a thriller or a romance or what or like a supernatural. It was just it was a bit of everything. That book was kind of my therapy writing that.
[00:32:32] Well, yeah, it sounds cathartic. Maybe maybe not being published in any way.
[00:32:40] And so I came back to Melbourne and I just got lots of different jobs editing and ended up working in media, sort of media training and marketing for Melbourne University, which is really big. But it's I think it's one of our biggest universities. And I loved that job. And, you know, I really just threw myself into my work and thought, you know, like a cat published a book. But I'm probably never gonna do that again, even though I wanted to. I sort of stuffed that down because I'd been so disappointed with what happened with love. Another U turns anyway. Long story short. I had just finished a year working at Melbourne Uni and I'd quit because of something really awful that happened there. We've with this boss and I received this email from a woman in Paris about my father. And so my dad died when I was very young. And she said our grandmother died yesterday. And in her apartment, we found a stack of letters written in nineteen forty nine about a man named Dennis in Deasey Are you any relation? Is he your grandfather? And that was my dad. And I said, well, I wrote because this was on Facebook Messenger. She contacted me and I said, nineteen forty nine. That's right. So she was telling me he'd been in London. I didn't know any of this stuff about my dad. I didn't know that he'd been in London when he'd he'd been to France. I knew that he'd had a French wife, but I didn't really know when or how or how that had connected. And basically, as soon as she started e-mailing me and she sent me all of these translations of the French letters that her grandmother had written and she said, you know, grandmother was talking about your father until the day she died. And they actually sent me a recording of her in the hospital talking about my death. And this had been 36 years since he died. And I just couldn't. It was all a bit crazy. And I remember thinking in the pit of my stomach, if I'm going to have to write another book.
[00:34:54] I just I was like, man, but I've done it.
[00:34:57] And it was so hard. Yeah.
[00:35:00] And I think this is sort of where why and where the whole memoir coaching and the courses that I do now, where it will come from. Because at that time as well, a good friend of mine, she'd won a competition, a writing competition for a piece of memoir she'd written about running away from. So she her dad was a Vietnam vet and had very serious PTSD. And so she and her siblings and her mom had had to run away from home because he was very violent. And she'd want to competition for this pace. And long story short, that led to her publishing contract for that book. But she'd never published a book before either. And I saw her going through everything that I'd gone through with Love, another U-turn. So she didn't know that she would have to organize the launch event and do as much public. She felt the publisher was going to do everything. You know, she she really didn't know anything about the promotion. She was really upset and kind of stressed and. Yeah, that sort of thing. And so, like, I sort of took it on myself to try and educate her for what she should be doing up to the launch and that sort of thing. And then. Yeah, we just talked a lot through through the launch of her book and everything. And that was when. I was working on a letter from Paris, but I was determined that I would not write the book the same way that I did love another U-turn. So I didn't want to write the whole manuscript and then stop pitching it. I was like, I need a deadline. I need an FUC advance. I need you to pull this stuff. So I was really, really strategic, which I'd never been before. And I pitched, I wrote, I got things published. I used that to leverage publishers interest, which then led to a documentary. There's a show in Australia called Australian Story, which is documentaries of I don't know if you've ever seen it. I have. OK. Well, one of the producers of from Australian Story contacted me about this story about my dad, which I've been how to make. Leveraged into the contract for a letter from Paris. Because I really want to. Yeah, yeah. And I'm shortening it. There are a lot of very stressful phone calls and emails. But I was determined that I would have a deadline and a contract before I sat down to write that book. So I worked on a letter from Paris. And it was it was a bestseller when it came out in Australia two years ago and it's still been up and down a bestseller here, and it's come out in the UK and the US and Canada as well. But the reason that I'm sharing that isn't too advanced. It's because I was very, very specific and determined and strategic in everything that I did with Boris. How I pitched the book, how I avoid it to how it was published. How I went to the editor, what I did pray, publicity, all of that sort of thing, because I had had such a bruising experience with love and other unions. And the thing is, most people don't get a second chance to write a memoir or publish a memoir. So I was very lucky. But this is what led me to create these courses. And so the coaching that I do with authors is because what I saw I saw what happened with my friend Bruce. I know what happened with me. And so many people think the story's over when you sign that book to Sharon. And I know what you're saying about self publishing as well. If you actually if you want a lucrative publishing contract, self publishing is the way to go. And if you've already got a platform and you've already got an audience, you might be better off self publishing. But for a lot of people, like it was to me, you want to be traditionally published because that's, you know, this it's pretty amazing to have the backing of a traditional publisher. And it's you know, it's one of those dreams you want to be published by a publisher. And, you know, they do things that. I mean, just the quality of working with the editors on a letter from Paris taught me so much that I would have learned if I'd, you know, I would never of self publish that book anyway, because it's too important to me that it be produced in a really quality, beautiful. I just really wanted it to be traditionally published, but I understand that a lot of people. If if the purpose is to make money, then I would say sure. So publish or even spade, if you want to be speedy.
[00:39:55] No. And I also think there's a great deal more to be learned. I think both processes have education.
[00:40:00] But certainly the old still old school, there was, you know, a valid moment in that two to be had. And I think that there is there's a great mystique. It's just like academia. It's just like any race. You know, there is still a great deal of pride that one should take out of executing those systems. And it sounds like, you know, your qualifications. What I love about the difficulty in this journey that you've just unraveled for us is that you couldn't come from a more qualified source, you know, to have love another U. Turns and then a letter from Paris and and being on this bestseller, you know, international list is amazing. And I love. I don't really trust teachers that haven't had some kind of a struggle.
[00:40:46] Well, that was the thing.
[00:40:47] That was the thing with me and I, you know, and that was what made me so angry, actually, when I was at uni was none of those teachers had been published. And I was like, what do you know, except for, you know, bizarre academic journals. But I was like, but I want to see your book in a shop.
[00:41:03] Yes.
[00:41:04] And I want to hear the story. The difficulties are, you know. Yes. This horrible moment of someone flying from Sydney to kind of train crash you until this friend uplifted you and all of that back and forth.
[00:41:15] And yet I'm wondering. So we're getting to your Web site and kind of crawling through the suite of online services that you have. Can you kind of crawl? Anyone who hasn't visited your Web site yet or knows anything about it? What are the different services that you offer your clients?
[00:41:34] So it's it's funny that we're doing this podcast now because I'm actually raised configuring a few things because what I've realized. So I always wanted to offer memoir coaching and courses to show someone step by step how to write a memoir, because I know how overwhelming, how overwhelmed I felt at the beginning of a letter from Paris. I was like, how do I even put the sample chapters together for a publisher? How do I know? Because it's such a personal thing. You write, it's so overwhelming to go well, how do I, you know, jump into my entire life story and pick out the most relevant or interesting peso's to this story. And so I sort of came up with a process and a method for that finding the quote which know most storytelling. You would find the same with documentaries. You finding a hook, you finding where the story actually begins like that is more crucial than anything. You're finding the universal themes, finding the they really unique personal aspects to the universal themes. So I'm always sort of obsessed with finding like creating a mathematical or strategic formula to something to make it less overwhelming. So I originally started I created a course called Memory Academy, which was a six month step by step course for writing your memoir and getting it ready for a publisher. And I've had a few people take that course and I realized that it sort of needs to be three courses because it's very layers. There's three layers to writing and publishing a memoir is the actual writing of it, which anyone can can do. I love writing and craft is really fun to study. Yeah. Great to sit in your room and write a memoir. And this is something that I noticed with my students who took the program last year, which I'm really doing is if I hadn't got over their visibility issues, if I hadn't won, one of my students didn't even have a website that had her name on it. She was too scared to use her real name for any of her published paces. And I realize visibility is one of the biggest aspects of writing and publishing a memoir. So I sort of have to put that into a separate program, which is all. And I didn't realize that I'd done all of this with you. So all those years that I spent pitching articles and following up and writing freelance articles. That was me getting comfortable, being visible, pitching and following up. So I created a another smaller program, which is all about getting getting published and getting visible because that is actually going to lead to your book deal anyway. So, you know, if you want to be traditionally published and if you want to self publish, you really need to get visible, too, because you'll sell more books. So I separated that. And then this is the new program that I'm working on, which I'm really excited about, because it's everything that I was just sort of. Describing to you about my friend Bruce and then what I went through with love, another U-turn, which is people who signed the book deal, right? That's amazing. That is a huge accomplishment. But there's actually a six to 12 month process that they need to go through to ensure that that book sells for longer than two months, because that might be the book. The only book that they ever publish and you want to give it the best chance of success. And self care is a huge part of that process because otherwise, how are you going to go on TV or radio or podcasts and talk about your incredibly personal, sometimes traumatic story? Because a lot of memoirs are about very traumatic experiences or Newtons. You know, sometimes if it's a travel memoir like Love, another U-turn, that is a happy that is a really happy story that I wrote. But, you know, for example, with a letter, letter from Paris, I did a lot of talks, library talks. I did some events in Sydney at the Ambulance Française, because my dad was connected with the aliens from sides. And I had complete strangers coming up to me afterwards and asking incredibly personal questions about my family. And if I hadn't been prepared for that and if I hadn't done it all before, I would have just fallen apart. And I still was extremely exhausted after promoting that book, but. I had all these methods in place and I knew what I was getting into. And I think there's a real gap there. People think as soon as I've signed the book deal, that that's that's a fantastic I'll just hire a public system. I can take care of the rest. Yes. Or you actually have to do a lot, particularly with memoir, because you you are the story. It's not like I didn't invent with a really well-known historical fictional son. Attach a list of documents. You've heard of her. She's hit the bestsellers in the in the US with her latest book, The Paracel Orphan. And we didn't have into the library. And, you know, she had always it was the same library that I'd done an event at two or three months earlier. And she had members in the audience asking her questions and she looked so relaxed and so happy. And I realized, oh, my God, it's because she didn't because hers is a fiction. And I was like, oh, man, you have to be so different.
[00:47:16] And she wasn't, like, absolutely ruined after the event and, you know, just meeting. And I never thought about that. She's just discussing the story. She told you she's not discussing her history.
[00:47:29] I would feel personally, I would feel sorry personally, sort of pried open after every media appearance or event, which is fine, you know? And they will. And I did certain things to strengthen myself before that. And there were questions that I wouldn't know, that I wouldn't answer them, but I'd sort of come up with because I've worked as a journalist. Sort of come up with deflecting ways to turn them back. But, you know, it's all this stuff that people don't know. And I really want to educate people because. Yeah. A bit like the legacy project thing. If this memoir if this book is the only book that you ever have published, you want to give it the best chance of success. And you you owe it to yourself as well to to really look after yourself and really promote it to the best of your ability, your ability, and make it a really joyous, glamorous, wonderful thing because. Yeah. I mean, a lot of memoir groups on Facebook, which is sort of showing me how. How damaging that whole launch process can be if people aren't prepared properly. So that's that's the new program that I'm working on. How long is it? How long does it last? At least six months. I haven't. Yeah. Yeah, I haven't completely fine tuned the the material yet, but it has to be at least six months. I'm thinking of possibly extending it to 12 because most most publishers give you at least 12 months lead time before the book comes out. Yeah.
[00:49:08] And it's it's more to cover not just the marketing and the publicity, but self care. And you know what you want what you want to say. Media training from that perspective of, you know, if this is the only book that you publish. If if this is what your children and your grandchildren are going to hear about your story, what would you like them to take away? So, you know, I like politicians. Get trained to. Sure. Your press conferences. Authors may need that sort of training as well.
[00:49:42] Absolutely. Well, given that you're revamping a couple of things right now and kind of extending into its proper time, length and category, sectioning with the three different courses, and what are their goals and plans do you have for yourself moving forward?
[00:49:56] Are you looking at any new works yourself or are you kind of honing in on this some coaching role, this advisory role that you have for the next few years? What do you see for yourself?
[00:50:06] So I'm always I'm always thinking of the next project. At the moment, I'm actually working on a proposal for my third memoir, which is actually a Joel memoir with my dad. So as I as I worked through a letter from Paris, I found his manuscript in the library. I found a memoir that he'd written. And this is part of the reason I'm so passionate about memoir. And even though he died when I was six through writing his memoir, I feel like I've got a relationship with him. I know my dad again. So I really am so passionate about the value of memoir in terms of writing. You know, if he if he hadn't left his memoirs, I wouldn't know so much amazing stuff that happened to him that, you know, even things about this character that I've just really, really been important to learn. So I'm working on a proposal for that to be published as a follow up to a letter from Paris. I've been transcribing all the material because it's suddenly pipe up at the library. So over the last year, I've been transcribing it and into digital files and now I'm just polishing it because it's sort of from the 1940s and 50s. So, yeah, it's pretty, pretty fun to work on that. And also working on. Yeah. I'm really excited working on these memoir programs. I have one of my programs that I'm not revamping. That's just there. Evergreen for anyone is for beginners and that's a memoir journaling program. So that's a 30 day program because I couldn't have written any of my memoirs without my journals. And it sort of teaches you how to write in sort of how to ask yourself those questions that are going to get you writing in a way that you can then use for for a future published book if you want to turn things.
[00:52:02] Yeah. Yeah, I love that. I love the call and response that you're having with your with your father as well.
[00:52:07] You know, I'm I'm a big believer in closed doors and death being maybe one of the most astute ones that we're faced with in this sphere, not closing conversations in relationships. You know, I think it it's it's very finite. To view it that way. And I love the idea that you're having this newfound conversation in relationship with your father all these years later. It's amazing.
[00:52:30] It's set a work of love. It is. So I mean, I was working on it yesterday and I I published a couple of the chapters from his first trip to Paris in 1940. I was just like, Ma going out. This is this is incredible. It's like a Paris that is from a made up story buttons because it was in his diary. I knew that it was true. And I just.
[00:52:53] Yeah. Yeah. The Paris. I want to go to everybody from Paris. I want to be there. I can't.
[00:53:00] You know, I can go and read some of the stories. I want to go back to Simone de Beauvoir as Paris like I want.
[00:53:05] Yeah. That this is like. Have you seen Big Night in Paris, the Woody Allen film? Yeah. This is like that. It's like, you know, he's just walking into a cafe and people are like, oh, god, my car coming. I will, I will take you somewhere better. And just hopping in the car with people and.
[00:53:21] Yeah. Yeah.
[00:53:22] Absolutely brilliant. Well I cannot wait for it to come out at all. And Louisa, I am sorry to say that we are wrapping it up on time because we could I could sit here for our days with you.
[00:53:36] I probabley talked way too much.
[00:53:37] No, not at all. I'm not editing any of this out. Am I going to let my team do it either. I want to know. I this is my final question. I wrap everything up for those of you listening the same question. It's my favorite. She's never going away. I'll never stop asking it. If you were in a park or a garden somewhere in beautiful Melbourne tomorrow to socially safe distance given the pandemic and a young woman or female identified or non binary individual walked up to you. So anyone other than a straight, white, cis gendered male and said, listen, I you know, I went to university, I would do this writing program. I think people have it wrong. I don't think there's enough application applied there in a mean I'm going to launch out on my own. I'm going to write my memoirs, and then I'm going to get them published and I'm going to do all of this and I'm going to use the grit and determination that doesn't hasn't been taught to me before. What are the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual knowing what you know now?
[00:54:34] It's so funny because I did actually run into a. A girl who sounded very similar to that at a bookstore a few months ago, and she was so sweet and asking me questions because she wanted to be a writer. The first thing I would say is. Persevere. It's like it's like what what Dave said to me. You have to persevere.
[00:54:57] You probably get rejected the first 10 or 20 times. So perseverance is more important than having a quick win.
[00:55:07] The second thing is to always be learning. So I take everything as a learning opportunity. Even the most brutal rejections or feedback try to take the good and drop the bad because you can't take it personally or you'll just be wounded. So I try and just treat everything as a learning experience. And lastly, only speak to people who've been published in terms of advice, if that's what you want to do. Just get your advice from people who've been published. Don't be listening to, Someone whose Aunt Jenny, maybe Wrote a letter once 50 years ago. That was maybe put in a newspaper. Yes. Find some people that you can model or and even if you can't talk to them, read on their blogs, listen to their podcasts. We're sort of lucky in the Internet era, we can find mentors and not even make them. And learn all their best stuff. So, yeah. I my three pieces of advice persevere. Take the good. Drop the bad. When you learn and find someone that you can model what you want to do. Find someone actually published that you can model.
[00:56:28] I love this. Three pieces, especially the last one. Only speak with people who published about publishing like I love them.
[00:56:33] I shouldn't have this now. I believe it is last or. I know. I agree.
[00:56:40] Thank you so much for speaking with us today, Louisa. I appreciate it so much. And I know that everyone listening will as well.
[00:56:47] Thank you, Patricia. It was really good.
[00:56:49] Yeah, absolutely. And for everyone listening. Thank you so much for giving us your time. I have been speaking today.
[00:56:55] I've had the brilliant opportunity to speak with Louisa, Deasey and you can find her at w w w dot. I'm going to spell it out. L o u i s a dea s e y dot com for all of her services, as well as information regarding all of her bestselling books and works. And thank you again for giving me your time today.
[00:57:15] And until we speak again next time, remember to stay well, stay safe and always bet on yourself. Slainte.
Tuesday Aug 11, 2020
Chatting with Maggi Thorne; Athlete & Motivational Speaker
Tuesday Aug 11, 2020
Tuesday Aug 11, 2020
Today I am chatting with Maggi Thorne. Maggi is an American Ninja Warrior 5X competitor who was the 2nd Mom up the warped wall and first to beat the salmon ladder, NBC Spartan Ultimate Team Challenge 2X championship competitor, and a previous Mrs. International 2014. In 2013 she placed 2nd at The World’s Toughest Mudder running 75 miles and completing 330 obstacles in 24 hours. Maggi served as a Global Ambassador for feedONE traveling the world in an effort to further feedONE's mission of helping others with the gift of a nutritious meal. Recently she created a BOW patch with the Girl Scouts to inspire female entrepreneurship, empowerment and community engagement, which thousands of scouts have earned since 2019.
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I speak with elite athlete and motivational speaker Maggi Thorne. Key points addressed were Maggi's history as a track and field college athlete and the subsequent career that followed it at the University of Nebraska. Maggi explains how both of these opportunities led up to her becoming one of the most famous American ninja warriors to date. We also unpack the ethos behind Maggi's brand and how her phrase never give up serves not only as a guiding light for her present and future endeavors, but also remains a constant theme throughout her past, which was riddled with obstacles itself. Stay tuned for my fascinating talk with Maggi Thorne.
[00:00:42] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen. And this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .COM. You can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:39] Hi, everyone. Welcome back. I am your host, Patricia. And today I'm elated to be sitting down with Maggi Thorne. Maggi is an athlete and motivational speaker. You can find out more regarding her, her services and all the information we talk about today on her website. W w w dot. Maggi Thorne dot com. That's w w w . m a g g i t h o r n e . com. Welcome, Maggi.
[00:02:05] Hello. Thank you so much.
[00:02:07] Hi. I'm excited to unpack everything through. We're talking off the record and I have your famous in my household. I have four children that worship American Ninja Warrior as well as all of the other games that you've been involved in with your story. And so I can't wait to kind of unpack that. You're there, our first ninja warrior on the show. So I'm excited to kind of climb through everything with you.
[00:02:25] Oh, I love that you just climb through everything, because we are certainly going to unpack some obstacles today. So thank you for the opportunity.
[00:02:31] You bet. For everyone listening who might be new to our podcast, I will read a bio on Maggi to give you a brief background before I start asking her to unpack her history with us herself. But prior to doing that, a roadmap for today's podcast and the trajectory of inquiry that we'll be following. We'll first look at Maggi's academic and professional background as it pertains to where she is right now. And then we'll look at unpacking all of her endeavors. We'll look at. I'm packing her athletic endeavors with American Ninja Warrior, Spartan race, things of that nature, as well as her professional life and getting into motivational speaking, some of the ethos and philosophy that motivates both of those things that she's kind of known for. And then we'll look towards goals that Maggi has for the next one to three years. This is an area that's changed for everyone. Given the pandemic climate that is upon us, as well as for Maggi herself, given her history with them competing and all of her activities, we're up everything up with advice that Maggi has for those of you who are looking to get involved or emulate some of her dynamic success. So, as promised, a quick bio on Maggi before I start peppering her with questions. Maggi Thornee is an American ninja warrior, five time competitor. She was the second mom of the Warped Wall and the first to be to beat the Salman letter, MBC Spartan Ultimate Team Challenge, two time champion competitor and a previous misses International 2014. In 2013, she placed second at the world's toughest mud rent motor running seventy five mile, completing three hundred and thirty obstacles in twenty four hours. Maggi served as a global ambassador for Feed One, Traveling the world in an effort to further feed one's mission of helping others with the gift of a nutritious meal. Recently, she created a BO patch with the Girl Scouts to inspire female entrepreneurship, empowerment and community engagement, which thousands of scouts have earned since 2019. Maggi is a previous Governors Award winner for inspiring community engagement and her American Association Heart of Gold Award recipient. Professionally, she speaks to hundreds of thousands on inspiration and never giving up. In addition to engaging volunteers globally, a mother of three, she and her kids love serving, being active, traveling together and in her spare time, she loves to eat chips and salsa. So I have to say, as possibly one of the most fantastic things to just kind of put out there about yourself. Thank you. I love for your career and everything that you've done and a lot of the particulars that I have to inquire with you about. I'm wondering if you can kind of give us a general background of your academic and professional history prior to becoming the American ninja warrior that kind of propelled you into this.
[00:05:12] One of the biggest misnomers about myself and any success is people say, oh, man, anything you do, you're successful at and you have the golden touch. But they don't really realize is where I started at. And to jump back to the good old days of the 1980s that we all love to be nostalgic. I was born in San Diego and grew up in a low income home. We lived with another family and I actually never played sports growing up at all. I wasn't an evolved child. I did Girl Scouts. I was a Girl Scout and loved that time as a Girl Scout. But it wasn't until a teacher in high school at the age of 14 who thought I looked fast in PE and gave me an opportunity to become a California state champion. I became one of the top runners in California. Or that ties in for me academically is both of my brothers were high school dropouts, the highest grade completed, and my family was high school. So college wasn't something immediately on the radar for me as a kid. And I thought I was going to enlist in the military and become some kind of Air Force person who would serve our country. And it turns out I got to be a professional athlete later in my life who ended up having a college degree. And that was the first person in my family who ever had a college degree, which was just of all the accomplishments, if I look back. A school was a huge challenge for me. I really struggled with it. I didn't have a lot of academic support, support and really looking at the academic history of my family around me. It was a little hard to be motivated when you think, well, both my brothers dropped out. There wasn't a huge push for me to go further academically. So it started to be a series of choices that I really had to realize. I'm going to write my own story that I'm going to have to choose where I end up. There's nothing else around me that is going to determine my path but me, I decide. And so that played a huge role into a lot of decisions I made going forward.
[00:07:12] Yeah. I mean, being a trailblazer that early on was something is, I think, college. You know, for those that don't come from a family of it is daunting, you know, that the prospect of anything at that level without having someone to kind of refer you as to, you know, the process, even silly things, financial aid forms, you know, those used in the day. Things have gone electronically. But it was that kind of thing. When you don't have anyone who's done it before, it can seem almost intermountain insurmountable. What did you end up majoring in?
[00:07:45] Well, I wanted to be a PE teacher, and two weeks after I got to the University of Nebraska, they unfortunately dropped that major. And the only other thing I could do was get a bachelors degree in community health without entirely starting over my academic career. I had a huge support system at Nebraska that was actually one of the top reasons that I chose Nebraska. It wasn't just that I got a full ride or they had a great check her room, which they absolutely did. But I had to take a step back and look at the academic support that they had. And it was off the charts. They have more academic all Americans than any school in the country. And that's even over Ivy League schools. And, you know, you're surrounded by cornfields and counselors. So they really help set the table for that. And then being able to decide that degree.
[00:08:29] What was that experience like as a college athlete? I haven't spoken to too many, particularly guests on this show that speak to the experience. We've heard stories in the news where things, you know, on Olympic teams and things like that can be horrific. And I've also heard stories of camaraderie. But for you, what was that experience like?
[00:08:47] Number one, I love my experience in Nebraska from the moment I stepped on campus for my recruiting trip. It was so welcoming. I do remember I'm a pretty sharp, quick, funny story. They got me a sandwich after I got off the airplane. And unfortunately, there had been a hair in my sandwich. And I think they thought I was never going to sign as a recruit. After that, they were mortified. When this big, long hair came out of their mouth.
[00:09:11] But from day one, they're like, we're so sorry. We'll make you right.
[00:09:14] And I remember walking around, everybody said, how are you? But then they stopped. They keep moving past you to mention it. They were really invested in your life. They knew. How's your family doing? Whereas when I was a student athlete, my brother had died by suicide. And the support I got from people, everyone writing personal notes, you know, not just a group card, but. Other people were on academic staff pulling me and my coaches. Do you need any support? Are you OK? So I really had an amazing experience there. There were things that were hard. Absolutely. There's things that we did as an athlete that we got push. But I think that it's shaped part of who I am. I had a coach that was from Russia. And at the time, I got so hard on me because there are other athletes. If it was snowing or raining, you know, we're in Nebraska. And I would see them not having to practice inside or outdoors. When we were or, you know, they would get some back out of the meat if it was snowing. But one day, because I was complaining I was being such a big baby. He goes, Maggi Easterday was big truck championship was run. Yes, Vector's absolutely. I'd run. If today was a national championship. Would you run? Yes, that was. He goes then today you run and every day you run like a champion regardless. I was like, OK, I think I just like five accents. He's Russian and he was fantastic. But I remember that because I think one of the reasons I've become successful is it wasn't deciding to be my best when it was always convenient or it was the most opportune time. It was learning to be my best when I was at my worst consistently, and that some people might have to wrap their head around that for a little bit. But my time at Nebraska shaped me for ever. It launched me into careers and what I did next, which will probably talk about in a second. But I love Venus student athlete, the discipline. That was a part of it. I was in the weight room by five thirty in the morning that I was in class and I took a power nap for 30 minutes every day and then I was practicing again. So I spent six to seven hours or whatever. Was NCW allowed? I don't want to. I'm sure we stuck to that. But I spent you know, I was a part time, full time job, if you really want to say it, being a student athlete and then working and then doing your academics. And then I also served on the Student Athlete Advisory Committee. So there was there was a lot involved that it taught me how to have practical life skills that really applied to the real world.
[00:11:45] Yeah. And for the real world, you encountered, particularly right in your future to come, this one can be taken on a lot of levels. I think there are a lot of people that it's a it's an interpersonal dialog. That word conjures up different things for anyone that it's asked to, you know, and for athletes, it's a very special relationship with the word discipline. So I'm wondering, after you came out of college, what did you go into next? What was your first kind of professional encounter?
[00:12:13] When I was a student athlete, I had one class left before I graduated. And at that time, I actually thought I was going to end up being a personal trainer. And I was going to enroll in graduate school to get a graduate degree in nutrition and health science. I wanted to do nutrition counseling at the time, but I had that one class and then I had free time. And even as a student athlete or, you know, a college senior, I was so uncomfortable having so much free time, I thought I should really get a job. So I asked my coaches if they knew anybody on campus that needed worker. And it turns out the facilities and construction crew needed a worker. So I started as a student worker for Nebraska athletic department, picking up trash. I used to vacuum suites.
[00:12:57] I'd set up tables. And this turns out 10 years later, I ended up managing 340 million dollars in projects and designing and managing the facilities I used to clean. So that's in a scope of it. So I'm going to go back to literally no. How did that really happen? I was this do when I was a student worker on the grounds crew. They had a secretary that was gone one day and I was the only female. So they brought me in to answer phones. Yet we can all chuckle at that one. Only girls can answer phones, which isn't true. One of her puts, but there was a group of guys talking about projects and I had an idea. And so I spoke up. And I think it's so important for people to do that, to not think that you're not qualified enough, you're not good enough, your ideas aren't good just because you're not a person standing in the room with the suit. I mean, I had a T-shirt and jeans on and they all looked at me and then one of the persons who was in charge of that department said, I want you to start coming and bringing a suit and still bring your grounds to float, browse through clothes. And he would just give me projects, no instruction on the projects. You just tell me something to do and see where I would take it. And that's how it really started. It was because someone missed a day of work, which I'll say to this day, I can't transfer a phone call. There are so many notes that we could people they were out. They were busy like too many buttons. But eventually he asked me, said, what do you want to do with your life? I said, well, I'm not I'm not super sure, but I know I will never spend every day in an office wearing a suit. And I spent the next 10 years in an office wearing a suit. So I learned never say never. You have to open yourself up for opportunity because that could change the world literally can't count ourselves out. But it came down to. There was a one day when I think this is the day that I really got hired. We were working on the Nebraska football lounge. We were redesigning it. And it was a meeting that I wasn't even invited to. I'll see it right now. But I was hungry for it. And so what I did and keep in mind, you heard what my degree is. I had a bachelor's degree in community health. I never had any experience in construction, architectural design, engineering. But every day when they left office, I sat down and I taught myself how to use every single program that they used AutoCAD, 3D design, Photoshop, all of the Microsoft programs. And then I taught myself how to read for plants. And so it came down to that meeting. And my boss and they had a intern get a master's degree in architectural design. And I walked into his office with the floor plans and I said, are you ready to go? And he he didn't want to tell me no. So he's a. Yeah, sure. Come to the meeting. He was being so kind. And when we showed up, the thing that happened is I was prepared. No one had asked me to be prepared. No one told me what to do. If you want something, you've got a deal to figure it out. You can't sell yourself short. I didn't have the degree. So that was the day I think I got hired because the there is the principal of a firm who said, does anyone else have any other comments on the drawings? And no one expected me to say a thing. And I pulled up my floor plans and I said, I actually have some comments. And everybody, again, they looked at me. And after the meeting, they came up to me and said, I have to tell you. Nobody ever catches things like that except me. And he's a senior principal of a firm. And so my boss looks and eventually, six months later, I had to compete for that job against that intern that had a master's degree in architectural design. And I had a bachelors degree in community health and I got hired. So I spent my next 10 years doing that. And it was amazing. All the cities that got to use this student athlete, I got to create awesome environments, build an arena, expand a football stadium, build a volleyball arena. So if anybody ever wants to tell me, I can't I'm not equipped. I don't have the degree. My family was too poor and really the wrong person to say that, too.
[00:16:59] Yeah. Absolutely stacked against you. And those software, not for nothing but AutoCAD.
[00:17:04] I mean, when my partner in life is, you know, one of the original Silicon Valley computer nerds and I feel like I've touched almost every software piece out there. AutoCAD is my least favorite. It's not friendly. It is like in the arts. It is like too much there, too much utility. So teaching that to yourself is I mean, the grit that is required with that alone is is astounding. So you you went onto it. You were you were an employee through this department of the University of Nebraska for ten years. Yes. And universities are an interesting umbrella to work under because they're kind of their own microclimate. But they have a lot of the similarities as far as the aspects and the software and things like that. But they have their own hierarchy. I think, you know, I worked for the University of Utah for a spell and it's just its own microclimate. I tried to explain it to people like, you know, there's it's you have the professional industry and then you have the university bubble as well. And everything functions under boards and committees. And this and there's a lot of different boxes that get checked for things.
[00:18:04] So it's it's it's a lesson, I think, in patients as well as process. Right. They sometimes when I think about universities. So what happened? What caused you to leave the job?
[00:18:16] I love that job and I actually loved it so much that sometimes I would really choose it over friends or family in gatherings and there's a lot of things that got pushed aside. And I started to have this whole of every day. You know, we're building the east stadium expansion. And I watched it go up from the first piece of steel that went in. And I love something being built from the ground up. My heart space is on a job site. But as I watched it construct, I'd walk over this bridge every day from where I parked. And it's like that start to say, don't just build buildings, build people. And every single day I was on a job site and I felt it. And eventually, unfortunately, my best friend in the world, she was the maid of honor at my wedding when I had got married. She died by suicide. And she was the second person who in my life, my brother had in 2005. And then she died in 2011. So within 10 years, I lost two people to suicide. And the day of her funeral, I was standing over her casket. And I thought, I can have all the success in the world. But what if I lose people, I get. It just doesn't matter. I could put my name on every building in the city of Lincoln, Nebraska, on. I've been a part of so many, quote unquote, important projects, but when you're a part of building someone's life. That's it's amazing, there's nothing that compares to being able to just share love and empower someone. So I made a commitment that day that I was going to love people. So I thought about three years we were in the middle of the biggest capital campaign that had ever existed for Nebraska athletics. And I wanted to be committed to what I was assigned. I was at the helm of a lot of the projects with my boss, John Ingram, who's fantastic and definitely inspired me in so many ways as a male leader supporting a female in a male dominated industry. But I had told him, I said, I think I'm going to leave eventually. And it's really my passion to go love people and build people and not buildings. And he knew that. So I started getting involved outside of work in Mrs. International. I wanted to take the skills that I had.
[00:20:34] And I learned over time because as a part of Nebraska athletics, that role grew a lot, whereas a part of hiring committee is a part of the rebrand for the entire athletic department. When we made our move to from the big twelve to the Big Ten contracts, you know, I ended up leading our recycling initiatives as a university. So there's a lot of things that I'd never had experience with. Yet there I play and I bet you these are skills that can translate and impacting lives. And how do we do that? And so I wanted to find platforms. I had a marketing background. Now there are things I knew how to do. You didn't know how to do makeup to save my life. I used to call eye shadow I powder. I mean, it took me like an hour in several minutes of tears to, like, not get my eyes glued together, putting my lashes. So patents was a great platform. But then I also felt like it was going to teach me how to speak well from that platform. And if you really want to impact lives, you need to sharpen those skills in 30 seconds. You should be able to tell anybody what you want to do with your life and how you're going to do it quickly and concisely. I think that's important for people to know that to always have an elevator speech because you need to live ready if you want to live with purpose. So I ended up competing for Mrs. International. I got top 10 my first year. And what I did was I stood back as I watched the other girl get crowned, because at that time I thought, well, I'm ready. You know, that was the athlete in me. I'm ready. I'm going to win.
[00:22:06] I didn't realize how ready I wasn't. So I just stood back and I was watching everything unfold on stage. And that's kind of how I learned. If you'll hear this theme over time, as I just learned and invested. So the next year I came back and I won. I wasn't a pageant girl. It had been about 15 years since I had done was as a teenager. And I'd also spent the last decade having babies. I have three children. So I decided to become a professional runner that time, too, because that makes sense. Let's do that. It really set the stage. This is all before American Ninja Warrior. They started to tie in together, but I really wanted to broaden myself to be able to have a broader audience and a broad impact and see how it could uniquely and creatively impact lives. Yeah.
[00:22:59] And it sounds like it. It all sounds very like a path that makes sense, you know, now that you're kind of unpacking it as to what you became, even the public health aspect of it, because, you know, I mean, what you went on to do, which is kind of affect public health. How did you first come into contact or how did American Ninja Warrior enter your radar zone?
[00:23:22] In college, I was roommates with Jesse Graff, which for you as a Ninja Warrior fan and for your kids. She is one of the top female. She she's absolutely amazing. And so people don't really realize we've actually been friends for 17, 18 years now. So we were roommates. I knew she had competed on American inj work. And I had someone tell me all you should do that. So I talked to Jesse and I applied. And the first year I really thought I was going to go out and crush it. Jesse was by my side. She helped me train. She flew out to Nebraska. She was trying to make sure I got ready and she had not competed. That year is actually an off year for her. But I went out and I fell on the very first step. My very first year. And they aired it. Luckily, the girl at this planet. Yep, yep. Yep. Little did we know five years later happened again, but in a much more traumatic way. But I applied the next year for Ninja Warrior and I actually got rejected. And then I applied the next year for Ninja Warrior and I got rejected again. So I was three years into it. And I can't tell you how many people at this point. My journey on the outside. It wasn't making sense to anybody. You're doing pageants for your in races now you're doing American means where and you're getting rejected and yet you're still going for it. Clearly, they don't want you.
[00:24:36] You should give up. And if anybody knows me, they think about my brand. It's never give up. And I believe that with every part of my fiber and my being and my soul and I believe that for people, if you have to know who you are and your passion so much that it's such a part of you that you can tell people, I'm going to continue it. I was not supported at that time. I will just say that it was a really challenging journey to keep going. So four years into it and came back as the top female. So I went from one of the worst to one of the best and the only one who had beat crank it up. And all those people who said you shouldn't do this shit is not right. How did you do it? And so it was just it was really important, as I learned, started to learn as a teenager, that I had to make a choice for my own journey and and also for me, knowing what God wanted for my life and that path and where it was going to go. So Ninja Warrior has been such an amazing platform to reach families, empower women. Bill, people in a real way of overcoming obstacles above and beyond.
[00:25:47] Of course, I remember when you were first the first time I saw you on, and I'm not sure which year it was for you, but I remember when I first saw you on watching it with my little girls. They were we were talking about. They had mentioned your story and they were talking about how you had three young children and you were a single mom. And. And I kind of paused. And the only thing that really big I've I've just met so many prolific, wonderful, amazing women in my life. It wasn't shocking. I just thought, I wonder when she sleeps, because if she's training for this and working and I'm a full time parent as a single parent would be. It seems to me like you would need some kind of help with some of it. What kind of aid did you have during that time period? And can you kind of describe your training routine? Was it similar to training in college? I mean, you have to do kind of design your own training. I would think the circuit, even if they're shared, prolific, you know, passes and things like that on line between the different ninjas, you're designing your your schedule, your training time, your routine. What did life look like during that time period when you went from, you know, unknown to the top female ninja warrior?
[00:26:57] It was really challenging. I, living in Nebraska, do not have any family here. So it was really hard to do it. I mean, there's there's no way to put it. And one time I actually got asked an interview. What do you like about being a single parent? And I didn't realize I was going to react this way, but I about had it like a nervous breakdown in front of them, like no one had ever asked me not. It hit me in such a way that I just I started sobbing. And I looked at them and I said, I hate it. I don't like this like it's not what life's supposed to be like. And they're like, just once you take a second, what's different, Krista? Because it was it was an in-person interview, actually, by the TV show. And I don't think they realize, you know, the number one I told the show, I never want to promote divorce. It was the hardest decision I ever had made. And I can't express enough the amount of counsel that I had surrounding that. If you can really work it out, why in both parties are willing. I want to encourage. I just need to say that now. And number two, it wasn't training like an athlete because I it was really hard to have set schedules. You know, my kids came first. So if I'm dropping off or someone says, hey, we've come have lunch with me today, mom, I forgot my bag. We bring it to school, you know. And then I freelanced for work doing what I could and find sponsorships. And so for me, really, it was the minute they went to bed is when I got to train. You know, if I could fit in an hour during the day or 30 minutes during the day, no one else will. Maybe I can give the rest of it. And tonight. So I didn't have these dedicated training sessions and then tried. The most difficult part for me was I. There is no ninja gym here.
[00:28:44] The entire time time I competed on American injured warrior. So all the equipment I trained on, I got from thrift stores attire I found on the side of a road, a truck tire. Really, if someone wants it, you can make it work. I just had to figure out how to adapt once again and thankfully my kids all of being active. So when I did travel, people notice like I'm a package deal. There's a really hard line in the sand. And if my kids can't be involved, I won't do it. And I have to trust God to, like, say no to some really hard thing sometimes that given the wow, that would be so financially good for the guy. It just might not be the best with your kids around him, like. Well, then it's a. because we are. I mean, you know, as a parent, you get such a short window of time and I'm just not willing to trade that.
[00:29:39] Absolutely. I wonder, though, when you talk about doing it on your own there, not being an engine there, the micro muscles, did you have to learn more?
[00:29:48] Did you study more about getting into because it feels like so looking at some of the obstacles over the years, especially how they've changed and things like that, it feels like you have to kind of fine tune in different regions. Jesse Graf is talking about it. I think a shoulder injury or something, or maybe it was someone else and they were talking about like slowing down their reps of their pull up so that they could get an absolutely perfect form so that the micro muscles and all that whole area would rehab correctly. And I think of in terms of the different obstacles, how would you get your body ready for the task at hand and get to the place that you did so prolifically without testing any of the courses or the activities themselves out? Did you find yourself studying anatomy or were you just doing what you could and hoping that there would be some kind of cross pollination effect?
[00:30:34] There's probably a mix of it. Jesse's always been a huge influence. And even to the point of what you just said, she's actually the one who taught me, hey, this is how you really do a pull up focus on these mechanics. So she's just always been a huge influence and have competed as a ninja.
[00:30:51] But also I think that's where being a track happily came in. I was a hurdler, which is a really it's a technical event. You have to even as you warm up, what's your mechanics go slow. Repetition, repetition, repetition. So repetition was very important for me. And what I learned to do was say flexible, build the muscle groups, especially I'm an older athlete. I mean, people to remember, both ninjas are in their early 20s. I am now thirty nine years old. So I had to make sure I don't want to throw myself eight feet in the air and catch something and rip both of my shoulders up. So that was something that was so important for me to make sure to build all of those groups, the dynamics, the functions. I didn't have a warped wall. Well, what muscle groups am I gonna use in a worthwhile what will most replicate it? And then absolutely, we spent a ton of time on playgrounds. I mean, people want to ninja Werdum, go swing around in a playground. So that was always super fun for us. And then I did have lots of opportunities to get out to ninja gyms as I was starting to speak. My kids will come with me. And so I would train on the road and try to get in some time in competitions. I will say, yeah, there's ways where I could see where it affected me, where I wasn't as fluid or I couldn't be able to cast myself as well on a laschet. And those are just things that eventually an owner of a gymnastics gym here in Lincoln, Nebraska, gave me a key to his gym just so I could try to practice Lachaise. And you can get creative. Yeah, yeah.
[00:32:20] And you have to. And it sounds like you've honed in on that skill your entire life. I'm wondering, you're starting to speak. You know, you're you're starting to compete. You didn't get in then you are. You got in on the walk on line for Ninja Warrior. This is prior to you taking the title. I'm wondering.
[00:32:39] You're starting to do public speaking and things like that. Recovery wise, like I think a lot of ninjas are starting to speak more about this. But in the past, I had a friend who is an Olympic hopeful in gymnastics, and she talked a lot about like the devoutness of her gym, about recovery after meats. And it's the reason why she thinks she went so far and a lot of fellow athletes that didn't have the same focus on that. And I'm wondering, how do you personally come at recovery? Because it kind of plays into your story as it lies now. But back then, when you were just beginning this first few years in seasons and things like that, what was recovery like for you? Like you trained nonstop? And then how long did you spend in recovery? Was there rehabilitation that had to take place? How did that all work for you?
[00:33:25] As a student athlete, it was a high priority. I will say I had to learn for ninja word because I was doing different muscles in different groups. I mean, I spent 10 years turning left and jumping over sticks. So there's a little bit of a different dynamic. But after practice and I think it's one of the reasons when I was a Division one athlete is I was an ice bath. Every day I made sure to do my cool down a stretch to eat right. I hydrated. I got sleep. So translate you had to binge warrior. I struggled to learn what to do, what was right or what my shoulders needed. And there were points where I didn't know when to stop. And now I've learned to listen to my body. But I did get to the points where I hurt my shoulder so that I put on or take off a sports bra was just about excruciating for me. And some days even just lifting my shoulder up. And that's when I started to make sure, as you mentioned earlier, building the muscle groups around, like it's basically building a body of armor around you for when you compete. And then I have to know when to say no on things. You know what? I did just spend eight hours in a car, and this course looks fun. And I want to play with all my friends, but I think I need to say no right now unless I'm dedicated to spending the next forty five minutes to warm up. So you learn. Sometimes the hard way.
[00:34:45] That rotator sounds bad. Not for arms up like that. That's a no. There are a lot of activities that would be limited with that. So I want to get into your kind of the pinnacle of the American ninja where as where as well as the Spartan Games. So for people who are listening that maybe haven't seen the show or been living in a cave somewhere. American Ninja Warrior is this multiple obstacle course. How would you define it if someone was like, I've never heard about what it do? What is that? Whatever you want.
[00:35:17] For American, each word and the one thing I'd say, it's a family friendly show, that is stories of people who are not only overcoming obstacles in their life, but they have an opportunity to do it on a global platform to overcome obstacles, literally physically in person as people cheer them on. And that's what it is. A who we all debate about. This is an injustice for it. Yes, I do believe it is a sport, but it's also also this blend of it's something that you can turn on and, you know, you never have to worry about it with your family. And I've appreciated that as more. But there's these feats of physical strength that you can tell.
[00:36:01] You see it in my eyes when I compete like my knuckles are white. And I'm holding on with everything I have. And you feel it. I think you feel it as the audience member where you're like, oh, just hold on.
[00:36:12] Oh, you can oh, you can do this.
[00:36:15] And then they make it through. And that's like everybody's chairman of the Libyans are with you. And you know that as an athlete, you know that you're part of something that's so much bigger than stepping onto a TV show. And that's such a core responsibility. I think I just took it long there. But when people ask you to talk about it and nerd out a little bit because I love it so much.
[00:36:34] Absolutely. And from that, your family, you're kind of ninja warrior family spilled over into the Spartan Games, right? You were on a team of people that was formerly ninja's.
[00:36:44] Yes, we were Team Ninja for the Spartans show competed for two seasons. It was such a cool experience and I will say things like Spartan or I haven't competed on Titan games. But those are actually more up my alley. I love brute strength, mud, grit. Not that you don't have great ninja. But it's definitely different with Spartan or something like a Titan games. It was more suitable to my comfort zone. Believe it or not, too. Yes. I want to have six people stand on my shoulders and a tilted wall.
[00:37:19] So it's fantastic. It really actually does. I loved it.
[00:37:24] Yeah. It's it's I think it defines a personality type. For sure. You know, and it's it is uniquely different hormones. Like it's the same thing right there. UPS, of course is another very, very different Rehov.
[00:37:34] So different. Yeah. Spartan it was brutal. We were just exhausted. And I think people saw that in our last race. We actually competed back to back nights and got home at seven a.m. and had to be back on set at four p.m. after we competed night after night and then compete again. And yeah, it's we were tired.
[00:37:58] Yeah. It's an indoor as it looks like an endurance game. You know, Ninja Warrior feels like there's a lot of technicalities that can go wrong and and your your run early. But the Spartans, it seems to just leave it all out there on the course, as they say. I'm wondering if so, let's Kleman to you had kind of this now very famous moment in you finished. You know, you became this this titleholder for how far you went up until that point. Can you kind of describe the run? Is it Oklahoma City that that run happened in?
[00:38:30] Oklahoma City in 2019 for American Ninja Warrior.
[00:38:35] It was my fifth year competing in the show officially and I was excited, but I'd also say I was probably the most relax I had ever been. I was really, really intense there before from Minneapolis and my training to the point that maybe overly intense. So going into this year, I thought, you know, I'm just going to really. Soak this in news in God's hands. But on the prelims night had actually fallen and saved myself by like two pinky fingers or I mean something ridiculous. And I didn't realize I could he'll hook my leg up to pull myself up up on the diving boards. But then what happened? Actually, the next night and finals going into it on the same obstacle, the diving boards, I tripped and I face planted. And with the diving boards are is there pieces of steel that are covered for traction, traction, not padding. And what that caused was a brain injury. So we didn't know it at the time. And I don't remember most of my run. I've tried to get parts and pieces of it and I got to experience it with the rest of the world. So I didn't see it before it aired. No one had video of it. The producers, you know, they don't share film with us. We don't get to see our runs or how they edited it.
[00:39:57] So watching it was really emotional. I watched it first in public. There was a watch party and I tried to actually not really watch it. And then immediately after I was in Virginia, I went to my hotel room and I watched it.
[00:40:10] I just cried because, as I said, I had spent the last oh, it was four or five months as an outpatient at a brain trauma hospital in about 20 hours a week of rehab, doing speech and cognitive physical PTO t. I ended up having a psychologist or a therapist and then vision. So pretty much almost everything that they had in the unit was a part of my life. And so those emotions were just felt so strongly because not only did I go to the E.R. that night from set, but I went to the E.R.. That's. Oh, Thursday, I had a friend come and check on me because I don't even remember driving home for no Oklahoma City, one of my friends found someone else to drive. Me and my kids got us home. I was another person we had been training with. And there was this terror van and the leg. The last thing I remember is being on stage for the starting line. And then I was standing in my kitchen in Lincoln, Nebraska. So it was so surreal and confusing. And I finally got to see why I had been so miserable, so to speak, for so many months and. Then just started to talk about it because I didn't realize how many people are actually affected by being in by brain injuries, but the number two, it also forced me to stop in such a real way and think about how fast I was going in every area of my life. And I can say right now, I think it's actually a gift. I had a brain injury because I didn't prioritize self care. You asked me about that. How how were you a single mom? I was training 40 hours a week, working for an hour as weak as parenting, you know, 40 hours a week. I, I did. I was living in a constant state of survival mode. And I think it was such mercy and grace that God's like, I love you too much to let you keep living like this. So it's it's such a gift for me today to slow down and make sure. I continue to build in arrests and slowing down and say no to something so I can allow for other yesses in my life.
[00:42:28] And I think that sometimes as simple or maybe even trite as it sounds, slowing down can require more discipline. You know, for someone who is prolifically moving through life, young parents, people who just are constantly juggling things, actually taking space and holding still and really continuing thought through, thinking about things like self care can be much more nerve wrenching, you know, than running a marathon because it's, you know, motion stays in motion is constant and things like that.
[00:43:01] But when you stop and you question can be a daunting place, even if you're doing well, you know perfectly well with all of these wonderful titles and this incredible career to sit and actually really question yourself and re identify and revisit those conversations. Is it can be a lot, you know, to handle brain injuries. I just spoke off the record. I do have a colleague and friend who suffered from one. And I think you mentioned in a prior interview that I read of yours that it's incredibly painful because it's not seen on the outside frequently that the individual looks incredibly normal. But the suffering on the inside and the therapy is particularly with my colleague and friend. She post and recovery from the actual therapies themselves sometimes would take her a day and a half, you know, just to kind of reorient it was a very painful recovery process. It wasn't just laying in bed, taking time, getting well. You know, all of that was amazing. Has have you incorporated that kind of dialog and conversation into your public speaking now? Do you think it will change how you go on to relate to your audiences and what you do?
[00:44:17] It absolutely has impacted it in a great way were a lot of people. They want to know how can I survive something traumatic? There's a lot more to my story.
[00:44:29] People want to dig deeper. It's probably on some interview somewhere. But I had a history of trauma from the time I was like five years until adulthood of different things that happened from rape, assault, abuse. And so that brain injury. It really literally forced me to sit still in the very first day I ever had and sit still, which I can't tell you the time I remember doing it before, that I legitimately can't tell you what I told you. I rested before that I screamed and it was so scary. And the next day I went into the hospital and told them, I think I'm on the verge of an emotional breakdown. But I said it in such a casual way they didn't know what to do. And I was like, listen, I'm not vulnerable. I'm an athlete. I'm trying to tell you I need help. And I will absolutely advocate for that in such a real way to not burn both candlesticks, you know, from both ends, I guess. Success is success. But if you can't have peace in your life, it's really all for naught. Kind of is what I believe. And I echo with what your friend said. For me, my vision was the hardest hit. I hit on the right side of my face. It affected some of my nerves and my eyes didn't communicate with each other. So it forced me to not be on my phone. I couldn't even answer an email. I couldn't look at technology. I physically couldn't handle the scroll of a screen. I had to reach out and ask for help. Being away from my technology. Yes, away from my emails. Gifts in it. It really restructured my entire life. And I know I still do have effects. I talk about it a lot less because I get that people say, Oh, you're so strong.
[00:46:13] Can you come back?
[00:46:14] You look amazing. And I just want to be healthy. I can't focus on that. I called the producers before I told anyone else I was going to announce. I said, you know, this is what I'm going to say. I'm so grateful for American injurious. But like, I'm I can't even think about anything beyond recovery right now because I was at the point where I was literally losing my vision. I wasn't having double vision, but my eye therapy was so aggressive I would go home and not be able to see for forty five minutes. And that was Harry. So I, I want to make sure that first and foremost, I'm the most physically healthy mom I can be because I can go out and train like I know to train. Know how to do well. But if I do that and then get hurt again, then. So my health is such a Purdie and I want to advocate for that for all people to build that in behalf phones. It's great. So, um.
[00:47:12] Yeah. And it's honorable. I think that, you know, this is the athletic spirit is celebrated, but sometimes I think just one piece of it celebrated just that moment on top of the mountain. You know, sometimes maybe the training and the climb up. But there's another piece of that.
[00:47:28] You know, there's another there's always growth. And I think that the story of the athlete that has for any reason, injury or not, kind of hit the the moment where they're they're moving on to something else. It's another pivot, you know, that that's equally as as celebratory. The story is, you know, continuing. You're not ceasing to exist because you're not on American Ninja Warrior 20, 21 or whatever. And to that end, I want to ask you, what is your your future? Have you thought about the next one to three years? I know a lot of times in recovery, even a therapist will encourage you to just keep your sights on this one goal. And so if if it isn't out there, I don't want to encourage you to not to have one. But have you thought about, professionally speaking, more any of those types of things for the next one to three years for yourself? What do you see?
[00:48:16] Within the last couple weeks, I've definitely set goals for what the next one to three years look like. I will say before that. That's the number one question I got from everybody when I spoke. What's next? What's next? What's next? And I had to be OK telling everybody. I don't know yet. And that was my answer for awhile. My next thing is to not have a next thing. And I think that's actually what is going to set me up best for what will eventually be a next. And that sounds like a big tongue twister riddle, but it was so important to not have a nexus for a little bit and be OK with that. Well, now. Yes. I want to continue and I will continue to speak and engage with people on a global scale, including Girl Scout partnerships. Empowering youth to be healthy. Goal setting individuals. Writing a book is on the table for me. Has been for a long time. I know God told me that for a while that I just need to be able to focus enough to get something specific. But most immediately, I'm actually applying for a master's degree in biblical studies with Colorado, Christian University. I want to know why not get a brain injury and go back to school? That sounds about right. So that's it. I am going to be focusing on is I'm going to be searching for scholarships to go back to school as a single mom and get a master's degree. I think it will be important for my kids to be a part of that process as well. And then I think it will honestly help me as a TBI survivor. It is going to be challenging. I do still have cognitive challenges, but I think it's going to be healthy to face them. I don't want to live in fear of them or worry or or be scared. I think that I'll continue to need the right people to support me as I try to get a masters degree. And it's going to be exciting. And then I'll have something I'll be launching in the next couple months. I'm partnering with some media teams. So I think ultimately my goal this is going to sound weird is to like a race myself and not have Maggi Thorne be the brand. But something else exists that last beyond me that can pass on as a legacy for other people where it becomes their own thing. And they're not just how I go to your page and it's so inspiring. Yes, I love it and I appreciate it. What can I help other people make their own? And that becomes their legacy within themselves. So that's a goal.
[00:50:44] That's a beautiful thing. I love that. And I love legacy. And I think it's I think as parents, you get to a point where you start to actually think about it. You know, you have this this breath. And I say the second, you know, you come up as a parent. You know, when you the toddlers are sleeping through the night. You have like a year. And you start saying, what am I going to do with my life? And then you immediately become enveloped with, like, what's my legacy? What am I leaving on Earth? There's never, ever an expectation or break for me anyway. And so I. Yours is beautiful. I love that. We're running out of time. But I do want to ask you, Maggi. What do you if if you ran up to someone next tomorrow and safe social distance at a Gardiner Park. And it was a young woman and she said, listen, we have a friend in common.
[00:51:33] And they said, I've got to come talk to you. I've had this wonderful career as a student athlete. I then spent the next decade involved in this area that at the beginning I didn't necessarily have the training for became prolific at. And I was very proud of all of those things. But I'm going to actually pivot now and do this wonderful, you know, obstacle course slash television show and hope for the best. What are the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual knowing what you know now?
[00:51:58] I would ask her or him what, number one? Why do you want to do it? What's your purpose behind it? Because the training and commitment for it is so hard. If that is it behind it, it's gonna make it all that more difficult. So I'd really want to know that first and have a compass of Wohlsen here. Here's where you go from there. And being able to make it, it's 24/7 training. And what I mean with that is your rest is training your waters, training your nutrition. The people you surround yourself with is training. It's a full time commitment. It's not something you turn on and off during the day to the point that I stop wearing high heels for a while because it was to impact like my legs couldn't handle it. And again, I'm older. But there's those three things. Why do you want to do it? Letting them know it's a full time commitment and then building a really solid foundations are able to get the experience and have the best experience possible. As if if I think if you go into it and I'll say this for anybody, anything you go into. If your expectation is is just to win, I think you walk away with a loss. You have to walk into it with purpose and passion, because if you don't win, but you still know, you give everything you've got. That's a victory. Absolutely.
[00:53:31] Yeah. A thousand percent, I think with everything in life, two measurements are, you know, first of all, usually not constructed by the person competing in them. So developing your own son's very solid. So loosely, I have no one know your purpose in why training is hard. So you need to know where all of your passion and purpose is coming from and what they are identified. Number two, training is 24/7, 365, encompassing all aspects of your life. Remember that. And number three, build a solid foundation for the best experience possible. And the goal isn't just to win. I love. That's why you're the pro. Good job. Thank you very much.
[00:54:08] I'm so thankful that you spoke with us today. Maggi, we're out of time. But I just wanted to say again, I really appreciate everything that you've you've given us today. And I know that there's a lot of personal narrative tied into your professional story. And I really do appreciate your candor and honesty.
[00:54:23] Thanks, Patricia. I appreciate what you're doing to educate, empower and equip people across the nation and globally.
[00:54:29] Absolutely. For everyone listening, we've been speaking with Maggi Thorne. She's an athlete, motivational speaker. You can find out more regarding everything that she is doing on her Web site. W w w dot. Maggi Thorne, dot com. That's m a g.g i t h o r and e dot com.
[00:54:48] Thank you for giving us your time today and until we speak again next time. Remember to stay healthy, stay safe and honest. But yourself. Slainte.
Thursday Aug 06, 2020
Thursday Aug 06, 2020
Today I chat with Tamara Klink. Tamara’s life purpose is to empower females working in technology to live a balanced and purposeful life. She founded FIIT Collective to create a global support network for females working in tech, or considering information technology as a career.
Along the way Tamara spent 8 years as a circus performer, graduated from Bond University with a Bachelors of Business and Accounting, then moved into recruitment, before finding her joy in technology. Tamara now works for Salesforce, one of the leading technology companies globally, as a Senior Solution Engineer.
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I speak with Tamara Johanna Klink. Tamara is the founder of the Global Support Network. F. I. I. T. Fit Collective. Key points addressed were tomorrow's professional history and current dream job with Salesforce. We also discussed her founding the Fit Collective, which stands for females in information technology and serves as a global support network for females working in tech or considering a career in tech. Stay tuned for my talk with Tamara Johanna Klink.
[00:00:37] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .com , where you can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod, Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:35] Hi, everyone, and welcome back. I'm your host, Patricia. And today I'm excited to be sitting down with Tamara Johanna Klink. She's the founder of Fit Collective, a global support network for females working in tech, are considering a tech career. You can find out more about her and fit collective at fit collective dot com. Welcome, Tamara.
[00:01:56] Oh, thank you so much, Patricia, for having me.
[00:01:58] Absolutely. I look forward to unpacking fit collective and everything that you're doing there for everyone. Listening and perhaps new to the podcast series will follow the same trajectory, a roadmap for today's podcast and follows the same trajectories, all of those in the series with our inquiry line. First looking at unpacking tomorrow's academic background and early professional life leading leading her up to father founding of Fit Collective. Then we'll turn straight to Unpacking Fit Collective. We'll get into the logistics of who, what, when, where, why, how, funding all of those things that may pertain to it. And then we'll get into the ethos and the philosophy behind what Tamara is doing with her vision there. We'll then turn our efforts towards unpacking and looking at the goals and plans that she has in the future for both the collective and her other work endeavors. And we'll wrap everything up with advice that she may have. For those of you looking to get involved with fit, collective and or emulate some of her career success. Before I begin peppering Tamara with questions, I'll read a quick bio on hers that can garner a bit of her background prior to her describing herself. Tomorrows life purpose is to empower females working in technology to live a balanced and purposeful life. She founded Fit Collective to create a global support network for females working in tech or considering information technology as a career. Along the way, tomorrow spent eight years as a circus performer, graduated from Bond University with a Bachelors of Business and accounting, then moved into recruitment before finding her joy in technology. Tomorrow now works for Salesforce, one of the leading technology companies globally as a senior solution engineer. Since founding her business, Tamara has been awarded the top five leading ladies in tech on Instagram by women who code top blogs. Young women in technology should follow by code like a girl, a finalist for the air and women in I c t awards and a finalist in the Emerging Leader category of the Empowerment of Women Awards. So tomorrow, that's really exciting. You've had some like really quick early on success and I'm excited to kind of climb through what you're doing now and find out more about it. But before we do that, could you please, for our audience listening and watching today, kind of describe your academic background and early professional life that led you to where you are right now?
[00:04:23] Yeah, no problem. Did you want me to start back in the circus is that way?
[00:04:28] Yes. I want all of it. I do. And you can't drop a little tidbit like that without me just dying to hear more about it.
[00:04:35] Or I said so ever since I was a little girl, I was a sporty kid and I really enjoyed it and excelled in professional sport. So I went to state swimming, water polo. I was very good at dancing, gymnastics. But none of them had my heart. And it was one day when I was walking down Queen Straight and All in Brisbane and I saw these kids doing circus tricks. And I looked at my mum saying, Oh, my God. That is so cool. That's exactly what I want to do. And she's thinking, my gosh, tomorrow you are already doing a million other things. But okay, let's go to the game. So I started doing circus. At the age of 10 and by the age of fifteen, I moved out of home and was traveling all of Australia with a circus school. So I would still go to normal high school. But the teachers would come and tour with us to ensure that we did allow exam the same as every other normal kid would. At the same time. And we would schedule our tours and performances around those exam timetables. And my ultimate goal at that point was to be in display. That was that was the dream. And in my graduating year, when I was 18 years old, I had an injury and it wasn't surveyed. But it was enough for me to wake up and realize how dominant or how much my body needed to be fit and healthy for me to have a sustainable career at Circus.
[00:06:15] And everything that my parents said about moving out of home. I mean, at the time I was going to an all girls Catholic boarding school before I went to sex. So it was a big shift for them emotionally. So, yeah, everything just came rushing back of them saying that I needed a back. So I decided to listen as much as I didn't want to and put my head in the books and studied really, really hard. In my final year at school and ended up going to university in the Gold Christ, where I studied business management and accounting, and the goal was to just get my degree and then head back to circus. But that wasn't the case at all. I fell in love with university and left my circus career behind. And naturally, I excelled in accounting. So as any, I guess, university student would think. What you excel at. You should pursue. So I ended up getting a part time job in a tax accounting firm and then studying part time and then having three other casual jobs on the side to ensure that I could sustain the party life and buy all the new dresses that I wanted. And at the end of my degree, I realized how much I hated accounting and I thought it was really dull and really boring. And it wasn't for me and I could not stand to look at another tax or 10. I needed some more human interaction. So I was really, really lost at that point and I had no idea what I wanted to do. So I went to my parents for advice and I had two opportunities on the table. One was in change management at one of the top four firms here in Australia, and another was starting up a recruitment firm for an international recruitment agency in Melbourne. And I spoke to them at the time. I was like, what do you think I should do? And they said, Mary, you have two options. You can either be really small fish in a really big pond and start consulting on change management. When you have zeri industry experience and work really, really, really long hours, or you can really step outside of your comfort zone and start a recruitment firm and they you're going to learn how to sell, how to negotiate and build a really, really thick skin because not everyone likes recruiters.
[00:08:46] And so yeah, I decided to start a recruitment firm. I thought it's going to give me a really good perspective of all the industries out there and first hand knowledge of all of the different corporate coaches. And then after that, I'll know where I want to go and guide my career that way. So funnily enough, the recruitment side of the business that I was starting with s schools recruitment. And at the time I had no idea what SAS was, was I was like, what is it, CRM? I just don't understand. And so in the first week, I had to do a presentation to my managers at the time and about sousveillance and the type of candidates that we would hire by the end of the presentation. My manager said to me, When can we get sound? Supposing we need it as a CRM? And I was just so passionate about it. I would be the first one in the firm to be there in the morning researching about Marc Benioff and what technology he's just bought and the latest innovations. And I ended up spending more time learning about Salesforce than actually recruiting. And one day I decided to do what I did best. And that was take a day off and recruit. And I recruited myself into all of the different organizations that I knew had samples so specialized in samples, implementations and just said, look, I'm a junior. I don't know a lot. I've been studying sounds and really passionate about it. Would you give me a chance to work at your firm and I'll do whatever it takes? I work the long hours. I'll do whatever course. And two organizations had said yes. And I decided to go with the organization that specialized in marketing cloud, which is what I specialize in today. And I wouldn't say could not believe that they hired me. I had zero technical knowledge, zero technical skills. And within the first two weeks they put me on site with clients and building the platform. And I just fell so deeply in love with it, ended up being a developer. And then after two years, I got a job at Salesforce. So that's my career journey. I guess where I went, especially where I want to talk about, is with it. Collective came into that.
[00:11:13] Yeah, absolutely. What was the inspiration for launching a collective or was it something that germinated for a long time, or was it just something that kind of hit you one day?
[00:11:23] Well, being in recruitment and specializing in tech recruitment, it sounds folks recruitment. I started to notice how many men I was talking to, and at the time it wasn't an issue at all. I love men. I think they're great. I think they're really intellectual and very smart. And when I started my job at Kaleido, which was the partner that first hired me with serious technical skills. I very quickly realized that my team were olman, and that wasn't an issue at all. They didn't discriminate against me. They really looked after me. They gave me so many different opportunities. I wouldn't be where I am today without them. But I couldn't say what I couldn't see. And there was no senior management there at the time that were female. And I was lusting where my career path could go. So I started looking online for some tech events that I could attend and meet other women who were in tech. And I found some really, really great events with girls in tech and cried like a girl and they were just phenomenal. But the issue at the time was that I didn't have time to attend these events all the time working in tech. You do have implementation projects that require later hours at times. And I found myself signing up to these events, but not being able to go. So I looked online looking for some other career stories about women in tech. And the ones that I found I didn't feel were authentic. I felt like it highlighted all of the success, but it didn't talk about the challenges that women have to go through to get to where they are today. And they missed such a big piece of the puzzle, which was the life aspect. You know, it focused on the career. But what about the life? And what about falling pregnant and going on maternity leave and what it's like to come off maternity leave and the guilt that you have behind that? Why aren't we talking about that? Like, why is that seen as a weakness? So I started off with an Instagram account just to save. That was an audience out there. And if there were other women in tech who wanted that holistic view in that work life balance and being more purposeful in life, work and life. And my Instagram account just blew up and I thought, OK, this is an opportunity. Started a website and now it's time to into a podcast, which I absolutely love. And yeah, there's just so much that I want to do with it.
[00:13:51] So I'm curious, when your audience started to grow. Was it local? Did you. Did you make it immediately global or was it Australian?
[00:14:01] And was it largely women or female identified? Or did any of those profile elastic characteristics matter?
[00:14:09] Yes. So I thought that my audience would be predominantly in Australia. But it's actually masked mostly in the US, which is amazing. I love. I definitely want to go to the US again one day. I think it's such an incredible country. And. But I do have a lot of men as well. And that's not a problem for me at all because men are part of the picture. And that's what an equal workforce looks like. And we need them to have that do best by thinking when we need them to help us get to the levels that we deserve. So it was global. Straight away, us predominant. And then I would say Australia and then the Asian countries.
[00:14:53] OK, let's get into some of the logistics. So am I correct? It's a fit collective stands for females in information technology.
[00:15:03] OK. And so that's where you're getting the acronym. When was it founded? Did you take any funding? Do you have any co-founders and. Yeah. Let's start with those three.
[00:15:15] OK. Awesome. So the website started May 2018 and that was just made blogging about my experience as a female in tech and talking about the different areas of life. So tech well-being and balance and getting other women in tech to share their stories and their advice and how they got to where they are today and what I found in doing that. It was very time consuming and I'm not a natural writer at all. That's something that I've struggled with. Having a mother who comes from the Netherlands, I guess her English wasn't his strong suit, ADA. So it was very time consuming for me. And I thought I was doing a disservice to those women by not sharing their stories to a wider audience. So that's when my partner, Joe Norson, thought that launching a podcast would be a great idea. So the podcast launched in September 2019, and it's absolutely skyrocketed since then. And I love doing it.
[00:16:21] And then your last question was about the fandoms reality. Yeah. You and what did you found it alone. And since have you brought on other founders? If so, and did you bootstrap or get funding?
[00:16:33] So will I. So I founded it by myself initially, but my partner, Joan Auton, I would also classify him as a puppet found on whether he likes it or not. But it honestly wouldn't be where it is today without him. I wouldn't have slept through so many hoops outside of my comfort zone to launch the bug and the website. And he's very technical and helped me a lot with the Web site and is a very good writer. So you raids and edits everything that I write. So I definitely classify him as a founder, if not the same, when helping me lead the way. And in terms of funding, no, it's all self-funded by myself. So I'm very grateful that I do have a very good salary at Salesforce to help fund my business. But it is getting to the stage where, you know, I am looking for sponsorship. I'm really hoping to increase the amount of podcasts that I release and start advertising on there. But it's a fine line of adding ads to a podcast and making sure those ads are helping my audience. I don't want ads that aren't relevant or that are disrupting their listening and it's not bringing value to them. So, yeah, it's a very fine line. And if you have any advice, I'd love to know how.
[00:17:57] Well, I. The same. No, I think you're right to be very considerate.
[00:18:01] I host four different podcasts and I, I take myself seriously because of the communities that I'm speaking with. Not on the whole as a person, I don't think I take myself that seriously. However, working with women and female identified non binary individuals such as yourself and telling the professional chronicles over the past three years, it's been a struggle. I haven't done a lot of partnerships and sponsorships. We've had offers for acquisition that couldn't go through simply because I couldn't guarantee the authenticity and value staying the same to those audiences. I think it depends on the niche market. You speaking to women? I think that's getting better. I think that the actual industry is growing up before our eyes. Podcasting is was very much so still the Wild West three years ago. And now there seems to be some kind of a tenor, you know, and an appropriate following and things like that. And even though there's still variance in how people put them out, I was always like, where's the structure? Like, how do I know what I'm getting? And I think a lot of those things are carrying over into sponsorship and partnership as well. I think the people are starting to get that. You don't want to just go rogue and have some anti female ads suddenly on your, you know, female podcast. That would be daunting. So I do think that that is happening before our eyes. But I do think you are also very wise to consider those kinds of aspects before you just kind of throw it all into the wind, because you do you have an onus, you have a responsibility to this community that's been sharing stories with you and listening to each other's stories and things like that. And so there's there's a reference, at least for me, that I think is required. I love your work, like your website design. I think it's very clean. There's been a lot of change. I originally came up in Silicon Valley and, you know, the newest rage and stuff like that with website design can be like the worst color of orange for a prom dress that you've ever seen. Like, it's just kind of like you can't fall too quickly for, like, the new things because they're very fad, like. And so I like that your site has like a classic timelessness to it, which I feel like any site that's supposed to be for a collective or that kind of a word has a lot of heti meaning for me. And so I like the the design and what it looks like. But I also like that you very judiciously and succinctly get into like a clear mission, you know, about what you what you're meant to do, what you what you're intending for, the collective and things like that. And I want to kind of ask you about that. I grabbed the quote you it's from your site. It says, Our vision is for 50 percent of the global information technology workforce to be female. And I think that that kind of a mission is cool. I think it's important to say those kinds of things, even though it's it's a lot, you know, it's it's a lot of people would say that and be like maybe, you know, there's a lot that goes along with that. But I like that you're stating it. You also talk about transparency and communication and all of these values that you really you uphold in the collective. And I want to kind of unpack that a little bit more and see where some of the future or current action items are in how they're meeting up with those philosophies. So can can you kind of speak two main areas of conversation that your collective is happening or are there initiatives that people are getting behind? Is it as much as petitions being signed or are there any things that people are actually doing to start putting some of these goals into actual work, real action items?
[00:21:36] Yeah, there is a lot that's happening. And I'm so grateful that a lot of Mella allies are running these petitions and pushing for regulations to be changed. So in Australia, there's a lot happening with equal pay and southpaws. That itself has you know, I think they've balanced the pay by twelve million dollars now to ensure that all of the employees, no matter what race, gender, religion, that they're paid the equal as their colleagues. There is a lot of movement like that happening and having paternity leave. So giving men the option to be able to take that paternity leave. Scandinavia's definitely leading the way. Then they make it mandatory. So you either use it or lose it. So when an employer is looking to hire male or female, both of them could have the opportunity to take twelve months of the year. So there's no discrimination and there's no unconscious bias when hiring a male or female. So that's knocked off the park straight away. That is a lot of it's not. Some organizations are a little bit more aggressive, and that's not the approach that I would like to take. Like I mentioned before, men are out of the picture. And Fickett Collective isn't about females taking over the world. It's just about simple equality.
[00:23:03] And it's funny when you look more and more into it and say how many aspects of the organization molded to fit a man's world. So, for example, the air conditioning, that's at a level that is most comfortable to men and not women. Women like it a little bit more woma. So it's just simple things like that that organizations are becoming more aware of. And I don't think any organization is purposefully making unconscious bias or discriminate discrimination against any gender or religion or so forth. I think it's just more about being open and aware of what is equal and that we're not asking for anything more than what a man would ask for. So there is a lot happening. I wouldn't say this petition, so forth. I don't think we need to get ahead. But there are slightly changing regulations all over the Web.
[00:24:00] Do you make goals? And if so, is it a collective? How does it work when you have so many people kind of belonging to this union? And has that changed since the launch?
[00:24:12] Do you make goals as to what you would like to see it be a part of what you would like to see fit? Collective have. It's like some print on its like signature too. Or are you still kind of forming that?
[00:24:28] Yeah, it's, it's funny because I'm so passionate about it collective and I'm so passionate about Salesforce. I could not think about losing one of the other. So I'm very big goes by. But then it comes that whole lot of balancing and fame really stake in what you can and can't achieve. So I guess within the first next three years, what I would like to do is really increase the cost, because that is saying such an incredible shift. And the reviews and the direct message, things that I get on Instagram and on LinkedIn, I just mind. And I have a best selling authors contacting me, asking me to be on their podcast. And I have women messaging me, opening up to the stories that they've had that they resonated with some of the guests that I've had on the show. Like, it's just it honestly, those guys would cry because I'm so grateful to be able to have that impact on a female and make them feel like that they can have it all and that they can pursue their wildest dreams and they are worthy of receiving that. So the first one to call is increasing that tech podcast frequency. So currently it's fortnightly and so hopefully get it to weekly, then create a number of eight learning programs to really help women in tech accelerate their career. So I've got one. Got a few ideas, but I've got one that's due to be launched soon. And then I have a really ambitious idea, and that's to develop an and pay for a female centric productivity app. So I'm super excited about bots and as well as, you know, really big goals for Salesforce as well. So really big goes there. And I'm very ambitious to get them. But as long as I'm putting my mental and physical health as a priority, because that's everything that I talk about and it's really important and then not intact, then you can't possibly table the goals that you want to.
[00:26:37] That's absolutely true. And it's it's good to recognize it young.
[00:26:41] I think a lot of the women that I speak to and female identified individuals are, you know, in a place of of a little bit more pain and sacrifice after they've come to that conclusion. It's good to recognize that at a younger age. I'm curious about your podcast. And I'm I so I had the opportunity. You're in Australia. We talked about this prerecording and I had the opportunity to be in Sydney and actually do a couple of podcasts there. And I went to a meetup group based on local podcasters there and had the opportunity to speak in and kind of share the platform idea. I wasn't sure how different it would be where you're at versus my side of the globe. But I did learn that there is a lot of different networks and there's a lot of different ways, like you said, ads and things like that. There's a lot of podcasters in the states that are just, you know, cow people. They will just kind of up and bootstrap it all and just figure it out as they go. And they don't really think about those things. And I found at least a lot of my Australian counterparts to be very thoughtful and particular. At said that at that pace that they were finally out. When I am when I met up with them at the Meetup group and I'm wondering with you. Are you on? So I know your podcast is you can locate it on your website. But are you hosted on other networks? You. Australia has a very famous podcasting female network that Kelly Glover. I interviewed her and she used to work for it, but it was one of the first ones I had ever even heard of, even including in the States. But I'm wondering if you have if you host it yourself or if it's nestled in different indexes, how does that work for you guys down under.
[00:28:25] Yes. So I didn't know about that old female podcast racing. You'll have to have to look out for her up after this episode. That's really interesting. Sorry, it's just on all the regular podcast channels like Apple and Spotify and Stanzler and Chain I Heart Radio. So on my Web site. I do think that. I have had a few emails lately that it is opening up into the Scandinavian countries and I just assumed that they would be there already. I don't know if you've had the same as well. So I would assume that it's that it's available globally. But that could be naive of me to think that.
[00:29:08] Well, I wasn't sure either.
[00:29:10] I actually did podcasts about a year and a half ago out of Sweden and Ireland, and I wasn't sure when I was there. And the people that I contacted, I gave them just my natural like I tune Spotify address. And and I did get notifications. They were all able to access it. But I also got notifications that they're kind of doing their own hosting of channels and things like that. I think people again, you know, you're kind of witnessing the toddler doom of of podcasting. It's growing up before our eyes, which is kind of a ride. I mean, you how how frequently can you say that? It's like being around when the computer first launched, it would have been a riot. So that's interesting. So I'm wondering, given that you're doing this within the podcasting, as you know, this kind of beloved creature of yours, how is it based? Are you doing an all interview based? How are you running a length? Are you picking topics? Are you lousing the collective to weigh in on what is spoken about? How does all of that work when you're doing your fortnightly podcast?
[00:30:10] Yeah. So it's a combination. So when I first started, because I was a bit nervous thing behind the mike, I thought that someone would just be my partner, Joel and I, talking about some of the challenges that women in tech face and how to overcome them, as well as acknowledging some of the discrimination that men have as well. Second, for example, you know, I don't know if you have them in the States, but Father's Day Marquises is typically at seven a.m. and then Mother's Day breakfast is at 10 a.m. So there's discrimination on both ways. Assuming that the father is working and the mother is not just talking about some of those things and that it's also difficult for men to leave work early to pick up that child, it's often that thinking, well, why isn't the female doing that? So this discrimination bikeway. So I really want to have him on the show to have it ensure that we have that collective, at least from a male and female standpoint. And just in my preliminary launch, I hadn't even launched a podcast yet. It was just all marketing and showing little sound bites of the podcast. I actually had the CIO of Susan Group, which is a huge Aussie fashion brand here in Australia, contacted me saying I wanted to be on your cost and I'd love to be interviewed. And I'm looking at my Poncho's thinking what this was meant to be. Season two, I'm not ready to interview people, especially not a CIO of a major fashion company. You're kidding. And then just like, what are you doing? Forget season one. Get her on the show. You just need to learn and guide for it is sort of being ad hoc since then. I definitely get the input of my collective. I ask all the time on Instagram what are the topics that they want me to talk bad? Or I ask specific questions like what are some of the challenges that they're facing currently right now and get their input. And we do talk about a lot of those topics. And then with the interviews with the guests, I've been very fortunate. A lot of them have come to me to be on the podcast, and I initially have a 30 minute conversation with them and look at their background and had some ideas of the topics that we can talk about and then get a feel of what they're comfortable in and what they're passionate about and what is the impacts that they want to make. When the podcast is finished. How do they want to transform a female and text lives? Or how do they want to help a male ally help women in tech get to the top?
[00:32:43] So, you know, it's it's definitely very collaborative. And I am. Very proud that they guess that I've had on the show a very authentic and talk about the challenges. That's really, really important to me. And I do try my best to pull them out and be vulnerable and open because that's where people really start to relate. So, yes, it's definitely a combination of everything that you talked about.
[00:33:10] Just fantastic. I think the goal to I mean, you know, Melinda Gates was telling David Letterman on his inquiry's show that launched a couple of years ago.
[00:33:19] She just said, listen, if we have to keep women at the table, there's less women in tech right now than 10 years ago. And it's a huge concern for, you know, women who are allied to women in tech or women who are in tech. I have two daughters for that reason alone. I mean, you know, it's it's scary to think that we're losing our place at the table because we will lose our voice in the future. And the future is tech. And we want to have a seat at that table. And we need about 50 percent of those seats. Not one, you know. And so I think it's so crucial to have organizations like yours and Fit Collective like out there sharing stories, making sure we're still having these important conversations.
[00:34:02] And to be clear, you know, pay parity, sexism across all boards, across all genders, it services nobody. Men lose out, women lose out. Non binary people we all lose. There I can show everyone that paradigm very, very quickly. Any kind of bigotry actually doesn't service to society very well. And that's why ones that go about eliminating it have a happier work life balance and just a happier citizenship in general. So it's definitely for you know, I have two boys and two girls and it's for everyone. But I do think that your mission is as audacious and awesome and I love it. Olympic collective. I love everything about it. We're wrapping up and running out of time, which I wish we weren't going to. I mean, I'll go into my final question, which I am I'm known for. It's one of my favorite. Everyone's like, are you ever going to change it? I was like, No, never. And I'll be forever. So if you were at a safe social distance from someone and a gardener a park tomorrow and they walked up to you and it was a young woman or female identified not by an individual, anyone other than a straight white male for purposes of this podcast. And they said, listen, tomorrow, I'm so glad I caught you. So check it out. I know I had this incredible background in sport. And I am. I went in to uni. I got my stuff done. I thought I was gonna go back to the spa and up not doing it. And then it turned out that I was setting something at uni that I had to kind of pivot. Then people gave me two options and I chose the harder of the option. I found my niche. I found this company. This works that I'm obsessed with. And I'm getting ready to launch this this side Passion Hustle project that I'm just I'm related to do it, but I'm getting ready to do it without a whole lot of mentorship. What are the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual knowing what you know now?
[00:35:57] I would definitely say ensure that this is your purpose. The purpose is very different to following your passion. And I think a lot of people get confused between the two and your passions change, just like in my story. My passion was circus than it was accounting. But they change your purpose, doesn't it? And I was very, very grateful to find that very early in my life. And it is tough finding it. You have to dig really, really deep and open all the skeletons out of your closet to understand what that is. Because if you follow your passion, you end up just creating a job for yourself. And that's no different to what you are doing today. Whereas if you follow your purpose, you're intrinsically motivated to continue even through the most challenging times. So I'd say that would be the first piece of advice. The second is just get started. It's so easy to get caught in a trap of striving for perfection, whereas you just need to get it and they pay out that test the market. Is there an audience? I start with an instant. Family can do whatever way that works for you. And then just test it. Right. Test it. Right. And then you evolve and build a product that you're really, really proud of. And the third one, if I can only choose three to get a mentor, I wouldn't be where I am today without my mentors. So with that, my partner, John Wharton, and the mentors that I have at schools and outside of Salesforce, they are a big part of where I am today.
[00:37:29] Yeah, absolutely. And I'm not sure the end the word mentor, like there's a lot of people calling it different things, but I, I don't know of anyone who got to happiness or the top of a mountain or hill without some kind of an advisor, teacher, a mentor that they could really guide themselves by.
[00:37:47] All right. So I've got to ensure that this is your purpose. It's different from your passion. So recognize what your purposes and make sure that this endeavors that just get started and get a mentor. Absolutely. Yeah. Fantastic. Those are perfect. Three, I love this. And they really do cross like industry genre. Like you could tell that to a young artist. It's perfect. The next biochemist.
[00:38:12] Well, Tamara we're out of time, but I wish we weren't. And I thank you so much.
[00:38:16] I know you got up early for this and I know you're busy. Everyone is. But you in particular. And I really appreciate you sharing your story and your candor and all of your information with us today.
[00:38:28] Thank you so much, Patricia. I've had a lot of fun, and I wish you all the success that I'm looking forward to here in the process when it gets launched.
[00:38:35] You bet. You as well. And for everyone listening, we've been speaking with Tamara Johanna clink and you can find out more. She's the founder of Fit Collective. And you can look it up online. It's Ficke collective dot com.
[00:38:48] Thank you for giving us your time today. And until we speak again next time, remember to always bet on yourself. Slainte!
Tuesday Aug 04, 2020
Talking with Lynn Power; CEO of Masami
Tuesday Aug 04, 2020
Tuesday Aug 04, 2020
Today I chat with Lynn Power. Lynn is a longtime ad agency executive with a love for beauty. She's been fortunate to work on many iconic brands, including the Gillette Venus global marketing launch, Clinique global, L'Oreal Natural Match launch and VIVE relaunch, Nexxus repositioning, Vichy positioning and La Roche-Posay and St. Ives. She has done lots of other categories too including American Express, Hershey's, Campari, Kimberly-Clark, Nestle, T. Rowe Price. . . She loves building teams, reinventing cultures and disruption. Lynn is currently the CEO of MASAMI (Botanical hair products).
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
TRANSCRIPTION
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I speak with CEO of botanical hair company Masami Lynn Power. Key points addressed where Lynn Dynamic 25 year history as a top level exhibit in New York City's elite ad agencies and her new endeavor at Masami, an organic and Vegan hair care line with a devout backing and responsible and ethical ingredients and ethos. Stay tuned for my informative talk with Lynn Power.
[00:00:32] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .COM, where you can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:29] Hi, everyone, and welcome back. I'm your host, Patricia, today. I am so excited to be sitting down with Lynn Power.
[00:01:34] Lynn is the CEO of Masami, which is a botanical hair product company. You can find out more about her and the company at w w w dot. Love Masami dot com. That is l o v e m a. S a. Am I dot com. Welcome, Lynn.
[00:01:51] Well, thank you. Thanks for having me.
[00:01:53] Absolutely. I'm excited to kind of climb through your personal background as well as Masami, the company. I actually really like a lot of the direction that it's headed and it has a lot of very similar constituents to the work that we do. Patricia, Kathleen Podcast's, in regards to responsibility towards the Earth and everything that it's doing for everyone listening. I will read a brief bio on Lynn before I start peppering her with questions. But prior to that, a quick road map for today's podcast. For those of you that are new, it's following the same trajectory. The four core constituents that all of them in podcast series. This one do cover. So we will first look at Lynn, academic background and early professional life. Then we'll turn towards and packing Masumi. We'll get into logistics about who, what, when, where, why, how founders', how long it's been around all of those things, what it is, the products. And then we'll turn to the ethos and some of the philosophy that this particular company actually enumerates on quite beautifully and has a lot to say about that. Our third point, we'll reach in two Lynn's goals and plans for the next one to three years and both with Mussomeli and maybe personally. And how this to kind of intertwine. We'll wrap everything up with advice that she has regarding her success, her legacy, what she's done with her professional life and her current work. But prior to that, as promised, a quick bio on Lynn. Lynn is a longtime ad agency executive with a love for beauty. She's been fortunate enough to work on many iconic brands, including the Gillette, Venus Global Marketing Launch, Clinique Global L'Oreal Natural Match Launch and Veev Relaunch Nexus Repositioning, Vicha Positioning and Larocque Laroque Post say. I'm probably not saying what is right. I'll let Lin correct me in a second. And St. Ives. She has done lots of other categories too, including American Express, Hershey's, Campari, Kimberly Clark Ness, Nazli T. Rowe Price. She loves building TMD and reinventing cultures and disruption, which I love that you can contact her at her current position and find more about the website again at w w w dot love Masami dot com. So Lynn, I. You've had an amazing career you've worked with. There's not a personal life that hasn't heard of one of these brands and the ad agency. One can only imagine the kind of wealth that you've developed. And I am hoping that you can prior to unpacking less of me, I'm hoping you can kind of walk us through an understanding or summary of your academic background and professional life prior to go into Masami.
[00:04:32] Yeah, sure. So unlike my children today who are 19 and 17 and are kind of now having to figure out what they're wanting to do and figure out their majors very early.
[00:04:47] I had no idea.
[00:04:50] And I actually was a double major of criminal justice and English. And I was thinking for a hot minute that I was going to go into law school. But then I was like, oh, that's just boring. I can't do that. So then I decided I wanted to go into the FBI and I went through the whole application process and it was nineteen eighty nine. And there was a hiring freeze. It was a recession. And I got kind of a form letter back saying thanks but no thanks. You know, you've kind of you've made the you've made the list supposedly, but we're not hiring. So check back in in six months kind of thing. I was living at home at my parents' house, so I was like, that's just not going to work. So I met a recruiter who sent me on an interview for advertising and she said, this is what you're gonna do. And I was like, oh, I hadn't really thought about it. It was interesting, but I didn't go to school for it at all. I've never taken up advertising or marketing class and set me on an interview. And I was a really good typist. And so they hired me as a receptionist. And from there, I just love the culture, the creativity. And I kind of was able to just work my way up and I just I just really enjoyed it. So, you know, I went from a small agency in Chicago to a bigger agency in Chicago. And then I met my my boyfriend now husband at the time we moved to New York. And then, you know, I was able to at least stretch stretch my wings at the New York shops. And I worked at several of the of the large funds all the way up until. My last job at J. Walter Thompson, I was CEO of the New York office.
[00:06:32] Wow, amazing. It does. So it is for everyone listening. You know, I have this very Hollywood version of the advertising agency.
[00:06:40] I must say, like, my internal knowledge is probably limited to what I've seen on, like, Mad Men or something.
[00:06:46] But I'm wondering, is it is it is it is New York City really the kind of the nexus of advertising its kind of perceived? You know, I think among a lot of lay people as like this heart, this heart throb heart center of the advertising world, would you concur with that?
[00:07:02] Yeah, I absolutely would. And I think if you're really serious about the business, you just can't beat the experience you get at a New York agency. So you don't have to do it forever. I thought I was going to do it for two years maybe. And then I ended up being in New York for 25 years. You are kind of just grabs you and doesn't let go, you know, and you just have to go with it.
[00:07:25] It's amazing the time period that you were in as well. I mean, and it's probably it's probably my age. I'm forty three.
[00:07:31] But, you know, that time period and advertising, it went through almost a diabolical, like up and down. I feel like the 80s, the 90s and the 90s in particular, you know, it was a disconnect, a reconnect. It is particularly because the society itself was like having these schizophrenic breaks with health and things like that that were so pushed, you know, in the advertising industry. But like fat free, sugar free additives, this that preservatives, like all these different things that were kind of chronicled in a lot of different caveats in society. But I imagine it would have been a really wild ride to be involved in during that time period. Would you? Do you think you feel that way now or looking back, do you think now the advent of social media really shook things up? It was the OTS that really changed things?
[00:08:17] No, it was definitely an interesting industry to be in for sure. It's changed massively. I mean, there's so many things that have changed about it since I started. You know, primarily the the way that the industry was was monetized was through people and hours. And clients just don't pay the kind of fees anymore. So you don't have the ability to put the people in the hours and all that stuff. So there's a lot of there's there's a huge sort of seismic shift happening and things being much more accountable, things being working, obviously digital and more analytical, you know, so creativity has become more analytical. But I was definitely very much in still felt like the Madmen era, looking back where I didn't you know, I grew up with two brothers. I'm very comfortable around men. So I wasn't sort of as overtly aware at the time of of the sort of sexism. I mean, I knew it was there. But looking back, of course, I go, oh, my God, I can't believe that happens, you know, because today you wouldn't you wouldn't allow those some of those things to happen. But, you know, at the time when you're in it and you're kind of looking around and there aren't many other women, you just sort of try to do what you can do to to, you know, prove yourself. And I'm lucky that I never had any sexual assault or any, you know, any anything other than, you know, sort of verbal and verbal dressing down kind of things happen.
[00:10:03] I'm wondering, as a female who climbed through the ranks, did you know of any others? Were you friends with other women or women identified or non binary individuals that were also hitting like this successful stride of climbing that corporate ladder?
[00:10:19] Or were you all alone? It was changed throughout the years. You know, there was a time when I was in one of the agencies I worked at, I was pretty much the top woman there. And I will say, unfortunately, a lot of the female bosses I had in my early years were really bad bosses. It's almost like they felt they had to operate like men and be these tyrants. And it actually helps form my leadership style because I didn't want to be like that. I was like, wow, if that's how you think you have to behave to get people in line, that is not good. So, you know, it's almost like when you're raising kids and they do the opposite of what you tell them, you know, it's like I had a lot of role models that were really bad, actually. And I kind of decided when I got to senior enough point that I don't want to emulate this very rough, rough male swagger, arrogance, you know, that's not at all who I am. And if people don't like it and I don't get promoted anymore, well, then fine.
[00:11:37] That's just the way it is. But I think I was lucky that.
[00:11:44] I think the female leadership traits are more effective, ultimately listening, being more transparent, you know, having vulnerability. I think those are things that people actually appreciate. So, you know, I think any women listening out there, you know, those are things you should embrace. You should not shy away from.
[00:12:06] Yeah. Particularly for your industry.
[00:12:08] It's always shocking to me when someone says, you know, that the creative or more discussion oriented or ideas sharing personality doesn't survive in creative endeavors like advertising. I cannot see a doctor, you know, who chain smokes and drinks like a fish. It's just like what does your her expertize isn't being lived out, you know? And I. I wonder when as you climb up through the ranks, you yourself be turned to hiring and things of that nature. What kind of personalities were you kind of bringing on to work with you and under you to kind of facilitate what you're describing here, which is just a more. It sounds to me like a more communicative environment.
[00:12:49] I mean, I was always overtly hiring women and diverse people. I would demand my H.R. teams find those candidates, even though it's harder to find. And, you know, I wouldn't always hire them, but but I made a point of, you know, really trying to lean in heavily and bring in women and bring in people of color. And I heard a guy in a wheelchair. People said to me, you're crazy milk travel. You know, what are we? He was great. No issue. But I think I think you just have to kind of demand that. And then in terms of the traits of the people, I always look for people that are curious, you know, that that are not close minded people that want to learn, people that are not afraid to, you know, learn from above, but also learn from the people under them in the sense of like I get a lot of learning these days from my children and from younger people that I that I work with. And it's really a two way street. So as much as, you know, sometimes they look to me for my experience. I look to them for their know how when it comes to tick tock or. And yet many other things that I don't understand. Right. So I think it really is about that vulnerability of admitting what you don't know. Being open and willing and curious. And I think those traits will get you pretty far.
[00:14:20] Yeah. And cognitive functioning, you know, and studies done. Geriatric communities would back you up on that one. You know, staying curious, which are people you hired and then you're doing yourself, you know, is linked to longevity of the mind of the vital mind and cognition.
[00:14:35] So I think those span all throughout life, not just the advertising industry. I think that's fantastic. I'm wondering with the I like what you said, and I'm hoping to just get you to enumerate a little bit on it, because it you just reverse the power structure that I think most people feel like H.R. and hiring has. You said I would make my H.R. team go out and find those people. And I think that there's a lot of conversation, particularly in female female identified and non binary communities where people say, like, well, I want to hire a woman led company, but I can't find any like I don't know. And it's it's becomes this crutch, you know, not just for these communities, but for people outside of those communities to not say they're not represented. You know, I'm not most familiar with female female identified, non binary and computer engineers, people saying I want to hire more female tech nerds, but they're not out there. They're not, you know, and you switching that dialog and taking that power and saying, no, you go find them to H.R. is such a novel idea.
[00:15:37] I've never heard anyone describe it that way. What what kind of incited you to do that? Were you just determined to have it and you made them go out and find it? Because I could. Eight years is very good at saying. Here you go. This is all we got.
[00:15:49] You know, any industry what I figured out is like shit in, shit out. Right. So, you know, if you give them a shitty brief, they're gonna give you shitty candidate. I'm not saying, look, good shit, but they'll give you what you ask for. Yeah. And usually it's the same old. Same old. And what I believe in and I'm actually quite good at it. It's one of my superpowers is building teams and I'm really good at identifying talent. And thankfully so I don't have to do everything to bring in people that are great. And I've always hired on potential, not on proven capability, meaning you just have to widen the net a little bit, you know, because if you only hire people for the Campari account that have worked in liquor and, oh, I need somebody who actually worked in brown spirits, you know, that kind of thing. And, oh, I want them to be this kind of education. You're going to find candidates that look exactly alike, that are just like the people that left that job. And a lot of times they do tend to be very, you know, either their. I want to say, you know. Maybe they're white guys. But but but but even beyond that, they tend to go to the same schools. They tend to have some of the same experiences and have worked at similar places. And I've just always believed that you're going to get better creativity when you find people that come from different, completely different walks of life, different industries, different. So I never cared about where I went to school. I literally couldn't care. And so I think once you open up the ability to find candidates that look a little different. And I'd say, you know what? I actually don't want to hire someone for that job that has any lack of experience. I want to bring in somebody that, you know, maybe they've works in event marketing or maybe they've done something in PR or, you know, something related. But but useful. Then you can find those interesting candidates and then, you know. It was a lot easier for the H.R. people because if I if I was hammering away at finding me that same candidate but, you know, find me a black woman who's done it. That's hard. Hanukkah's because she hasn't been given the opportunity to do that job before. Absolutely.
[00:18:06] I'm wondering, how did you. Do you have any. I'll leave this point alone. I promise. I know this is my third question to her, but I'm so taken with it, I.
[00:18:14] Do you have any, like, tricks that you developed, even subconsciously in order to help you? I mean, this superpower of, you know, super hero power, a building super tenuous, is like everybody wants that. You know, that's the key to success. People build industries just to try to take a taste of it. And so I'm wondering, did you personally ever develop this kind of technique or specific thing that you did when you went looking to build these super teams that enabled you to do that you can share?
[00:18:47] You know, I wish I did. I wish I could say, oh, it's just this, you know, do one one, two, three. And you're you're there. But I think a lot of it is intuition. And part of it is building that muscle of knowing what works. And what I would say is one thing I did. That is a very tactical, tangible thing anyone can do. And I've done my pretty much my whole career, but much more aggressively in my later years of my career. I would meet with. Anywhere between three and five new people that I didn't know a week, and sometimes it would be for a job, but a lot of times it wasn't. It was just I got introduced to this person from somebody else and they sound interesting. And let's grab a coffee. And I think when you do that, you can start to your brain creates these like neural networks where you can connect the dots. And I go, oh, the thing that person did was so interesting. I would love to have that skill set. And in my team, I find somebody who's got some of that, you know what I mean? And you just start to build these bridges and start to become inspired by by all these different. But I think I think a lot of that came from meeting all these different people all the time. And I would meet people outside my industry and I would just meet interesting people. And, you know, I think people started to kind of know like if they reached out to me on LinkedIn, chances are I'm going, oh, sure, I'll meet with you, you know. Now, I can get a little crazy, obviously. Yeah. You got to protect your own schedule somewhat. But no. But I think, you know, it's not that hard to carve out a few hours a week. And, you know, sometimes nothing would come from it. But a lot of times it would either be like, oh, I actually know somebody who could help you and what you're trying to do or you just inspired me to give me a great idea on something that I'm working on. Or it just there's a lot of serendipity, but it kind of forces the serendipity. You know what I mean?
[00:20:46] Yeah, absolutely. And I like it. And it was I think it was a lot trickier to do that back in the day, you know, without social media and things like that.
[00:20:54] You kind of had to do this seven degrees of Kevin Bacon thing and, you know, so said what's going on there? And I'm curious, I want to start looking at unpacking Masami and and all of the cool things that that company is doing. Is that your sole endeavor at this moment is serving as their CEO or do you run any other side gigs or consulting firms, anything like that?
[00:21:17] Yeah, I wish I could say it was my sole endeavor because I love it. It's my baby, but I probably spend about 90 percent of my time doing that.
[00:21:26] I still do a little consulting because I had started a brand consulting firm after I left J. Walter Thompson. It's called the HMS Beagle. So we work almost exclusively with startups and helping them get their kind of foundation and narrative and go to market plan.
[00:21:39] So I still do a little bit of that because I need like everyone else, you got to pay the bills. And on Masami, we when I met my partner. So my co-founder. So he and I basically are the co-founders of friends. We decided to do this together, but we decided to self-funded, you know. So we haven't taken investment money. I mean, my husband is basically our lead investor. I could say that, but. So, you know, it literally is our baby. And every every dollar we get back, we're putting back into the business. So tell us. A little strapped. Yeah. Super bootstrapped. But this is where, you know, I am lucky because I've built a team that is pretty committed to the business that is all kind of equity based. So they're all sort of partners in the company. And I could not do it without them. Or sure.
[00:22:42] Let's get into it. I want to know. So you were a CO felt you were a founder.
[00:22:46] How many other founders were there and when was it launched?
[00:22:52] So it's just James and I were the two founders of the company. James is my partner. He had been working on these hair care formulations for almost 10 years. When I met him, he's he's a bit of a nutty professor in the best way possible. I say that with love. He worked at Clairol for about 20 years and worked on a bunch of other Pudi brands. And he was the guy, the Uber producer, that would book a lot of the models and would be the one that would get yelled at when he had to color their hair and colored back and it would be fried. So he just started to feel like there's got to be a product out there that's not going to, you know, that's going to actually hydrate and help their hair. And also not have all the toxins that the products on the market have. So he started doing research into formulations. And our product is really inspired by his husband, Mozza. Hence, the name Masami Massa is Japanese. He's from northeast Japan.
[00:23:55] And Masami also means truly beautiful, by the way, in Japanese. So that was another serendipitous moment when we found that out. Yes. But, James, you would go home with Mozza. And he was always amazed at how young massas family looked and how healthy. And, you know, the Japanese have the lungs. Life expectancy in the world. And so James started doing some digging into their diet and saw that they were consuming this ocean botanical comic copy that comes right out of their bay pretty much every day.
[00:24:22] But they would also grind it up and put it in their skin care in their haircare and began playing around with that as potentially the answer for hydration, which it was.
[00:24:33] But by the time I met James, he had the products about eighty, eighty, eighty five percent done.
[00:24:40] And he just didn't know what else to do. He's not a marketer. He's not a brand guy. And he. Yes. So we met and he was kind of taking me through everything. I was super skeptical. Because as someone who's done a lot of marketing. I usually have a product that's kind of shit. And you have to make it sound great. And I'm just I'm not used to having a product that's absolutely amazing already, you know? And so we did a little more tweaking to the formula to just clean it up a little bit more.
[00:25:12] We follow EU standards, which are much stricter than the US in terms of what goes in in the US market.
[00:25:18] People don't realize about 90 percent of the products on the market have toxic stuff in them. So, you know, people don't think it's much about the hair care.
[00:25:27] I think it's a little more there's more awareness and skin care casino. It's absorbing into your skin. But the reality is your scalp is actually one of the most absorbent areas of your body. And when you shampoo, when you're rubbing it in your head and it's got sulfates, impairments of phthalates, that's not very that's not very good. So part of what we wanted to do is, is create a product without that. But one of the reasons why it's it's so it's so disruptive is that most hair care products that are clean as we are are actually not very good performing products. Right.
[00:26:06] Yeah. And this in line is the dichotomy. And I spoke to you earlier about this, and I have another podcast.
[00:26:13] I'm tempting you on exploring Vegan worlds. And, you know, here Vegan they think of food. And if there's clothing designers that are sustainability, environmental impacts, there's all different angles and conversations with the Vegan empire. And this is one of the ones that they talk a lot about Vegan products. You know, people assume a couple of things. One that is naturally non toxics, which isn't always true. And also there tends to be on the plus side, there tends to be more of a conversation about what exactly the the Vegan conversation furthers responsibility and things like that. You know, they're supposed to be more of a packaging and things like that. And I'm curious how I looked at the philosophy. And I want to kind of climb into the institute and the studies about getting back into the environmental impact with Masami. Can you kind of speak to is it James who kind of led this research part institute to the product is actually James's husband, Mozza.
[00:27:18] So when we launched the brand and one of the things that was really important to us is to have a mission and a purpose and not just sell product. And we just are very big believers that when you take from the earth, you have to get back. It's just as simple as that. And so the area in northeast Japan where we get our my Cabu and we get it from a local family owned seaweed company, we've actually gone and visited them and saw their facility and really were very impressed with how they manage everything.
[00:27:51] Anyway, where were we get that? We they were devastated by the tsunami back in 2011. That still has not they feel that they haven't fully recovered from, believe it or not. So we were against serendipity, fortunate to find a guy named Kazoo Yoshino who moved from Tokyo. He was an I.T. director. And when the tsunami hit, he felt this calling to move up to Atsushi, this little tiny town, and it was facing flat. The town was pretty much flat.
[00:28:27] And he decided to go up there and help in his way of helping as he dives into the bay and he documents what's going on there with the growth with the ocean botanicals. And he was the one that figured out probably now would have been about two or three years ago that there was a huge sea urchin problem. The sea urchins had been washed into the bay and we're applying and we're basically eating all of the stuff that the people there relied on and had thrown the ecosystem completely out of balance. So anyway, we decided to form the Masami Institute, where we can donate part of our sales to help his research so that he's just got more resources to continue to do what he's been doing. And a lot of it is educating people. So the way he saw the sea urchins problem is he had people eat the sea urchins. So, you know, we're the top of the food chain. And it was like, wait a minute, you know, they're eating all of our good stuff. We should just eat them. And so he created a magazine and had all these sea urchin recipes because apparently in that region, people would eat sea urchins like on Christmas Day. It was like a delicacy. You know, it wasn't something they did all the time.
[00:29:44] And he really helped change it and get it basically get that whole bay back on track. So that's been really interesting. So, you know, in a perfect world, we'd like to not just fund his research, but but also move beyond that little tiny area of Japan that we're focused on. But one thing at a time. You know, our feeling was let's start where we can make an impact and then we'll move out from there.
[00:30:13] Cool. Can you speak to given, you know, your advertising and marketing career prior to coming on with Masami, I'm wondering, how have you kind of sculpted it's got this beautiful narrative that you've just kind of walked over with us with the environment and sustainability. And if you take you give back. And how has that played into the rhetoric that you try to communicate with marketing or packaging or any of those endeavors that you've looked at?
[00:30:42] Have you allowed that that dialog to carry through or pushed it through?
[00:30:47] I think there's a place for where you tell that story and then there's a place where people just want to know, does it work, you know?
[00:30:54] Yeah. Like, is it going to actually work? Does it hydrate my hair and all that stuff? So beauty's funny that way. I think that's why a lot of beauty brands have that way without having to have any purpose or give back because people are just, you know, want to just know that it's going to perform. Mm hmm. So, yeah. So I think as we've developed our content strategy and narrative, we've figured out when and where it was. World Ocean Day on yesterday, on the 8th. So that's a great place where we could kind of reinforce that message. And, you know, we try to do that regularly. I mean, my biggest challenge on us being a pro ocean brand is our plastic because we're in plastic bottles. You know that the hard part about being in hair care is that you're in the shower. So you have a limited number of aerials that you can work with. And glass is usually the go to for beauty brands. Right? Can't really be in glass bottles in the shower.
[00:31:51] So we are actually creating a large size, refillable, sustainable bottle that's beautiful.
[00:31:58] That will go in the shower that you can refill with cardboard packages. And I'm excited about that because I feel like that will help us. Yeah. And mitigate ah ah. Plastic issue.
[00:32:12] I've come to that myself. I dabble in depends on my ambition for the month.
[00:32:17] But I dabble in making I make all of our own hand soaps and I've dabbled in shampoos and conditioners. They don't work well. So I kind of quit. But I did get into the idea that I didn't want to keep filling plastic containers. Even reusing plastic, regardless of how safe, doesn't rub me overly well.
[00:32:35] And I came into this glass thing exactly that, you know, and a lot of metals, rust like there isn't a great solution there. So I really like the idea of this one. I think it's groundbreaking.
[00:32:47] I hope it is. I mean, we ended up because of exactly what you're saying. We looked at all different kinds of materials. And, you know, there's bamboo material. It gets moldy. There's there's just different issues. And so we ended up doing a ceramic bottle, which people say to me, and it can still break Mike. I know, but it's not going to have little shards of pain that you're gonna step on. It's going to break into chunks that you can just pick up and throw out and we'll send you a new you know what I mean? Yeah, it's a great idea. So I'm hoping I'm hoping that it sticks. I've had a fair amount of interest so far for preorder, but we're gonna try to get that thing made it out the next time. I hope for five months. It's hard to say with Kobe going on because timelines for a supply chain are all kind of out of whack right now. But anyway, supply chain is out of whack.
[00:33:32] However, I wonder, has interest peaked? You know, health has had Vegan community for any reason.
[00:33:38] Vegan by default, Vegan because of a montera has peaked, you know, over the past three months. Naturally, when you have a pandemic, breaking out makes everyone kind of requestion their own personal health all the way down to, you know, I think a lot of people started with food and things like that. It's just a natural dialog. And then very quickly got into, you know, I myself took and I've I've I've I fancy myself incredibly healthy and have had, like, new analysis and lenses applied to areas that I hadn't thought about with nail polish, you know. Yeah. Things that I should have been thinking about. But I imagine it has spiked for you. Have you guys been able to kind of at least have some chartable measure as to interest since the pandemic has taken hold?
[00:34:21] I mean, yes, but the tricky thing for us is we launched in February. It's sort of like we don't really have a benchmark because we launched at New York Fashion Week a couple weeks right before everything was shut down.
[00:34:35] And we had a you know, in March, it was very up and down. There were two weeks where it was crickets. And I was like, oh, shit. Now then. But then business would pick up again. And I. I do think what you're saying is true, though. The conversations and searching.
[00:34:52] Or solutions that are less toxic, that are clean beauty, that are blue beauty, I think are all happening right now and obviously we are a brand that fits all that. But on top of that, we actually work. So to me, that's like our Holy Grail is.
[00:35:08] Yeah, that's the thing with it, at least with shampoo. And mind you, I'm not a mixologist and I don't pretend to be a chemist, but it's kind of an issue for anyone that's tried to go that route due to toxins or any other thing.
[00:35:23] You know, I flip over free trade, great like sounding shampoos. And the ingredient list is like ninety thousand. And I'm a, you know, masters educated woman and I don't know what half of them are. It's just it's it's lunacy to think that it's still out there like that and not being vilified. So yours working is clean enough. You know, like there's amazing being Vegan it working, like having all of these things. The new ceramic thing, it sounds it sounds amazing. Have you guys projected. I know it's. This is like asking someone about another child when you're in labor. People like how could you ask that? But right now, because, you know, Cauvin has just thrown everyone through an incredible whirlwind. But have you kind of looked at your next one to three year projections as to where you guys would like to be even considering the pandemic and the change that that's happened? And if so, where do you where do you see your sights for your goals for the future?
[00:36:22] Yeah, I mean, I think we're pretty good about doing the rigorous, you know, business metrics. So we have got five year projections.
[00:36:31] I think part of it for us is expanding our footprint and really developing some Ceylan partnerships here in the US. But also launching some more products were we're very much into the Japanese simplicity had space, meaning we're not going to launch another shampoo.
[00:36:49] We're not going to be a brand that has five variants of shampoos are one variant works for virtually everyone. And when it when you get the hydration, you get shine, you get manageability to get volume. It works for color treated hair like you don't need another version of our shampoo. But we are going to launch things like a hair mast, you know, a beard bomb because our products are gender neutral. So I really want to lean into that a little bit more. Yeah. We've got some stuff in the pipeline there, so I would love to get those out. We were gonna try to get them out this year again, but I don't think that's going to happen now. So next year. But and then we'd love to to to go international, you know. I think right now, you know, the priority is to really nail the US. Yeah. But I, I think our products we tested on every ethnicity, every hair type, you know, multiple types of Asian hair.
[00:37:44] And we just got such great response across the board that I do think the audience is much wider than just here and it is gender neutral.
[00:37:53] So we actually I'm I'm surprised we the orders we got today were all men. Yeah. Again, like, we actually have about 40 percent of our sales are men.
[00:38:03] Good. You.
[00:38:05] I think that men's products smell. I think they're discussing they remind me of something that we should have left behind with the thirties, I guess like lime in it or something. That just terrifies me. It's always so daunting.
[00:38:16] Why does it always have to smell like Drakkar from the 80s or something? It's just this awful smell to your shampoos that have been marketed to men should be taken out and given a strong lecture or two. Am I a pain? In my humble opinion?
[00:38:29] I would agree with you. I'm wondering, given everything that you're doing. Well, first of all, can people purchase it? Can we can they have a website? Can they pre order?
[00:38:41] All in all, our full line is is for sale. The ceramic bottle right now is on. I fund women, but we're about to. We're gonna slide that over to our site for pre purchase. But, yeah, everything is for sale. And we're also on Amazon.
[00:38:57] Yes. Excellent.
[00:38:59] And final question before I wrap up and ask you my final final question, which is on your site, you wouldn't be answering to my community if I didn't say, you know, I hit your Web site.
[00:39:11] I do a lot of research for these these chats I have. And I always pull up those pictures. I whites, our team, our story. Who are you? Yeah. Give me. Give me. And I did notice and I told you before we started, I said, why are you the only woman with four men on there? And that's rhetorical. You know, this is how it happens. A lot of industries. But you had some interesting news. So can you kind of speak to your executive staff and what your team looks like right now?
[00:39:38] Yeah. That is not been updated. As I said to you, I was literally just having that conversation with myself this morning thinking, oh, my God, you know, we don't have the right outward reality of our team. So, yeah, I have three other three other people that need to be on there that that are all women that are that are really haw haw, haw, haw to the team.
[00:40:00] One heads up our digital marketing. One heads up our content strategy and one heads up our PR.
[00:40:06] So I am going to be updating that to reflect the full team, which I'm excited about. And we work with, you know, when I hire.
[00:40:18] Editors and photographers and things like that, we're always trying to look for, again, diverse, diverse people, we.
[00:40:26] We do try to make a point of of casting a wide net and finding finding those people to kind of help us when we need help.
[00:40:35] Whether that's, you know, I've got two different women who are people of color, once a designer who's helped us quite a bit, actually. And the other one's an editor who did our brand video for us. So I don't put those people on our website.
[00:40:48] But that's just part of, again, you know, the the magic of finding finding those talent.
[00:40:55] Yeah. And your legacy. It sounds like from your entire career history of what you did in the past. I must say from a bird's eye point of view of looking in and being married to an original Silicon Valley computer nerd and having looked at that industry for the past 20 years from the outside, it's safe to judging distance, is what I like to say. Overly judgmental right here. And I do love your site.
[00:41:19] So they did amazing work. You know, these women, I think it's it's it speaks the esthetic of a stereotypical esthetic of like a Japanese, you know, this simplicity and all of that, which actually sounds like is a lot of the narrative throughout what you're doing. You're not launching, you know, five different shampoos. You've got this one like that clarity from an art historical point of view, which is what I have my master's degree. And that seems very true as well. So it's comforting. It's very interesting to kind of receive that wash over as well. So we're at the final point. My question, my favorite question, they're all my favorites. But if I had to pick one, this would be her. And wondering if you walked up to someone in such safe social distance tomorrow or they walked up Dan Rather and it was a woman or a female identified or not binary individual, pretty much anyone but a straight standard white man. And they said to you, hey, Lynn, you know, I'm so glad to run into you. I've I have this amazing thing I'm doing this 20 year career climbing up the ranks and the ladders in the ad agency. You know, I the epicenter of that world. And I've just left it. I'm endeavoring on this new startup. And I'm so excited with the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual knowing what you know now.
[00:42:38] Yeah, I would say build a network, find a support system for yourself.
[00:42:46] You know, that's been really helpful. I'm a I'm part of several female founder groups and, you know, just having other women to talk to about the journey that stress sometimes what happens in my personal life, my teenage casino, all that stuff is is is very helpful. So that's the first thing I would say. The second thing is build your team, which we talked about earlier. But I think the peace around that that I would just reinforce to people that are looking to start a business is it's obvious that you need help. But a lot of people, a lot of women, I shouldn't say, a lot of people, a lot of women think that they need to figure everything out themselves first and then bring in the help. And I would just challenge that and say, I understand what you love to do and what you don't love to do.
[00:43:40] And if it's if there's stuff that you don't love to do, don't feel like you need to get it and understand it and master it, find somebody else to do it. And just like, don't be afraid to acknowledge that you don't want I don't love spreadsheets and numbers and I'm going to bring in somebody and they're going to manage that. Like, that's not a weakness. That's actually really good because you can focus on the things that that you're really good at. And then the third thing I would say is find a mentor, which is a little different than than, you know, you're just getting your network. Find signed several mentors, not just one. And don't wait till once presented to you, you know, go out and find people that you think you know, will help you will inspire you that you can learn from, that have done something that you want to do. And I've had people reach out to me on LinkedIn and say, hey, would you mentor me? I just need an hour. A month. And I'm like, yes, of course. And that's that's it's rewarding for me. It's rewarding for them. And you'll be surprised how generous people can be, I think.
[00:44:46] Absolutely. I love those. I will say that in 200 episodes plus doing this, you're the first person to talk. And your advice, your three advice about your team, about building the team. And I love that because I think it's everything for success.
[00:45:02] Very few people are just the solo producer of their ideas and how quickly we grow.
[00:45:07] And also, you are in company with well over 90 percent of women who say women don't outsource enough. This whole got to do it all. And a lot of people have argued that it's built baked into, you know, the stereo gender roles that we're given in this society where he had to be wife, mother, you know, entrepreneur, like all of these things, you're just expected to do all these things, whereas them stereotypically the male gender has been very, very good about outsourcing, you know, about very, very happy to get a housekeeper. You know, when they don't feel like they clean their house adequately and women assign value to being able to do it themselves in areas that actually deplete businesses. And I would argue even their own livelihoods and happiness in their personal lives. Yeah. So I have no one build a network and a support system. Number two, my favorite, build your team. You do not need to know everything and do everything before you hire out for it. Rather, focus in on what you're good at and what brings you the most success and happiness. And number three, find several mentors and don't wait for one to be presented to you. And those they're very actionable items to it's all very like get to work. Get going. Like, I love that.
[00:46:17] Yep. Awesome. Well, thank you so much for speaking with us.
[00:46:20] Lynn, we're out of time today, but I really appreciate your candor and your advice and you sharing a little bit of your wonderful history and your current endeavors with me. I love it.
[00:46:32] Thank you so much. I really enjoyed it.
[00:46:34] Absolutely. For everyone listening. We've been speaking with Lynn Power. You can find out more about Masami, her company on w w w dot love, Masami dot com. I myself am going to be jumping on and grabbing some for certain.
[00:46:48] Thank you for giving me your time today. And until we speak again next time, remember to always bet on yourself. Slainte.
Thursday Jul 30, 2020
Talking to Sallie Holder; Best selling Author, Podcast Host, and Founder
Thursday Jul 30, 2020
Thursday Jul 30, 2020
Today I am chatting with Sallie Holder; acclaimed bestselling author of “Hitting Rock Middle: The Roadmap From Empty Success To True Fulfillment” (Advantage 2020), podcast host, and founder of The BRIMM. She is a sought after coach, speaker, trainer, and guide to her clients breaking out of their silent scream in success and into true fulfillment. As a nationally-recognized public speaker and business coach, Sallie has spent more than fifteen years helping businesses, entrepreneurs, and employees identify what’s getting in their way and then breaking down those barriers to success.
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I had the opportunity to speak with bestselling author, podcast host and founder of Brimm, Sallie Holder. Key points addressed were key aspects of Sallie's book, Hitting Rock Middle of the Road Map from empty success to True Fulfillment. And we also discussed Sallie's current endeavors to massive online training platforms she is currently leading and developing to help entrepreneurial women move their businesses to a solely virtual platform. Stay tuned for my informative talk with Sallie Holder.
[00:00:35] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .COM, where you can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation. Hi, everyone, and welcome back. I'm your host, Patricia.
[00:01:35] And today I am ecstatic to be sitting down with Sallie Holder. Sallie is a best selling author, podcast, host and founder. You can find out more about her and all of her efforts on her Web site. W w w dot. Sallie Holder, dot com. Welcome, Sallie.
[00:01:52] Thank you for having me, Patricia. I'm really excited to be here.
[00:01:55] Absolutely. I'm excited to unpack everything that you're doing. It's really exciting. You know, we were talking prior to recording and you have a very unique situation is having launched your book at the beginning of the covered pandemic breakout. And so I'm actually really interested to find out about some of the conversation that exists between that relationship as well as unpacking your book for everyone listening. I will give you a brief bio on Sallie. But prior to doing that, in case you're new to the podcast, a roadmap for the way that we will be following our trajectory and inquiry. Within that, we'll first look at unpacking Sallie's academic background and early professional life, bringing her up to writing the book, Hitting Rock Metal, The Roadmap from Empty Success to True Fulfillment. And then we'll turn straight to unpacking that book and I'll get into the logistics of who, what, when, where, why, how, funding all of those kind of more back end logistical author based things. And then I'll also turn towards the philosophy and the impetus of the inspiration behind it. Writing it, what community she intends for it to serve and all of those things. And then we'll look at unpacking her podcast and again, some of the logistical issues or questions around that. And then also the ethos, the I guess the content matter. She's getting into all of those things. Then we'll turn towards unpacking what's called the brim. And this is a coaching experience that Sallie offers as a technique. And I'll kind of climb through all of those things again, industries, client profiles, people that she's helping out. And what's new on the horizon with all of that? Maybe any more books in that arena. And then we'll turn our efforts towards asking her about goals and plans and then we'll wrap everything up with advice that Sallie may have for those of you who are looking to get involved with her or contact her about her work or perhaps emulate some of the success that she has had over the past year. A quick bio, as promised on Sallie. Before I stop peppering her with questions, Sallie Holder is an acclaimed bestselling author of Hitting Rock Middle the Road Map From Empty Success to True Fulfillment that came out in January of Twenty Twenty, I believe. She's a podcast host and founder of The Brim. She is a sought after coach, speaker, trainer and guide to her clients, breaking out of their silence screen in success and into true fulfillment. As a nationally recognized speaker and business coach, Sallie has spent more than 15 years helping businesses, entrepreneurs and employees identify what's getting in their way and then breaking down those barriers to success. Sallie earned a degree in human and organizational development from Vanderbilt University and followed that by earning her law degree while spending more than 10 years practicing labor and employment law, advising small companies as well as giants like FedEx and Michelin. She grew passionate about the growth of businesses moving beyond her law practice. She became an entrepreneur, starting her own business and coaching here. She discovered her true passion, helping others make the bold choice that lead to lasting success and happiness. So, again, you can find out more on her website. W w w dot. Sallie Holder dot com. That is s a l l i e h o l d e r dot com. So, Sallie, before we kind of launch into your book, which I am excited to kind of ask you about the core of, and seven I had the privilege of looking at over the past week, I'm hoping that you can dress an academic and professional background, which I know is kind of leading straight into your book and its narrative, but so that everyone can garner an understanding of where you were at prior to writing and launching your book, Hitting Rock Middle.
[00:05:41] Yeah, sure.
[00:05:42] So I feel like I came into this world following society's mold.
[00:05:53] Of success that, you know, while my father was an entrepreneur, my family had a very rigid view of what success looks like, what it felt like, what it showed up as to the outside world. And I learned quickly on that success meant that you achieved external accomplishments, that it came from a lot of awards and accolades, and that success really only meant one thing and that it was all that external kind of shiny penny stuff. I never really grasp that success meant that you got to feel words and feelings like happiness and joy and contentment. And so I believed for a very long time. More than 30 years. That you needed to work hard enough. Be very focused on those external accomplishments. And when you did, eventually you would be rewarded with the feelings of happiness and contentment. But after the 30 years of work and sacrifice of time and energy and getting many of the awards that I thought would lead me to that place of happiness and contentment, you know, after getting all of those, I didn't feel any of the things that I wanted to feel. I didn't feel fulfillment. I didn't feel joyful or happy. And I felt robbed. I felt frustrated and mad and angry and really dissatisfied. And I kept all of that to myself. You know, I kept quiet about all of those feelings because I felt like there must be something wrong with me because I had checked all of the boxes along the way that everyone else told me to check. And yet I didn't get all of the feelings back that I assumed came with checking the boxes. So, you know, eventually, through my own internal hard work of turning inside instead of spending all of my time focused externally and kind of we can talk about this part later. But, you know, eventually turning internally, I did the even harder work to figure out who I was and what I defined as success and who I wanted to eventually become in this life and made a big career change from, you know, focusing on things that I disliked in the corporate world and began my entrepreneurial journey. And I always had said to myself, Patricia, that if I figured it out, if I figured out how to make this sincere, switched and change that, I would write the book on it, that I would help other people be able to do the same. Because when I was out there struggling and floundering, I looked for the external solution. I looked for a book or someone just to say, I've been there, too, I get it. And I couldn't find that. And so this was my attempt to be authentic and raw and open to say if you have landed in this place, I get you, I hear you. And, you know, there's nothing wrong with you. All you need to do now is just a little bit of different work than you were ever told you needed to do to get to that place of happiness and fulfillment.
[00:09:21] I'm curious, and this is an area that the book doesn't really pass out. You do a really great and very candid.
[00:09:27] I think you have a lot of bravery and your honesty in the book describing, you know, what what could be seen as a nonproblem and really unpacking the problem within that. You know, the book begins with this kind of description of this incredible young success. It like twenty seven years old that you had and then just this this feeling of a disconnect at any rate. It felt to me I felt as a reader, like there was an emptiness behind everything that obtaining everything you had achieved before the age of 30, including the accolades and being recognized by society for that, and then the disconnect between what true happiness actually was and why you hadn't reached it with your bench markers that you had set forth at a younger age. And I thought a lot about that after reading that particular, because it's something I'm not even certain we're instilling in our own next generation. You know, for those of us that are lucky to have figured out what, you know, our zone of genius or whatever phrase you want to come up with, it is. I'm not certain that we have learned it well enough to do what this book is, as you've put forth, meant to do, which is to kind of help others go about doing the same thing, you know, and then instilling it in the next generation. I'm curious, how long did it take you? Because the book does this beautiful job of mapping things out, and I want to unpack that. But how long did it take you personally to kind of get to a place where the books written? In hindsight, you've kind of come to this revelation, you've walked into your zone of genius. How long would you say that journey took you from the bathroom floor that night until writing?
[00:11:00] Oh, gosh. I would say probably 10 years. Yeah. You know, I think that from.
[00:11:10] I had that bathroom floor moments that you're talking about after receiving the young professional of Year of the Year award. And I came home and just collapsed in tears because I felt like nothing was going to be different. And yet I wanted so desperately for things to be different and.
[00:11:30] My greatest fear was that I didn't have the power to make things different for myself. And I didn't realize all along that I did. I possessed that power all along. But I stayed exactly where it was for eight more years. I stayed practice law. I shifted things slightly. Right. You know, I kind of describe this concept in the book of staying in the loop that, you know, I would investigate other careers, other areas and believe that they would be the solution, that it was just the people I worked with or the job or the city I lived in.
[00:12:05] And if the problem wasn't that I was following someone else's model of success.
[00:12:12] And so I stayed there eight more years doing those slightly different things, running a law firm. I ran several companies after that as their chief operating officer, real estate company, retail company. But I still felt all of those same things because they were still always chasing someone else's model. So it took me 10 years after going through several other iterations to realize, OK, if it's not just practicing law and it's not just, you know, the people I work with in it, I take me wherever I go. And so if it's if I'm finding the same feelings every single time over and over. It must be something within me that needs to be resolved.
[00:12:54] And I finally began actually working with my own business coach, and she really helped me unlock that and make the realization that I need to do to do the work myself.
[00:13:07] And so over the next two years, I saw more growth and more rapid change in my life and career than I had from the previous 10. Yeah, absolutely.
[00:13:18] I'm curious to your book does a good job at posturing questions and even on your Web site, you know, as as a viewer, when you land and things like that, you've got a survey and things of that nature that I know that ties into probably work with the brim.
[00:13:32] But I'm wondering how much of it it it seems like you have a very therapy approached basis to it in that the solution is within. We just need to kind of unlock these, you know, and I'm referring obviously to to normal social therapy that a lot of people receive. But you have a lot of these questions about like looking in and answering it for oneself, you know, and it's it's also checking these factors that I think you talk about in the book as well, these kind of smile and nodding moments that people do and they really don't feel that way inside and kind of coming to terms with that, identifying it and then identifying true questions. Once you've detached it from stigma that a lot of us have about what we ought to be doing or what one was planned to do because of means from like a desperate moment in childhood. And so I wonder if you can speak to how much of that is is accurate. What I just said in clients that you've already worked with and things like that, is it? Very much so. Bringing things into consciousness to help one let go. Are there other steps that they need help with along the way?
[00:14:39] I love the way that you put that it. It is a bit of a therapeutic approach. And what I've come to learn and really resisted for so long in my kind of 10 year journey prior was the fact that I thought that there was some kind of tactical solution and that it could only come from some sort of tactical solution. And if I just worked hard enough that the solution would appear.
[00:15:03] And and yet the solution wasn't coming. And yet I still stayed in that loop. Right. The definition of insanity. And what I've come to realize in working with female entrepreneurs is that it is absolutely a combination of both. Right. It is a combination of tactical solutions that we are generally, as you know, and I primarily work with women, just I'm because I'm fascinated with female entrepreneurs and really passionate about helping them increase their revenue and income.
[00:15:35] And what I've come to realize is we aren't necessarily open to the tactical changes that we should or may need to implement until we have resolved many of the mindset issues. The limiting beliefs.
[00:15:49] And, you know, kind of exactly how you put it. The therapy puter approach and the therapeutic work is done first. You know, I have a mindset course that I offer. And, you know, I generally recommend that people start there because and many entrepreneurs say, well, it's not my mindset.
[00:16:08] You know, it's my, you know, lack of sales or my inability to have a lead funnel or lead generation. And I'm like, don't worry, I'm going to get there or I'm going to talk to you about all of those things and help you implement those. But the reason why you haven't created those first. The reason why they don't exist now is because right of these blocks, these mental blocks that you have, these assumptions you've made about yourself, your self-worth, the worth of your business. And it's driving many of the decisions that you're currently making in your business. So when we when we can resolve those, then we can implement some really great tactical tools that are, I find, small tweaks that can create massive success for you. But it all does begin with what's between your ears?
[00:16:58] Yeah, absolutely. And to that end, I'm wondering, who is the who is the ideal candidate for your book when you were writing it?
[00:17:07] Did you have your audience in mind or you were you just writing your truth?
[00:17:12] My actually, I always had my audience in mind because I was always thinking about the person that I was, that if there was another twenty seven year old woman out there who was doing it and trying to force that square peg in a round hole, staying in a career that she disliked. So to me, it is that younger audience, not where I am currently, which is OK. I have other things that serve them. But to me, ideally, it is the younger audience, you know, the, you know, twenty seven to thirty five, twenty five to thirty five where they're questioning and sitting there saying, you know, I like what I do but I don't love it, I'm not passionate about it.
[00:17:51] I don't know where I'm going from here. Do I stay here or does it really invest and double down in the career that I've chosen?
[00:17:59] And, you know, I want them to be able to read this and know whether it's right to stay where they are or whether creating the wholesale change may be right for them.
[00:18:12] Yeah, absolutely. And I don't think anybody can benefit from that, even if the answer is, you know, a lovely like, I'm great. I'm right where I should be. A check in is is really necessary and wonderful.
[00:18:24] And what has been the greatest success with your book that you hadn't anticipated? What has been like some of the happier moments that took you off guard?
[00:18:35] Oh, what a great question.
[00:18:37] You know, I did have the pleasure of getting to do a book tour, right. That ended the literally the week before it hit. And, you know, I think an unexpected just do away with seeing women probably who are of an older generation who were in their 60s and 70s coming up and saying, I read this, or they enjoyed the talk that I gave relative to the book.
[00:19:08] And coming up in tears saying, I don't want to give up. Right. I don't want to make the change. I still want to do the work to create the life I always wanted. And to me, just to be able to inspire one person to take the risk on themselves and to go and do that is beyond what I could have ever hoped for.
[00:19:33] You know, I'm thinking in particular, one woman that just like, held my hand and she was just in tears saying, you know, I've been wanting to do this for myself for so long. Thank you for giving me the courage to do it. And I mean your smart eyes right now.
[00:19:49] Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. And as well, it should be moving. Anybody like that, I think is wonderful. I'm wondering, you mentioned Kov It and the book I have written down January 20, 20, I myself didn't find that fact.
[00:20:05] But if it if indeed launched, then you kind of, you know, gracefully partnered Cauvin into the existence of kind of the global pandemic that it is right now. And I'm with your book launch. And I'm curious, as I started thinking about it, I don't come at anything always pessimistic. And I was wondering if it was I'm sure that there was some fallout and some issues in canceled tour dates and things of that nature. But has there been like a shift? Did it cause you to pivot and look at your book differently? Has there been a dialog that wouldn't have existed without that extreme and rare circumstance as launching the book right then?
[00:20:46] Patricia, I think you were the first person I have talked to about this in this manner, so I love the question. Yes, yes and yes and yes, all of the above. Like I said, I was fortunate to get to go to twenty five cities.
[00:21:01] I did a full book tour. The difference that I didn't expect was I thought that I would still be talking about the book at length from, you know, January throughout the entire year when things hit in March.
[00:21:19] What became apparent was that I needed to help my clients and even potential clients and just any female entrepreneur in an entirely different way. And very fast. And so I wanted to be able to offer help. And that wasn't the time for them to take that wholesale risk and change to, you know. And some began the thought process. I will say I had some people reach out to me and say, you know, now is the time where I'm, you know, deeply thinking about whether or not I might want to make a change. And that's great. But but the immediacy that Cove had created of meeting to create income and needing to have, you know, an ability to take businesses online really trumped the other message of, hey, go out and feel the freedom of creating whatever career it is that you want to have. So I did switch gears much faster than I anticipated. It's been interesting. You know, I had a bit of mourning over that. I didn't have a lot of time to let it sink in. And it really came after the fact. So I pivoted so quickly to offer a free five day workshop.
[00:22:34] I did it. Online, just on Facebook. I did five full days of training. Two female entrepreneurs. How to. And taught them how to take their businesses online to immediately create revenue. And so, you know, getting that content written and up and running and the whole thing going for a little over 300 people took a lot of work. And so. And then from that came obviously different as things always do, that Ben takes you in a totally different path. And so now I'm going to offer that again because people said it was so great. And so, you know, I I'm sad a little bit that I haven't gotten to continue to focus on the book. But I am a big believer that, you know, whatever path that we are given is the one that we were meant to be on. And so, interestingly enough, I'm just walking this to my pack and with curiosity and with interest, will you return to the honeymoon phase or try to with them with with your book?
[00:23:41] Once Kove It is over and social distancing is more of a distant past. Would you think you'll ever return and try to do some of the activities you were planning on doing or just move forward?
[00:23:53] I don't think I will. I've thought about this very recently because we are actually in the process of a Web site revamp to focus less on the book. And even before getting on this. That's exactly what I was doing, is changing the message again and revamping. But, you know, and I think that's one of the things that you've got to be willing to do as a female entrepreneur. You know, I love the quote, be clear on your intentions, but fluid on how.
[00:24:21] And I thought I knew how how it was going to go, how I was going to execute my ultimate intention, which always has been to help change the lives of female entrepreneurs and help them increase their revenue and make the biggest impact in the world that they possibly can. And how I thought I was going to do that was through the book.
[00:24:42] Interestingly enough, that was not my life plan. Now, in May, it may still but again, some of the other ways that the book was going to make an impact was through conferences and book speaking engagements and places like that, all of which have since been canceled. And so many of in-person events, you know, maybe those will come back and maybe they will come back and the book will be relevant then. But but I'm different now. And that's, I think what you have to always be open to is open to the growth that you can get to experience along the way. If you don't see it, as you know, with a victim or negative mindset of, oh, no, this happened to me rather than this is happening for me. And so that I may reach that ultimate destination. I didn't expect it, but somehow it will be a gift. And we all expect to be able to see that in the moment. And you don't get to write. You just have to have faith and then trust. And then you get to see it as an as a reflection.
[00:25:48] Yeah.
[00:25:49] Well, so as your message is growing with the new Web site development and things of that nature, does that will it also affect areas that you've done with your podcasts that you've launched? Is that affect some of the work that you're doing there? Are you going to continue with it? And if so, can we get into discussing some of that?
[00:26:08] I would love to. Gosh, you are getting me to open up about things that I have not talked about at all. And excellent. Yes, I am actually in the process of completely revamping the podcast. It the title was hitting Rock Middle and when Cobh it hit and I saw the need to, like I said, pivot to offer a different resource, something that would live where people could provide interaction. Then I did the live versus having just simply the audio format. And so now I want the podcast to be both both visual and so that there is a way to watch it. And then I and then have the audio format as well. And then my idea is to Wharfe reformat it to be something like that. I can test out the name on you. The keester earning more. And so that it is all centered around, you know, giving women more of the keys to their own success. And, you know, helping them with what I find are really typically the three most predominant areas that are problematic for female entrepreneurs there. They'll trouble with their time. The trouble with their earnings, which goes into many more different facets, you know, through pricing and sales. And then the last is through their mindset, which is everything from leadership to boundary setting.
[00:27:44] Yeah, I love that. Yeah, and it does. Exactly. I was going to say I love the title as long as it does what it says and it does. You know, I'm all about utility, especially when someone is going to talk about keys and functionality. You know, especially I mean, I have a very poetic waxing and waning heart, don't get me wrong. But when it gets into, you know, career talk or business or anything like that, I. Mike, let's not use metaphors. Let's be straight. You know, let's talk about what we're really talking about. So I like it a lot. I'd like the title and I think it'll be fun. To that end, do you think the format will be interview? Will you make it a hodgepodge? Will it be interview? Will be some of you. Are you shooting for a specific type of format in the beginning or have you even thought it through?
[00:28:23] I have I. I want to do one interview a month and then I'm going to do the rest.
[00:28:30] The other three will be me talking about both things that, you know, are tools and assets that people can, as you said, implement right away and are very utilitarian.
[00:28:46] And then I would love to be able to use one of the episodes as a way of implementation of the tools that hopefully have been shared by the guest. So by the prior guest so that we could talk about what they said and and give you some some ways to implement their tips, which we all know. There is another step to the process when you're interviewing someone. They're gonna give you a lot of awareness, which is fantastic. But then beyond awareness comes implementation. So I want to be able to follow through with that. And so that's the idea is that I would have two new concepts a month and then an interview and the implementation of the interview.
[00:29:28] This is a great format. Will you ever take kinds of questions and answers from your audience as you grow? Like it will ever be like a Q&A where people can kind of write in about things that they're questioning?
[00:29:39] Love that idea. Yes. That is such a fantastic idea.
[00:29:43] Yeah. Implementation and action items that you're talking about. I think it's so imperative with everything, you know, the social turmoil our nation is under right now, not just the morning, but like the actionable like what can we do moving forward changes. You know, you're coming from the body of water of change. And so I think that it's some the action items that you just mentioned, implementation and everything, and then coming at it from answering Q&A later on. That sounds fantastic. It's so great. I think that that's. It seems like a really beautiful marriage somehow, philosophically, between what your book, you know, strove to do as well, which was help people implement it into their lives. So I like the idea that you're kind of carrying that ethos over. So I want to unpack the brim. I'm not sure if that I'm sure it will. I believe it's what you were mentioning when you said Kovik hit. You need to help your clients. You went on this Facebook. I'm guessing it's from the same kind of coaching experience that you're doing towards. Can you draw a little bit out about maybe an average profile of your clients? You like to work with female entrepreneurs, but maybe a little bit deeper within that within that area. And also, I'm curious about like what, the top three to four main issues some of your clients always have.
[00:31:00] So the brand really is intended to serve female entrepreneurs. Traditionally, I find that they fall. My age range, 40 to 50.
[00:31:10] Obviously, everyone is welcome on either end of the periphery. We have some, you know, one that I can think of. That's twenty three and one that is 58. But typically, it's somewhere around the 40 to 50 age range where I find that many of them also grew up like I did with this very external focus and with this thought process that, you know, I'm smart.
[00:31:36] I've got the degrees generally. They may have succeeded in a previous career and now they're trying to apply a lot of that to their entrepreneurial experience. And it's not really working and they aren't sure why. Much of the time they have between zero and 10 employees. Maybe their revenue is. I've several companies that I work with that have up to 10 million dollars in revenue. But what is consistent about them is they're all missing the leadership support. So they still remain the primary decision maker. They still are. You have very little they have support staff, but they have very little people to delegate any type of decision making or other leadership responsibilities, too. So they still bear much of that burden. And so they're looking consistently to someone like myself to turn up to because they don't want to complain down. They want to be able to turn up to someone else and they don't have anywhere else to turn. And so I can serve within the broom as that person, guide them through the next stages, which really are all about helping them with those three main problems that I find. They are always almost undercharging. Very consistent issue. Know female entrepreneurs tend to earn fifty six cents on every male dollar in the entrepreneurial world, whereas in the corporate world we earn 76 cents on every male dollar. And I constantly put it back to my female entrepreneurs to say, and who set the price? Who did that? We did. We're doing it ourselves. It's fantastic to know that, because then we get to change it and then we have the power to do so. So, you know, we were well aware because of the loud think, gosh, voices of women everywhere saying, hey, we deserve to be paid. You know, in the corporate world, what we know is equal pay. But when we are given the choice, too often we are diminishing our own talent. And so that is a big focus of the brim is helping with pricing structures and then also with becoming familiar with and passionate about sales, which is not an icky word, but something that women need to lean into and know that the the fantastic sales process is being able to serve the people who need what you have in a way that's thoughtful and creates a Win-Win relationship.
[00:34:14] And then the other is certainly about time management.
[00:34:22] And so, you know, we break that down over several weeks of work on productivity tools, time management tools and efforts that I have found that have changed my business dramatically. And so I teach those. But I also deal a lot with the mindset issues that that are incorporated in the time management problem of not valuing ourselves. And so we do dove into the third issue, which is mindset, which is around self care. And the idea that when you care for yourself first, your business will actually flourish instead of operating and making decisions constantly from a place of fear, believing that, you know, you can run yourself into the ground and do a little bit more and that will help you earn more.
[00:35:16] That is, in fact, wrong. And so we break down those three areas of main focus into smaller modules and deal with those.
[00:35:25] Yeah, and it's so true. And I feel like it's been told to me since I was in my twenties by Oprah and I just the implementation never. And. I remember the day it sunk in, you know, about self care actually coming out to be in fruition, to not just your bottom line, but your bottom line of happiness. It's amazing what self care does. And it's amazing how even as I think I was raised really liberally and incredibly privileged and I still wasn't raised with those values, women were taught to sacrifice. That's what you got to do. You better be multitasking. You better be making everyone happy ahead of yourself. And it was just so weird to realize that so many years into my career and thinking, oh, if I had done this. Earlier on, at very least, my happiness level would have been through the roof. So I have to ask you, I love to ask authors this having come from a family of writers and playwrights and things like that, it's one of my most favorite things because it's very agitating. But I'm wondering if it's like asking about someone's next meal as they've just completed supper. But I'm wondering if you've thought about another book on the horizon. A lot of times when you're going through the process, it's actually, you know, it can spark things in people or it's like, I will never do that again. You know, there's there's two schools of thought. But I'm wondering if you've thought about writing another book as you're kind of doing this beautiful metamorphosis and pivoting, you know, listening to the Times and the reality around you. Has it sparked up like the thoughts of maybe writing another book or. No?
[00:36:58] It has, and I think that that is so interesting because I always equate it to having children. I have a 10 and almost 13 year old, and I remember when my son was born first. And I said to myself, I will never do that again. That was really tough. And I'm glad that I have the child. And he is absolutely wonderful. But oh, my gosh, I can't imagine putting myself through that. And then you got enough distance from it and you say, well, you know, it wasn't that bad.
[00:37:26] It wasn't that hard to. I could do it again. And I think that now that I actually finished writing the book almost a year ago, I'm having a little bit of that distance to think. I have more to say. I have more I want to talk about. And so I definitely think that there will be another book. And I just began probably thinking about that within the last two weeks as this next probably third pivot since I've been in. And it is coming about. And that's what really stirred that thought. Process is good.
[00:38:06] That's exciting. Well, that's good for me. And I get to read another one for you. Welcome to your triumph and tribulation. Along with that, in addition to that, I'm glad I got that out of you.
[00:38:19] It's hard to get people even to admit that there's a very there's a secrecy when somebody's going to write something with so many authors. And I got you working on something. No, no, not really. Not really.
[00:38:28] You know, there's this. Don't judge me. Don't ask me about it next week. I ought to be accountable. I love it. But midway through even the first book, I was like, not many people know about this. We're just going to talk this away. We're just going to pretend like I only told about ten or twelve people.
[00:38:43] It's fine. Yeah, exactly. It happens.
[00:38:47] I'm wondering. So that's a plan. It's a goal for the future. And I'm wondering if you can kind of enumerate on other, like, goals for the next one year. This has been a conversation that everyone, you know, from a 12 year old two hundred and twelve year old has had with themselves. It's changed significantly for all of us in this world. And I'm wondering if your goals have changed drastically. Obviously, you've had this pivot that's come up, but do you have goals that you can kind of expand on for the next one to two years?
[00:39:20] Sure. I had huge goals around traveling and speaking, and so that was, you know, suddenly became a big X in the goal sheet and the income sheet as well.
[00:39:34] And so, you know, sometimes forced pivots are a really great thing. And, you know, it, again, forces us to dig deeper and do the harder work. Right. Speaking would have been easier for me because it's something I've done for a long time. And now the harder work is for me to figure out that next deeper layer of myself of where I can continue to push myself and to grow. And so I hope over the course of the next year that, you know, my goal has been, you know, my bigger life goal is to obviously impact as many female entrepreneurs as I possibly can and help them reach at least the million dollar mark of revenue or more since only two percent of female entrepreneurs ever get to that place. And I think that there should be so many more out there.
[00:40:26] And. But within the next year, I hope that. That seat. Now, I'm hesitant to put that finite goal out there. What I've been thinking about is that I hope I can at least help 10, right, 10 female entrepreneurs reach that million dollar mark. I know that we've seen in the last two months gotten two more there.
[00:40:56] So that feels really magical and amazing to know that they reached that threshold for the first time in their careers ever and had been in business prior to this for, you know, 10 years, 12 years and just never gotten there.
[00:41:12] And that's where we say sometimes it's it's a tiny tweak that can unlock that next level.
[00:41:18] So, yeah, I think that I'm going to focus very heavily on those three areas.
[00:41:24] That, to me, seemed the most evident in need of coaching courses, et cetera, of just the mindset, time and time and earnings sections. So those are going to be my three areas of a deep focus is really digging into those. I already have a course on mindset. I focus tremendously on earnings in the brim of helping women scale their businesses, develop new revenue streams and increase their pricing, develop sales funnels, et cetera, in the brim. And but I think it is time to introduce something that will be a like a six week course is what I'm kind of imagining on time that will incorporate slyly some mindset issues and things like that. But we'll rope you in telling you we're going to make you more productive.
[00:42:30] All right. My. Absolutely. That's awesome. Well, we've come to the part of podcasts. My favorite.
[00:42:37] Everyone who's been listening or following me over the past couple of years knows this. But I'm curious if you were at a safe social distance tomorrow in some outside outdoor space and someone walked up to you. It was a woman or a female identified or non biner individuals, anyone other than a man ad for purposes of this podcast. And they said, listen, I'm Sallie. I'm I'm so glad I ran into you. I went to law school. I had this amazing firm. I did great. I started questioning my, you know, my placement there about eight years prior to this. And I decided I know it was not the right path for me. I'm going to launch out on my own to try and figure some things out, find my path. What are the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual knowing what you know now about your own life?
[00:43:29] The first would definitely be dream big.
[00:43:34] And I know that that has been a phrase that we have, you know, probably overused. But what I mean by that very technically is start with the Indian mind. Begin with your end of life, end of career, everything. And look at two things. Both your income goals and your lifestyle goals do not leave your lifestyle behind. And that's how very often. If I had defined those things and said who I wanted to become. At the end of this wild and crazy life. Thank you, Mary Oliver, for that quote. And I love it. Is. Then I never would have practiced law. I would have skipped that entire part of my journey because I wanted to become a woman who was a million dollar earner. A woman who traveled internationally made an impact on other women in business and, you know, changed the world. That was not going to happen within the type of law practice that I chose. So I would have known, oh, OK. Wait a minute. My lifestyle goals do not match up with the direction that I'm heading. And so I would tell her, don't get back in the same loop by just getting started. You know, very often I hear people all the time say to entrepreneurs, just begin. And I'm like, OK. That's like telling someone to get in a car and just start driving or you're gonna go left or right. Where are you headed? If you know the end destination is California versus Europe. Sure. Just start driving and enjoy the the winding route.
[00:45:07] But you always have a direction, and that is really different than just begin. Right. And so so, again, that's about creating that final destination. I've kind of wrapped up a couple of a couple of other things. And there is always set both income and lifestyle goals, not just one. And then. I would say the third is, gosh, I think one of the biggest mistakes that I have made, even as an entrepreneur along the way, is still continuously believing that someone else has a magic pill or a, you know, expertize out there that can fix me and they can't. Right. Sometimes you've got to just take the bumps and the bruises along the way and learn as you go. And you don't need to pay someone else, you know, thousands of dollars to fix you.
[00:46:09] Now, you know, is it more joyful to get to experience the journey with other female entrepreneurs and be part of a community that's challenging and growing themselves to.
[00:46:20] Absolutely. But just know when you go into that that and go into a coaching relationship or any of those that.
[00:46:30] You have all the power, you have everything within you that you need to be the best version of yourself already. And so really what you're looking for from the coach or the other person that you're hiring is just to bring that out even more, just to highlight it, to complement it.
[00:46:46] And so very often I see entrepreneurs, you know, looking for the PR firm go marketing.
[00:46:54] If I only had this or that, it would all be better. And that's just not the case. And believe me, I've wasted plenty of money doing those things, too. And I like that.
[00:47:06] And it's cool. I haven't heard that from anyone before. And I think it's obviously indicative of the work that you've done in your book and the work that you'll continue doing.
[00:47:16] All right. So to sum up, I've got dream big and what you end up with as a side note. Start with the end in mind, which I love. Number two always said income and lifestyle goals, not just one. Number three, nobody outside of you can fix you or your career. It's merely those people's tools that release your own power and prowess.
[00:47:38] Oh, I love that.
[00:47:40] That's awesome. That's you. Yeah. That's you. Like you. Back to you. I like that a lot, too. Sallie, that's so awesome.
[00:47:46] I know we're out of time, but I just wanted to say thank you so much today. I know that you've got a bunch of balls in the air and nobody is busier than someone revamping their life, which everybody is doing. And I really do appreciate you taking the time to speak with me and have our audience hear your wisdom.
[00:48:00] Well, thank you for having me. It's been an absolute pleasure.
[00:48:03] Absolutely. For everyone listening. We have been speaking with Sallie Holder. She's a bestselling author, podcast, host and founder. You can find out more about all the stuff that we've been talking about on her website. W w w dot. Sallie Holder dot com. I myself eagerly await her next book and can't wait for all of the future wisdom that comes from that and for everyone else listening. Thank you for spending your time with us today. I do appreciate you.
[00:48:30] And until we speak again next time. Remember to stay in love with the world and always bet on yourself. Slainte.
Tuesday Jul 28, 2020
Tuesday Jul 28, 2020
Today I am speaking with Jesse Draper. Jesse is a mother of 2 boys, founding partner of Halogen Ventures as well as creator and host of Emmy nominated television series, The Valley Girl Show. Draper is a 4th generation venture capitalist focused on early-stage investing in female-founded consumer technology. Among her 55 portfolio companies, are the Skimm, Carbon38, HopSkipDrive, The Flex Company, Eloquii (recently sold to Walmart) and This is L which recently sold to P&G. She stars on SET's television series Meet the Draper's currently in it's second season.
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.
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[00:00:00] In this episode, I had the fortunate opportunity to speak with Jesse Draper. Jesse is the founder of Holligan Ventures and the creator and host of Emmy nominated The Valley Girl Show. Key Points addressed where Jesse's founding of Holligan Ventures and its work as a Los Angeles based venture capital fund focused on investing in early stage consumer technology startups with a female in the founding team. We also unpacked Jesse's extensive knowledge of creating and hosting what was the first tech talk show, the Valley Girl Show, and what the industry was like a decade ago during the show's inception and growth. Stay tuned for my informative talk with Jesse Draper.
[00:00:43] Hi, my name is Patricia Kathleen, and this podcast series contains interviews I conduct with women. Female identified and non binary individuals regarding their professional stories and personal narrative. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age status for industry. We aim to contribute to the evolving global dialog surrounding underrepresented figures in all industries across the USA and abroad. If you're enjoying this podcast, be sure to check out our subsequent series that dove deep into specific areas such as Vegan life, fasting and roundtable topics. They can be found via our Web site. Patricia Kathleen .COM, where you can also join our newsletter. You can also subscribe to all of our series on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, Pod Bean and YouTube. Thanks for listening. Now let's start the conversation.
[00:01:40] Hi, everyone, and welcome back. I'm your host, Patricia. And today, I am so excited to be sitting down with Jesse Draper.
[00:01:46] She's the founder of Halogen Ventures and the host and creator of Emmy nominated The Valley Girl Show. You can find out more about all of the endeavors that we talk about today and her on Hellgren v.C dot com. Welcome, Jesse.
[00:02:01] Thank you. I'm so excited to be here. I love what you're doing.
[00:02:05] Absolutely. I love what you're doing. So the feeling is mutual for everyone listening. We're going to climb into a quick bio of Jesse. But before we get to that, in case you're new to our series, a quick roadmap for today's podcast, we'll follow the same trajectory as all of them in the series. First, we'll look at and packing Jesse's academic and professional background leading to the launch of Helen Ventures. Any pertinent information that we can garner from that? Then we'll go jump straight into unpacking HelpAge and Ventures. And for everyone listening, all of our nerdy little founders, not crew, is out there. We'll start out the logistics, the who, what, when, where, why funding all of that, the logistical stuff up front. We'll get into the ethos of what they're doing with halogen and how all of it's working. The impetus. Some of the markets that they've service and the populations that they kind of look at working with. And then we'll also unpack the Valley Girls show it is Emmy nominated. It's it's got a really cool impetus. Jesse spoke with a bunch of really fantastic people over the past decade. And I have a lot of production questions for those of you who are looking at it, the medium of kind of mixing in YouTube with everything that everyone's doing has been a very real part of the integration model and as as you could, particularly entrepreneurship and followership. But we'll kind of look at all of that and then we'll unpack other media like endeavors that she and her prolific family that she comes from have done. Then we'll turn our attention towards looking at goals and plans that Jesse has for the next one to three years. This has changed for everyone, entrepreneurs and successful titans alike. Given the recent Koban 19 pandemic and how some of that has changed and what her conversation with her company and herself has been like in reassessing those goals for future plans, we'll wrap everything up with advice that Jessie has. For those of you who are looking to get involved with her, what she does, or perhaps emulate some of her careers. Magical success, as promised. A quick bio on Jessie before I begin peppering her with questions. Jessie Draper is a mother of two boys, founding partner of Logan Ventures, as well as a creator and host of the Emmy nominated television series The Valley Girl Show. Draper is a fourth generation venture capitalist focused on early stage investing in female founded consumer technology. Among her fifty five portfolio companies are the skim carbon 38 Hop, Skip, Drive, the Flex Company and Eloqua recently sold to Wal-Mart. And this is Elle, which recently sold to PMG. She stars on Essie's television series Meet the Draper is currently in its second season. It says here it might be in its third or fourth. We were just talking. We'll get Jesse to clarify that later on.
[00:04:43] Draper was listed by Marie Claire magazine as one of the 50 most connected women in America. Draper has been a contributor to Marie-Claire Matchable Forbes and is a regular investor and tech personality on shows including TLC, Girls Starter, The Katie Couric Show. Fox is Good Day, L.A.. CNBC sees Who Wants to be the Next Millionaire. Invest in Ventor and Freedoms Startup U.
[00:05:10] She proudly sits on the Board of Directors of Enterprise Technology Company Work Blue Fever PREE Madonna, creator of Nale Bought and the nonprofit board biz world. Draper supports the Parkinson's Institute and is very involved with growing UCLA as female entrepreneurship community. Now, Jesse, I know if I am if I stumbled over any of that, you can absolutely clarify. But before we get into unpacking halogen and everything that you're doing there, I'm hoping you can draw us a roadmap for everyone listening or watching the vodcast today of your early academic and professional life that led you to launching Holligan.
[00:05:49] Yeah, I. Hello, everyone. I'm happy to be here. And, you know, I think like most career trajectories, it's it's not you know, it's not a straight line by any means. But it does make sense for you here. Sort of like you have moved me. But I grew up in Silicon Valley, as you mentioned. I'm a fourth generation investor and the first female in line. I didn't think I could go into that profession, although I had many venture capitalists in my blood. And that was sort of all I knew growing up in Silicon Valley. I grew up around incredible entrepreneurs. It was, you know, a very privileged human being. And I. But again, I didn't think I could go into this profession because my mom worked incredibly hard raising four children. And my dad was very he really opens the curtains to me in terms of educating me about startups. I worked with him a little ice or steels for him through my show, like Paperless Post and numerous others. And I I worked at an asset management company just after college, but I just didn't think that I could go directly into that career because I didn't see any women around me. And so I saw my Aunt Polly and they say, you can be what you can see. And my aunt was this very successful actress. And, you know, it's sort of funny, but I thought, oh, as an eight year old child, like, that's what a traditional job for a woman, you know, because she's something and I'm very close to and that's what she does. And she was on the show called 30 Something in the 80s that was really popular. It's coming back on Netflix, actually. Shameless plug. And she I just idolized her. So I went into entertainment and I, I went to UCLA. I studied theater, film and television. And I my dad was always kind of in the back of my head saying, Harvey can make this a business. How is this a career? You know, he was supportive, but he was sort of like, you need to figure out how to make a living doing this. And it's a very difficult lifestyle. If, you know, she's like, it's rare that Polly had such a successful career and still has. And so I went to UCLA after UCLA was on and a glowing show was acting, was going to cattle calls. And I very quickly was like, OK, I love and respect to this profession, but I go to these cattle calls and there's a thousand girls who look just like me and are probably much more talented. And my heart is really good with this world of technology. And so I kind of combined my two passions and I basically said, OK, I have a third season of this Nickelodeon show and then I have a six month hiatus. And instead of auditioning this year, I'm going to go start a technology talk show. I've never seen one. I always thought these people should be idolized. And I say it's the first technology talk show. You know, people can kind of come at me and prove to me that there was one before. But I had the former CEO, Eric Schmidt, in two thousand eight on my show and no one cared. So I bet it was like one of the first in these like early, early days after two seasons of the show online. And, you know, you were alluding to asking about distribution, et cetera. You know, this was my own entrepreneurial print, unreal journey. It was like early days of digital distribution. No one knew what they were doing. It was a complete disaster to get your content out there. And I was looking for eyeballs, but because I was on a no gloating show on Nickelodeon, was owned by Viacom. And I anytime and Viacom was in a lawsuit with YouTube. And so anytime I put something up on YouTube, it would be taken down because my identity was owned at that time by Nickelodeon, essentially like my IP. It was this weird thing that everyone was still figuring out. So I didn't really focus on YouTube, but I was like, where else can I find eyeballs? And so I ended up working with Forbes, Mashable, numerous others, and we created content. I was one of the first shows to do a deal with all those airports and hotels. Now it's much more normal, but we were getting millions and millions of users through those. And I was just it was this really discombobulated situation. After two seasons of the show, we then took it to television, were ultimately nominated for an Emmy, but also after two seasons of the show. So we did a total of. Seasons, sorry, I feel like I'm all over the place today. The world is in shambles. That's right. I'm sure it would be bad not to even address that. These are horrible. I mean, these wonderful protests are going on. But just like there's so much horror in the world right now in the last word of all these problems. So so basically, I sat through the show after two seasons of interviewing incredible men in technology. I was like, this is still the problem. There's a huge problem here. Like, I just didn't viewed men in technology for two seasons. I didn't think I could go into technology because I didn't see any women. And I need to change this. So I made an initiative to interview 50 percent women in technology on the show. And this was like. Long enough ago that it was impossible to get the Meg Whitman's of the world. It is so difficult because they did not want to put themselves out there. This was like a generation of women who were like, I'm not going to help you. I had to fight so hard to get to where I am. And I was dying for mentors. I was dying for advisers. And I just got shot down and shot down again. And I'm forever grateful to the women of fashion technology because once that started booming a little bit, it was Jen Hyman from Rent the Runway. She came on my show. That made it OK for Rebecca Minkoff to come on my show. That made it okay for the guilt girls to come on my show. And that made it OK for Sheryl Sandberg to come on my show before she'd written Lean In, before she had really gotten out there. She was a new CEO at Facebook and that changed my life. I got all of a sudden it was like celebrities and Jessica Alba and the CTO of the United States of America and like really put me on the map. And it was a fun, silly talk show. Very different than most technology talk shows. But I started doing this like Rock in Women series. And I look back to that first Rock and Women series. It was so cool. It was Sheryl Sandberg. It was this woman, Beth Cross, who started area. If anyone is a horseback rider, that's like the biggest horseback riding brand. It was really a heart. So I'm still pretty close with from Eventbrite, which has now gone public, like looking at these women, just like me chills. And that was the beginning of this journey that I was just striving for more for women. I grew up again in this family of investors, and I knew what a good deal looks like. And I was sending my dad all these deals because they pitched the show as a technology company. And I'd say you're too early for the show, but maybe you should go talk to some investors. I know. And then I was like, I can do this. I don't have any money, but I can do this. And so I, I started seeing some deals. I'd say you're a little early for the show. Love what you're doing. Can I write you a Penneys check? A thousand dollars, a thousand dollars, whatever I could afford at the time. Sometimes I would negotiate sweat equity and get some advisory shares and, you know, help them with PR and media exposure. And I created this nice little track record. I'm one of those companies I sold for a twenty five X return in less than 18 months on the secondary market. And that was like just a huge moment for me where I realized. The show was going OK. I was barely breaking even. Media is still pretty broken, although everyone's eyes are on online. So this is it's booming right now. But I was like, there's something wrong. I've never been on television. I've been online. No one knows how to make this a really profitable business unless you're selling tons of swag. And we were too, you know, early to, like, have that brand recognition. And so we. So I just sort of put the show on pause. I had to be I got married, had a baby simultaneously while raising my first fund. So I used the track record from those little angel investments I'd made to raise fund one. I pitched five hundred investors, closed, maybe 50 of them. And the first people I went to were these people I had created relationships with through my talk show. And so Alexis, moving from Gilt Group was one of my first investors, you know, and I got this nice group of people who had watched and gotten to know me through my sort of media channel. And that was how I began to build my network in terms of raising capital. We're now on our second fund and we've invested in 62 companies, all female founded. There has to be a female on the founding team of five. We've had about six exits to date. Two were one hundred for one hundred million dollars. And that's still pretty early in terms of our trajectory. And I just want to keep thinking about investing in women as an opportunity. A lot of women are going out and saying, oh, poor me, I'm a woman. Invest in me. This is an opportunity. This is not a charity case. Investing in women is not charity. You are going to make a lot of money. Women raise half as much capital. They double the return. And and so that's where proving that out day by day. I'm also really proud of the fact that because I went off of I live in L.A., we I went off of the traditional Silicon Valley Road, which I literally grew up on and totally love and respect. But again, there was no gender diversity whatsoever. And I'm I put out this. We are investing in women. And it was like this bat signal. This magnet for thousands of female deals because women are looking for women investors is they're starting companies that often men don't relate to. And you need we need men. There's not a man hating club we need, especially because they control the majority. But we really need people to invest in more women. And so I started thinking about, oh, wow, we're getting all these women from all over and we're investing in the best deals and completely just that was our beginning strategy. And we have over 60 percent minority led companies because we were looking for the best. And I'm so proud of that, especially today, because it is so important to we always say, you know, invest in diversity. We invest in diversity of gender, race and age. And I think that diversity breeds success. And it's really important to give everybody a shot. We are we're very easy to get a hold of. You can hit me up through the website. You can, you know, purchase through the website. You can find me on Instagram. I'm taking pitches through Instagram at Jessee. See Draper dot com. Jessica Draper from all over the place today. Goodness, Patricia. But I'm I at. But we take pitches everywhere because I never want people to feel like you have to have an introduction to me. I think it's really important that everyone has a shot and we might miss out on the next, you know, Uber or something even better if we don't look at every deal we possibly can. And so anyway, that is my that's how I got here.
[00:18:24] Now you're here.
[00:18:26] I well, I think it's interesting when you talk about the culture of, you know, you can see we can get into the statistics that everyone's heard a million times over about the consumer dollars and the power that women and women identified non binary.
[00:18:38] Those communities have in what they're spending and how they're not taking advantage over that power and things like that. But you and I were talking off the record before we started filming about this kind of I was kind of baptized into the concept a little bit too late for my comfort. But this concept of the lifecycle of the female entrepreneur and founder and how the matriculation should naturally turn into when I say female, I mean female identified non-binding as well. Pretty much anyone other than the white man. It's kind of been represented and spoken about as 50 years. Not that I don't care about them, I just don't. Not speaking to them right now. The responsibility that they have in the life cycle about eventually matriculating all the way through and becoming investors themselves and becoming, you know, part of this like giving back into that system where they invest in. Melinda Gates has talked recently on a very open platform. Is this being one of her major issues and concerns as of late? And I think that it's so important to kind of unpack that. And one of the most interesting things, we have all these correlations and nothing is causation and a member never claiming that. But there are these correlate of values. When you say, you know, we were just looking for the best and we wanted it to be female or some kind of woman involved in the original founding of it and to have it all of this and also be represented and, you know, minority representations in populations as well as just it's proof, as you're saying, diversification works and it drives. And, you know, there's a lot of different. I come from a huge psychology and sociology background. So a large part of me wants to pass out like who? It's because those people fought harder. It's because they were more used to hearing those because they had to do that. And then if that is neither here nor there and it's again, it's all correlation. But I do think that there is truth in that and people can talk about it all day long. But until you put your effort and your money down as you have, the change is not yet happening. And I think that there's been a lot of discourse in the communities that I have spoken with in women investors and ventures and things of that nature where there's still a lot of chat. There was a lot of hyper conversation about the Metoo movement, you know, and how people were terrified that it was just going to go away, it was going to get all this publication, were going to take down a whole bunch of horrible abusers. And then it was just going to kind of go back to business as usual.
[00:20:49] There wasn't gonna be any law, there wasn't gonna be any change and things like that. And I think the same thing is true with investment.
[00:20:55] And I'm looking at changing the seat at the table, as Gates said, you know, putting the change out there is your your fund has been and talking about it, I think is a crucial part of the process because we can all have these summits and discuss things as women and female identified individuals. But until we start putting those things into motion, it won't change for our children's generation. And that's my goal. You know, mine is is happening right now and playing out well. But my daughters need to come up in a different world where they see people looking like us and female identified individuals at the table, because when I was coming up, I didn't see nary one female in tech until Oriana with Huff Post, like I did not I did not know of one.
[00:21:37] And I hung out with nerds from Atari days up like I was kicking it with with the kids that were playing it, then programing the games, then in their parents garage. And it was always meant and, you know, it was usually always white men. And so even from the visual aspect of the archetype that I saw in person and on TV, you were saying your daughters are clearly going to be fine.
[00:21:59] I'm glad you're even thinking about that. I mean, one of my biggest frustrations, running a fund that focuses on women is that. Fund one. I went out and thought, oh, I'm going to go meet with the female billionaires and all the women investors I can find. And, you know, I'm not saying I sat down with every female billionaire, but quite a few. And what I found is women are more comfortable writing a multimillion dollar check to charity than investing in a fund. And I started asking why. Why are you bragging to me about how you wrote a three million dollar check to that charity you believe in? And why have I had six meetings with you and it's taking you so long to get across the table here. And, you know, they say, well, I don't know that much about venture capital. I prefer if you talk to my husband and it's like meeting six, I now have this rule that after three meetings, you know, you know, if they're in, you know. And I'm like, OK, well, let's meet with your husband, you know, and usually the husband's game. And it's it's fascinating to me. But we started a dinner series. Now you'll have to come to one. And now it's very easy because they're all in to where I was really frustrated that women are not taking enough risk with their capital. And so, anyway, fund, you know, my investors overall are the majority are male. It's probably 60 percent male to female. And that's what's frustrating for me. I, I would love to have, you know, much larger female investor base because of what we're doing. But again, I do love men. I was raised by incredible men. I just got and men control the majority of the capital that we needed changing at those levels. We need it. I walked into a workers comp fund somewhere in the middle of the country and I was like laughed at, like the coffee came out of this guy's mouth. And he's like, I can't believe that you're investing in women. And why would we invest in this fund? You only invest in women. And I was like, OK, well, I guess, OK, I just went back and. So here's why it's a great investment. They raise half as much capital. They double the return. Here's all the data. And I was so grateful because about halfway through that meeting, one of the associates came in and it was a younger guy. And he said, oh, my wife uses that company. And, oh, yeah, I've heard of that one, too. And so I do see it changing. But we need more women in those conversations because these are the pension funds and the did partner investors who invest in capital, in women and make those giant endowments. Those are all run by men. And now they're hiring, you know, a few more women. But we need more women investors. We need more women to understand investing and try. Like, the more you try, you know, big risk equals big reward. Buy some stock. Go on, Robinhood. You like Starbucks? Go buy some Starbucks. That's a public stock. You know, Bitcoin, too, is like one to 17 in terms of female to male. And that is a huge opportunity as well. Like what is Bitcoin? I'm sure everyone's thinking right now on this. Like, go figure it out. You don't have to buy a whole Bitcoin. You can buy a little piece of a Bitcoin. But I think women need to be playing in these circles and taking this risk with their capital. And it makes you feel more comfortable the more you're exposed to it. So I always say like to the men, you know. Bring your sisters, your daughters, your mothers into these conversations, your wives, champion women and wives and significant others should be in every single conversation with your financial manager. I don't care if you don't understand it. Sit there. You will understand it. After you go to a few of these meetings and we'll learn more and you can ask questions about why you're invested in that or what it means to be invested in a real estate fund or whatever it may be. So I just say, like, expose yourself, take more risk with your capital and talk about money. I mean, my friends clam up when I'm like, hey, you guys want to talk about, like, what you're investing in right now. And it's like it's like the air is sucked out of the room. You know, that some people work in finance and it just blows my mind that they don't own any stock. And so I really believe women need to build their pool of capital, build their own family offices, and also know as a woman that you have you own 50 percent of your you know, however, the wealth was created. If your husband worked and you stayed home, you own 50 percent of that. You can decide where that goes. And so I think women just clearly I'm on my soapbox now, but they need to take more risk.
[00:27:02] Yeah. And I think risk aversion is one of the things that, like you were saying, like we need to matriculate out of the next generation coming up.
[00:27:11] You know, it feels like it was baked in and finding out those levels. I think it's bred any kind of a version for me is always bred through ignorance. Right. Anytime you have an exposure, like you're saying, just go along, go to the meeting, become exposed. Make those terms start washing over you. They become very un mystified. Once you hear them enough and you put in the sign value to them those kinds of things, I think that integrating into the high school measurements, you know, young women leaving high school should understand the stock market. And I can promise you about zero point two percent of my entire graduating class from high school, including and the women will probably point zero zero one percent understood or even grasp that the tenants of the stock market, let alone how to how to garner them, you know, and then you say people clam up like even people who are in finance and things of that nature. I do. I think it's based out of fear. Because I think it's fascinating to talk about, especially the areas I don't know of airline ticket until I climb through, but I don't have this kind of like fear based reluctance towards it. And I believe that education is the great equalizer. And so I think that encouraging young women who I run into a lot of artistic circles and encouraging artists like that, that does not give you a get out of jail free card from understanding the ins and outs of the American banking system.
[00:28:29] What are you talking about? We all function in this society, you know, and understanding the tenants, the core tenants of an axiomatic values of some of those are imperative to breaking down the gender bias.
[00:28:41] Yeah, it is interesting, having come from the acting career where you make a large you know, I'm just thinking of artists because I've learned a lot about them, especially through being a venture capitalist. We have a lot of celebrity investors in my fund. And it's interesting, when I pitch a potential investor and they happen to be a celebrity and you fall in two buckets, like either one is like the celebrity who made a chunk of change and spent it. And every time they make a chunk of change, they spend it. And then there's the celebrity who is like, I, I know I need to save this. And I am going to learn a little about investing. I am going to find a financial manager. And those are the like, you know, all the biggest celebrities, you know, who've had these like careers of longevity, who are able to then invest in their own pieces of artwork and produce their own movies because they then have the capital to do that. And so I find it's this sort of like up and down thing in terms of how artists invest. And yeah, it's I do know a lot of artists as well who just kind of check out and it's like, no, you will have. You'll have more flexibility in your career, too. Like investing is for everyone. It's not. And you don't have to have millions of dollars to invest. You can go buy a stock for, you know, 20 to 50 to 100 dollars, whatever you feel like putting aside. And I always like to talk about that. There was this Fidelity study done where they studied Fidelity, did this big study and said who made the most money in the stock market? And it was the people who forgot that they were invested in the stock market. So I like to think I like to tell people that so that you can think about how to invest. Don't get hung up. If the market goes up and down, just hold on. You're in your 20s to thirties when you like, you know, most people don't have any cash. They're just starting to try and build their careers, et cetera. Just every once in a while to go put some put some cash in the stock market. Fifty dollars, hundred dollars, whatever you read about some stock, you know, that seemed interesting to you or you believe that, you know, whatever some sort of like you buy some PMG because everyone's scrambling for toilet paper or whatever it is like. Just think about a reason why you might buy that stock because you believe in that company. And then just leave it there, leave it there, watch it grow, and then you take it out as needed. But I think that that's how you should think about investing in the stock market.
[00:31:26] Absolutely. I want to pivot a little bit before we end up rapping because I have my own personal demands from this podcast. And one of them is to pick your brain on my head. The area that is is kind of near and dear to me. And I kind of want to unpack a little bit of what you did on the Valley Girl show because of when it was started. And we got this little preview of you were talking about like nobody was doing it. And it was this weird monopoly between being pulled down off YouTube and all of these different things. I'm curious, when you went to curate, were you the sole curator of your interview? Questions and research? And when you went to speak to these people, where did you draw your inquiry's from? Did you have this written script? Did you look at everything that you guys were garnering about them and think, I'm going to ask them this, this and this? Like, how did you kind of choose you interviewed Elon Musk. You interviewed a lot of like it wasn't just what you got into the flow was like early.
[00:32:21] And they were all such early stage startups. And Elon Musk, I think, and I both probably feel like that is an interview we wish didn't still exist.
[00:32:32] That's what it is.
[00:32:34] I don't know. He was very cool. It was probably one of his first press interviews. No one had even heard.
[00:32:39] Yeah. He looks like a babe in the woods on. Yeah, that I did. Watch that one. Yeah. Jessica Alba too. I was telling you, I was like. She looks good. Then I was like, well, she always looks good. But then I realized it was a little bit older. But I'm curious, how did you kind of curate your interview question process and who did the editing? Did you have any handle in how the editing and production was done or were you simply the host?
[00:33:03] Such good questions. So season one, I, I went to my Nickelodeon show and then filmed it on a hiatus out of my parents garage. It was a disaster. I hired my brothers were much younger than me and duct taped lamps to the wall. It was such a mess. I knew these sort of editor guys from high school who helped me out and put together those first episodes, which I just cringe thinking about. And then after that, I went back to the Nickelodeon show and I I am so grateful because like Alby Hecht, who's now runs HLN, the Ajoy Network. But I basically said to him, I said, hey, can I sit in on production meetings? Like, I don't know how to run a show, it turns out. And he was so nice. He just kind of was like, yeah, sure. So I went in and I learned about, you know, the production design and lighting and just how they thought about that. And then I started studying like The Ellen DeGeneres Show. I mean, she's still one of my idols forever. Like I would just say to me. And just what she did. And I liked that it was so positive. And then it sort of became this like we called it the Valley Girl because of Silicon Valley. But then it became this like a Valley Girl thing where everything turned pink and we just ran with it. It was a very pink talk show. But every season got a little better. So then I came back and I hired a small production team and they helped me film. And that's when I learned about, you know, like a multi camera shoot and how that worked, because on the Nickelodeon show, it's just a different style of filming. This is like, you know, I'd be like, how many cameras do I need? How. What's the least amount of cameras that I need? Yeah. I don't want to pay any more rent movies than I have to. And so we started a three camera shoot. And then every you know, once you create a really solid format and you know what you're doing in terms of format, then you can kind of branch out from there. And just thing came to fruition. Games that people liked to play, we continued to play. We just continue trying to get people to eat. Edible cockroaches like that did not go well, you know, like your true story. Like there were things that people freaked out. People are really scared of reptiles. It turns out I just was like this any fun anymore? We're not going to do nothing, but. So you you build upon that, so every season I'd come back with new sponsors or whatever and be like, OK, we can use a lot of the props and things from last season and just like put a nice shine over it, you know, and there are certain seasons that definitely stand out to me, especially once we got to television was just like a different level of production. But then we would you know, I remember we we got a jib, we borrowed someone jib, which is like sort of hanging camera so you can get that cool hanging shot has a tiny, tiny room. And it just made it. It like brought it to a whole nother level. We from the Nickelodeon show, there was a lot of music and I had one of the music guys helped me put together like a music thing is like a valley girl. Little funny sound. Intro song that we cut together some fun clips of the show on. And in terms of the questions, I mean. I'm sure you're asking also because as a talk show host, there is no books on this. Right. I read everything. There was like the art of the interview was like that wasn't helpful. Hi. You know, there's really no books on it. And what I would say, having done thousands of interviews and and also been interviewed thousands of times. I really appreciate that you do your research. I think that says everything.
[00:37:03] I'll never forget this one interview I had on Fox Business and. We were on camera when I realized she had not done an ounce of research. And sometimes those shows move fast. So we give everyone the benefit of the doubt. But it's like, you know my name. Know what I'm doing.
[00:37:19] Like, know why I'm here? And it's fine in those situations. If you ever are being interviewed, you should just know that as soon people have no idea and just kind of interrupt and like, give them your whole spiel. But I really appreciate people doing the research. I did just we would book and we would film like, you know, a whole season in a week or two and I would do up to five interviews a day. I don't know how I did that in my early 20s. Like, I now think about that. There was I did some international interviews, too, at conferences and stuff. And I remember there was one day I did eight interviews and I was like, I can't do that again, because you're right, you're on camera. People expect a lot of you. You need to be on point. But yeah. So the first probably Four Seasons, I wrote all the questions myself. Of course, I would get input. I would ask PR. I work with the PR teams. I would always try to get different things so like that no one had talked about. So like with Sheryl Sandberg, I found this weird tidbit online somewhere that she had formerly been an eighties workout instructor. And I saw it and I apparently had I broke that piece of news. And if you watched that episode, she is shocked. She's like, I don't know how you bounce. And I was then quoted like three times in The Wall Street Journal or the show was that was the moment I sort of like, wow, this is crazy. It's like according to the Valley Girl show, you know, Sheryl Sandberg used to be a workout instructor. And I think you want to find those tidbits. And for me, I didn't want the PR fight a version. We would interview these CEOs who had been trained and trained and trained. And I would go in with a bunch of questions and know what I wanted out of the interview. And in the beginning, if you watched those first episodes, you know, I mean, they really haunt me because I didn't know how to do an interview. I just write a whole bunch of questions. Then I started being like, OK, these are topics. And here's the questions I'd like to ask under every topic. And then also, can I make it funny? And so, you know, it evolved like anything. No one's good at it the first time or the second or the third time. But I worked really hard on those interviews, especially at the end and then when we were on.
[00:39:37] We were on Fox in local Fox and appearance's go in and we were poached by. CBS CapEx in San Francisco. And when that happened, I was working 24/7 around the clock. The stories I could tell you from that season. I had moved the show to L.A. and then we would have to turn it around and get it to San Francisco. We would have to close caption it. I was not sleeping. I was newly married, had a baby and was contemplating raising this fund. And I my husband finally sat me down and was like, so this is not humanly sustainable. Yeah, you can't actually do this. But that was when I brought on a writer just to help me with, like monologues because the format had changed a little bit and I couldn't turn around these episodes in time. And the writer who I brought on her name is Liz Hanah, and she is currently b hottest like writer in Hollywood. After she wrote the Valley Girl show, she'd probably like, please never talk about this again. She's after her. She wrote the Valley Girl show. She wrote the Post with Meryl Streep. And so now she's written The Long Shot. She's on every cool show coming out as a writer. She's just she's awesome. And I am so excited to continue to watch her career. But she was funny and she did a really good job coming up with some jokes. And you need other people in there, too.
[00:41:00] At a certain point to just get all of the work done. But I really did. Ultimately, if you're an interview host, you're the one saying it at the end of the day. So if someone else is writing your questions for you and you should think about this in terms of moderating panels or giving presentations, like if someone tells you to say something that you don't feel comfortable with, you're representing yourself. So never say that.
[00:41:23] So we had not with necessarily with Liz, but there were situations where someone would say, oh, you have to ask them about that or you just need to go with what you feel comfortable with. And those were the lessons I learned. Mainly like those are more of like public interviews. When you do it in front of a large audience or what have you.
[00:41:42] Yeah. So I did all the writing for the most part until it came on and I did an extreme amount of research. And then also just how do I come up with an idea like I mean, some things worked and some things didn't because I was trying to make technology approachable. And at that time, it wasn't. It was. People just didn't get it. They didn't understand hardware. They didn't understand software. And so I tried to make crazy analogies. I remember we had these, like, equal guys on one time.
[00:42:13] They were running this company called Equal Field. I filled like a wagon with sugar, like equal like the steps, the sugar steps to sarco.
[00:42:23] It's not even funny when I'm telling you about it, but there are things like that were it was just it was fun to come up with and we would come up with just crazy games. And some people still bring up the Fab Cup to me, which was basically just like a rapid fire questions game. And I think we ultimately at the end call it rapid fire questions. But in the beginning we called it the fluff cut because it was this fluffy bucket. And then I learned that that was like a porn term. And so you just I mean, yeah, like I could tell you all day, but yes, I, I had my hands on everything. I thought I had to be the last person to really work with the interviews, even when Liz came on. Yeah. I just needed to know these people through and through and really figure out what made them tick. And if I didn't feel like I had enough information, I'd like reach out to their assistant or I would just be like, give me something. Give me some, like, fun fact. Like, I don't know, you know, I don't know anything about this. Yeah.
[00:43:24] And it does. And it differentiates. I mean. Well, back when you were doing it, as well as social media, I feel like I can find any little skeleton. I need to know if I'm looking for something.
[00:43:34] But back in that point, it is I think there was a lot of like old school reach out to even just five years ago. It was just a different game.
[00:43:42] And I think it's it's awesome because it's still the Wild West. But I also think I did a podcast recently where I was interviewed about I've started, you know, five podcasts over the past two years. And people are asking me about, like, you know, you seem to have this down. And and I'm a very organized individual. I get very creative in my organized space, you know?
[00:44:02] And so I have these these ledgers, which is why I tend to redo systems that I have. But I it's actually a pet peeve of mine. And I used to think it was because I'm a nerd. I love academia. You know, I always did. I have a master's degree in art history, which just means I like to go to lectures. That's pretty much it. You know, I like to just go and sit around those people and talk and and and essentially my issue with podcasting is not that it's the Wild West, that there's all this like anyone is doing anything. It's that the lack of structure. Like I just a lot of times if someone had pulled up a podcast that it was two hours and ten minutes and I was like, girl, you are asking it from me, but I will give it to you. I will give that to you. But I for the first 10 minutes, the host didn't tell me anything about what I was expected to hear. Whether or not there was gonna be more than one or two guests, like I couldn't figure out the format. Was she going to start reading her diary? What was going to happen there? You know, and I'm down with a lot, so I just. But there was no forecasting. And then when she did get her first guest on, I had realized very, very quickly that she didn't even know she hadn't even spoken prior to hitting record, like she didn't know how to pronounce one's name, let alone anything more than a bio that she had scrubbed off line. And I saw in the interview, I keep telling people, you know, I think that there is a slight onus for anybody who's going to get online and interview someone else that you you should do research. And how much that is, is however much time you have or how much you want to invest in it. But as someone put forth some kind of a structure and research, otherwise, let's not call it a podcast. Let's call it your daily musings. My twelve year old has a podcast. It's got more structure than 90 percent of what I find, you know, and maybe that's because she doesn't want to upset me in here. What you're hearing right now. But I think that there is a responsibility to start passing things out and it will probably come, like you said, with your show, eventually you start to find a beautiful narrative. But I do think that podcasts lack research and structure, and it is kind of daunting, especially to be interviewed when you go on someone's show and they're like, so what is it you do?
[00:46:07] Why am I? Did you find my name in the White Pages? How is this happening?
[00:46:12] You know, I completely agree. And people like being able to depend on something. You know, you get like that carpool karaoke show and it's a very simple format thing. Carpool karaoke in the car. And people love it, you know, hook off with a happy show. Very simple to follow. And I think people. Yeah, I think you're you're completely spot on that people need that structure. And I was actually thinking when you in the beginning, when you're like, this is what we're going to talk about. There's that like sort of like just a good general format to go by is tell what you're gonna tell him, tell him and tell him what you told him. And it's like a very simple format for any show and any research paper.
[00:47:02] It's the perfect paragraph.
[00:47:04] I'm bummed we have to wrap up, but I want to turn now towards goals that you have for the next one to three years. And it's important. I will not ever omit or dodge the current contemporary times. And you were alluding to earlier. So not only are we in the midst of the Cauvin 19 pandemic, how we are also in the midst of the tragedy, the pre cursing and post khaja and that tragedy with George Floyds murder and some of the riots that have happened.
[00:47:31] I'm in San Diego. You're in L.A. There has been a great deal of unsettling and disease with American society. And I'm an optimist. I believe that we're going to come out of this better. I hope for the sake of honoring George and as well as the entire community that he is representing, you know that we can do that. But I'm wondering with your company and your your goals reaching forward with both of those two things kind of compounding and coming into our reality, has it shifted or transformed your goals for the next one to three years or have they stayed the course? Have you doubled down? How does anything look for you? I mean, for all of your endeavors, you know, but for halogen in particular.
[00:48:15] I mean, yeah, like our goals changed at the beginning of Cauvin. And I am I'm devastated about what's going on and I'm uncertain about what's going to happen. Now, we may have to completely transform our goals again. You know, we invest in early stage companies and sometimes there's three people with an idea in a room. It's the riskiest asset class, which is why we do 30 deals per portfolio. And, you know, but it hedges in terms of like if you're an angel investor and you invest in a one off deal right now, it's probably not a good time to invest in a one off deal because, you know, at that stage, it's very likely that I'll go under. They say you need to do 10 deals in order to really see some payoff. And so I feel like our strategy has worked thus far where we invest in these early stage companies. We do 30 deals per portfolio, but week one of co bid. When you deal with early stage companies, you're getting the calls first because we move faster, our companies move faster because they're smaller. So we're hearing 60 percent hits to revenue, 90 percent hits to revenue depending on the business. And so we had two in one week talk to all 62 of our founders. We just called them, got a hold of them and ah, one hundred and fifty item checklist for diligence. Quickly transformed into three things. Yeah. And. Does this company have run or cash through January because we don't know how long this is going to last, too? Based on our experience, you know, pretty quickly, like in a year or two, if a founder can perform, and that's something to keep in mind for founders out there thinking about taking on investment, like prove yourself follow through, especially in the first year or two, because your investors won't give you more money if they feel like you didn't follow through in those first couple of years. So we say based on our experience with these founders, can they execute and take this thing all the way regardless? And then the third thing was, is this business covered, sustainable and beyond? And so while we were about to invest in three new very risky deals that we didn't have experience with the founders, I basically said I put those on hold, which was devastating for the founders.
[00:50:40] And I said, hey, I'm not saying we're not going to we just need to go check out our current portfolio. And then we chose our top performing performing deals. We doubled down on those. And then we were we're early stage fund. We don't have billions of dollars to invest. You know, call me in 10 years. And that's definitely one of my goals. But we're still growing. So we have to be really, really thoughtful, as you always should with your capital. But we we tried to support every founder in every in some way. So we invested in some we hosted a pitch day for some and our our investors invested in some of those. We put together a whole list of resources from debt opportunities to credit lines to banks they could talk to. We had someone tracking the SBA loan, which changes still sort of daily. And we also, like, offered everyone a free hour of PR and other business services just to support whatever they needed.
[00:51:45] My team, Alexis and Ashley from my team, actually one of our companies was growing so fast. So some companies are doing really well. We have this company called Pride. That's like it's like a teenage zoom zoom call. So they're obviously taking off. And they were taking off a little before, but they were growing so quickly that Alexa and Ashley kind of took over their marketing arm for a minute. And now we've helped them put some people in place there. So we were actually helping operate some companies, doing whatever we possibly could. So in terms of goals, we're still hashing those out. But what I'm really proud of is that we put together those goals in one week and we've already executed the plan.
[00:52:27] And that's in two months. We've, you know, invested capital into our best performers and we've supported everybody else to the extent we can. And we continue to do that. And it was not our normal plan at all.
[00:52:42] I do hope, you know, down the road we're on our second fund. I do hope, you know, we raised fund three. We raised fund for and they continue to grow and we continue to grow our team because we're still a startup as well.
[00:52:56] I hope that investing in women is seen more as an opportunity. And I hope we hope that we can help prove that we already are a little with our data that we're collecting on our founders and female founders in general. And and then also just, you know, goals for the world. I hope everyone sees diversity as just an asset to every single business. That's something we're constantly thinking about. So, yes. So that's that's what I would say in terms of our goals. But setting goals is pretty important.
[00:53:28] Yeah. And way to pivot Scullin's 60 companies in one week into transitioning all of that over.
[00:53:33] I mean, do we have a team that all of it. Yes, it was a lot.
[00:53:36] It was I would not want to stare that down on that Monday, and that would be a little bit less. It's a several it's like a whole new cappuccino machine. That's not coffee. I measure everything in coffee cups or especial shots. That's like a machine has a whole nother purchase. That's your own personal barista.
[00:53:53] I'm wondering. So this is my final question. It's my favorite part. And everyone knows who's been listening to me for the past couple of years. But I'm wondering if you walked up to someone in office, a safe social distance or they approached you sometime this week and it was a young woman or a female identified or non binary individual. And they said, listen, Jesse, I'm so glad I caught you. I just finished up learning the entire ins and outs of the film industry. I went to UCLA. I got everything done by buttoned up. I know all bit about it. I've gone to a ton of auditions and I have film industry experience and I've decided I'm going to keep all of that. And I'm also going to pivot now and going to starting my own investment fund and come from a family that's got some background there. But yeah, I'm just going to like, you know, bootstrap it and get going. One of the top three pieces of advice you would give that individual knowing what you know today.
[00:54:49] I would say go for it. I really think especially women, we need more female investors across the board. I would say baby steps just go one step at a time. There are mountains and mountains to climb. And then this goes for fundraising across the board, whether you're fund raising for a fund or for a business, because most people don't have a million dollars to do starting a business in their back pocket. In fact, the majority does. So they typically go raise money. I, I am sort of frustrated when women in particular come to me and say, well, everyone said, no, no one will invest in my company. And I say, OK, well, how many people have you talked to this l. Like, eight. OK, so that's not enough people. I talked to five hundred for my first fund. No joke. And you should plan on going out and talking to at least one hundred. If in 20 meetings you are hearing no's still go back to some of those people and say, hey, like what was the issue here? And it may be such a simple. Fix that, you could, like, throw a slide into your deck that addresses it. And it's no longer an issue. It could be something you haven't thought of before. But definitely listen in those situations. If you plan on going out and having 100 meetings, you'll raise it. You'll raise your your capital, whatever the number is. Just don't get weighed down by the nose. There's going to be a lot of that. And that's in any profession. But somehow it feels very personal when you're raising money and don't look at it that way. Look at it like I kind of talk to these incredible people. And then when they don't invest, say, can you tell me why? And usually shoots, like, has nothing to do with you. It's like, well, actually, like, most of my money is tied up right now, so I don't have any cash to invest. It's like, OK, well that's simple and it has nothing to do with my business or like we already invested too in too many consumer focused funds. And I'm like, oh, OK, I get that. They're trying to diversify their portfolio. I'll go back to their next fund. So I'd just say get through the nose and plan on having a hundred meetings.
[00:57:05] Nice. That's good. And I think you're being realistic, too. That's the scary part. And it's good. It's good to say those things.
[00:57:12] I think people can do at least 40 or you're like 100, 100.
[00:57:17] It'll probably be less so like that.
[00:57:20] Yeah. There's something probably vitally wrong with what you're doing if it's if it's 100 and all knows. But I think that's right.
[00:57:26] That's kind of the attitude of just go until, you know, there's the Hollywood formula. It's not about like, you know, quick breaks and stuff like that. It's like seven years where there's a mathematician that broke down. How long if you audition? Three to four times a week in Hollywood, it takes to make a big role, a main leading role.
[00:57:43] It's like an over. It takes 10 years to have an overnight success.
[00:57:47] Yeah. Exactly. And then it's like everyone's like, oh, they just got here and you're like, no, I've been holding it down a thousand percent. Okay, so I've got go for it baby steps and plan on talking to one hundred people and don't get weighed down by the nose. Just adjust as you go. Those are perfect. I love that Jesse. It went by too quickly. I'm going to have to have you back on. This was fascinating.
[00:58:12] This was so fun. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. And I'm glad you're, you know, showcasing all of these incredible women because we need more people doing that.
[00:58:20] Awesome. Yes. Thank you. I appreciate that. And for everyone listening, I appreciate you. We've been speaking with Dressy--- Jesse Draper. She's the founder of Halogen Ventures and the host and creator of the Emmy nominated The Valley Girl Show.
[00:58:35] You can find out more about Jesse and her team and her fund on Halogen vc dot com.
[00:58:42] I appreciate all of you listening. I appreciate your time. And until we speak again next time, remember to stay in love with the world and always bet on yourself. Slaínte.
Thursday Jul 23, 2020
Talking with Eve Rodsky; New York Times Best Selling Author
Thursday Jul 23, 2020
Thursday Jul 23, 2020
Today I am talking with New York Times Best Selling Author Eve Rodky. In her New York Times bestselling book Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live), Eve Rodsky applies her expertise in organizational management to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home
Social media handles Twitter: @eve_rodsky Instagram + Facebook: @everodsky
This podcast series is hosted by Patricia Kathleen and Wilde Agency Media. This series is a platform for women, female-identified, & non-binary individuals to share their professional stories and personal narrative as it relates to their story. This podcast is designed to hold a space for all individuals to learn from their counterparts regardless of age, status, or industry.